My mother in law hates me

@Jennifer we can see that the wedding is over but people still give advice when it comes to situations like this so that they know how to handle it should a similar situation arise in the future. People may take it as us berating her but we're just trying to help.

@Beach I never said she did, I'm just saying she did nothing wrong. Maybe I should clarify...

OP should talk to MIL since there was no wrong doing between either parties...the guests were rude. I wouldn't let something like this ruin a relationship.

This is the most confusing post ever. The MIL invited TWO guest who rsvped 4, OP asked MIL to explain to her guest that they will not be able to accommodate extra guest due to space. MIL got upset and didn't want tell them and told her son that OP should do it even thought OP don't know them. MIL said some nasty things to her because of it and OP decided to just let the extras come because she didn't want to fight with her MIL.

OP I'd bite the bullet and talk to her. It's not her fault her guests added 2 additional people and it was an unfortunate/awkward situation for all involved. That being said this is your MIL and your future relationship with her is more important than semantics.

I appreciate the advice, I apologize for the post not being clear enough initially.

You were in the wrong to ask her to uninvite a guest.

She was NOT wrong to talk to her son about it - I assume your now husband knew what you asked her to do. She was not putting him "in the middle of your conversation" - you should never say anything to her you wouldn't say to him, in the same way that nothing she says to you should be kept from your DH.

She probably shouldn't have been nasty to you, but can you blame her? She was probably very frustrated.

It was very immature of her to ignore you at the wedding and since then. You're married to her son now. Has your DH talked to her since then?? I suggest you let it drop and just pretend like nothing happened. I also suggest you find a way to reach out to her soon, like sharing wedding photos. You both have let a silly situation blow out of proportion and you have to live with each other in each other's lives!

Your MIL sounds very very immature to me. She doesn't sounds like a confident woman either. My guess is that you intimidate her because you get to the point. What does H think about this?

She sounds like a real peach. I'd probably enjoy the silence and stay away from her - I'm an old bitch who has no patience for someone her age putting pressure on a newly married couple.....don't bad mouth her to H either. Focus on your marriage and let him worry about his mother. Chances are he's dealt with this kind of nonsense from her before.......

@annakay511 you obviously didnt read the comments. She didn't uninvite anyone, 2 guests rsvpd and added 2 uninvited guests to their party. OP asked mil to tell them they could not add guests because they're hear friends, but mil got mad and told ops husband that op needed to do it. Mil is immature but really didn't do anything wrong, op definitely didn't do anything wrong.

Wouldn't you have to uninvite people who received invitations from you I understand why she would be upset in the invitation was there an option for them to plus 1?

Ok after getting clarification -this is mil's guests that the op has never met or spoken to and they added on 2 extra people to the RSVP that were not on the invite. Op asks mil to contact them and tell them the 2 extras cant come. MIL freaks. I would have done the same thing, I don't know these people, they're her friends, I think it's her responsibility to straighten out the RSVP "misunderstanding" (it's not a misunderstand when people add guests on, it's deliberate and it's rude, but we pretend there must be some confusion, but I digress). The question is was op rude to MIL about this? Or is MIL a drama queen? We will never know. Either way, if you want to be a bigger person and mend fences, reach out to her and apologize about the whole situation, regardless of whose right or wrong.

NO HIDING!!! Others can benefit from this exchange! Edit original post for clarity please!!!

My husband agrees with me in my response to her prior to the wedding regarding the added rsvp's. Our wedding was about us spending the day celebrating with the people we love. It wasn't about her friends that we've never met. He was also angry with how she responded to me but asked me not to respond and said that he would talk to her if she continued to be rude. I never expected her to not speak to me on our wedding day.