my sister is too young to be a maid of honor

I have 2 younger sisters, there's a 7 & 9 year gap between us respectively. even though i'm not super close with them they were still BMs. but it's your wedding so you do what ya gotta do. but if you have 1 sister in the bridal party then ya should probably have all. just sayin'. again, your wedding. GL! :-)

Yeah, i wish i could have the others, but they are MUCH too young. I am 24 and my youngest sibling is 7

I have 7 brothers and sisters total... so they cannot all be in my wedding

Well...What do you really want? If you are having your sister be a BM just because you feel she is too young I say make her the MOH. A good friend of mine had his 16 year old brother as his best man then a good friend signed for the witness papers as in my state witnesses are required to be 18 years old. Ofc, I am guessing the too young is the witness stuff.

I hope I helped!

It's up to you who you make your maid of honor and your bridesmaids but it's hard to anwer the question of if she is old enough with out knowing how old your sister actually is. You said 8 years younger than you, but how old are you? My maid of honor is my little sister from big brothers big sisters and she is 18 years old and doing a great job. I was my mother's maid of honor when she remarried and I was 19 at the time. I think its a matter of who you want there with you, not what your mom wants. The maid of honor has a lot of duties but if she had a matron of honor or two to help her out, I think she could handle it. Again, up to you. You don't want to have more maid/matrons of honor than you do bridesmaids, either, as it's supposed to be a special honor.

Whoops, you got the age info in there while I was typing. I think a 16 year old could handle it, especially if she has a matron of honor to help out. Will she be 17 soon? I wish I had a biological sister to stand with me, you are lucky to have a sister that wants to be part of it. Good luck making your decision.

Well, For me it is a toss up between all three of them. My Best friend, Sister-in-Law to be, and my little sister. I am so much closer to my Future sister in law and best friend. Since I am so much older than my sister. We are half sisters. So have never been too close.

I think my sister is too young to be a maid of honor. She's going to be 17 at the wedding and I just don't think it's fair to a) put that much responsibility on a 16/17 year old and b) have another BM do all the work and give my sister the title.

Thats what i think shana!

You could always have them do other things at the wedding so they are "involved", like pass out programs as guests come in (if you're doing that, one of my friends did that). We are having a small wedding party with just a maid of honor and best man, and my brother and one of his brothers are still left so we are having them walk guests to their seats as they arrive to the ceremony. I know it's something small, but it is something to involve them.

Hey Kari-i agree with shana. its a lot of responsibilty to be a moh. can she handle planning the bridal shower and what about the bachelorette party, if theres alcohol involved she probably wouldnt be able to attend. and its also asking alot financially and most likely a 16 yr old would not be able to afford it. talk to your mom, explain these things and let her know that your sil and best friend are able to handle these things and just make your sis a bridesmaid.

It's ok if she like to and do it well,also it's up to you!!

I too have a large family (we are the black Brady Bunch) and only two of my siblings are in the wedding party. They are both younger than me (but we are all grown 30s - 40s) . Getting all of us on one accord will be a headache and I have a daughter and stepdaughter so we're keeping things small.

I am having my other brothers serve as ushers and my sisters will walk down wearing colors matching my peacock theme. They will enter escorted by the ushers as my mom would (just before the BMs) so it's almost like they are part of the wedding. (And if some of them can't make the wedding it won't be a major issue for)

It's a great way to show off my early family life while introducing my new family life.

Speaking of the girls. The SD will be 19 by the time we finally marry and a full fledged BM, and my daughter will either be a BM of Jr.BM (she will be 14 by then).

It's time to get creative and those who are willing to cooperate will be excited to be in your wedding some kind of way.

When my aunt was married, she picked her 2 sisters as bridesmaids (my mom and my aunt) and I was the maid of honor. I was a sophomore in highschool at the time- 16 years old and it wasn't a problem. Good luck!

The issue is that i really dont want her to be my moh

Honestly, I have no plans of making my sister a part of the bridal party. We get along "ok" but we're not very close, and she and FH do NOT get along.

So it's our decisions, weather they please all, or only us. My BFF is my MOH and my FSIL is a BM. Tough cookies to them all haha!

Give her a funky title of Jr. Maid of honor or something with a few extra duties.

Then Kari by all means don't assign her the title of MOH. If she's underage and not working a regular job she wouldn't work out as a MOH anyway. Can she manage a bridal shower? Bach party? Any type of stressful situation where cash needs to be on hand? That's what a MOH (I believe) is by today's standard. Jr. BM is fine. Tell moms to get over it or pay out the $XXXXX it will cost to put on the wedding. Sheesh! LOL

TeeDub4Evr... I'm going to have to disagree. its not all about the money.

Didn't read the above comments. But I'm the eldest of nine children. And the ONLY reasons my siblings weren't all in the BP is because only two of them could make it. my "oldest-younger" sibling is 22 and my "youngest-younger" sibling is 9. And I mean...if I could have had them all there, the eight of them plus SIL and GF would have been our BP. But I wasn't one of those brides who really cared about what everyone else was going to do for me just because I was getting married. I wasn't expecting any kind of bridal shower, and I didn't have a bachelorette party at all. So the amount of money my MOH did or didn't have played no part in my decision really. I just think that the spots of MOH/BM/B-man/GM should be reserved for those people who are closest to you and mean the most to you. In my case, my wonderous siblings. Not based on how many parties they're going to throw for you or how much they help financially.