My mom told everyone first.

You can be engaged without a ring.......

If you have a ring, and take it off for bed, you're not all the sudden "un-engaged"

You can announce your engagement.

ETA: stuff.

Your mom cancelled a cruise for herself to pay for your wedding and you're mad that she told people where it might be even though you are not even engaged or locked down into a place? You are overreacting.

You're engaged already.

I'm confused lol.

I am also confused. But from what I understand, you seem to be overreacting...

I wouldn't change the location what does that matter? Are you mad she told people you're engaged or that she told them the location? I don't get it.

You can be engaged without a ring... And your mother cancelled a cruise to pay for your wedding. I understand wanting to announce it but she's clearly excited and paying for or helping pay for the wedding so just announce your engagement and start planning.

Ok I'm sorry. She cancled one trip to pay for another...yes, not necessarily the wedding. I personally consider us engaged but it's easier stay engaged to be engaged when people ask. 6 years and no ring, some people have question so it's a go to answer. My main thing is when I do get a ring and I get excited to tell people about it. People who have been in my life since before I was born. They already know. The news has been spread already kind of thing. They know the date, location, any details that have been decided.

What?

I am still confused.

I think you're overreacting.

I got engaged without a ring. People talked their shit, but FH went out and got me an expensive ring and proposed a 2nd time and all I here now is crickets! Never once did I feel ashamed or embarrassed because I didn't have a ring. It should be about your relationship, and upcoming nuptials yes? ETA: You may be overreacting! You shouldn't care what others think. It seems like it's more about bragging to your peers that you have a nice ring, rather than planning your dream DW. S/O to your mom for canceling her trip to pay for your wedding. I would take the trip, and wait until get your ring! Yup sure would!

I think your post is confusing and you are over reacting.

My feelings would be hurt. It is your news to tell and if you weren't ready to announce your engagement then your mom should have respected that. But it's nothing to be angry about, you're still engaged, but I understand how you feel. Everybody will want to see your pretty new ring and if you don't have it yet it can be kind of awkward. Mom should have waited, but since she didn't, I'd just play dumb with the family and say, "We haven't made any definite plans yet." Then when you get your ring you can make your own announcement.

I think OP is upset because she wanted to wait until she had a ring to make an annoucement. And actually be the one to announce it. Her mom made the annoucement for her (thereby stealing some of her thunder) when she cancelled a trip and started sharing details of the wedding.

We got engaged without a ring. He gave me a necklace so we could pick out the ring together later. I considered myself officially engaged well before the ring arrived.

I understand your frustration with your mom sharing your news before you were ready, but at the end of the day what difference does it make?

I think you're overreacting. Just be grateful that she's excited and willing to cancel her own plans so she can be there for you. You will still be able to make your own announcement and people will be just as happy for you.

Yeah, I think OP is frustrated that her mom told everyone, because now she doesn't have the chance to tell people. Is that right, OP?

That sucks. But, forgive your mom-- she's just so excited she couldn't help it! Actually the only person I could get on the phone was my grandma, and my uncle had just gone over for dinner with his sons who hadn't seen my grandparents for like 2 years (messy divorce), so she was all flustered and couldn't take time to talk. Then my uncle texted my parents about it before I was able to get ahold of them. We called FH's family and they were like, totally not surprised to the point that they didn't really even emote. So really, my sister was the only person I was able to call and get a "normal" response, lol. So even if you had been the one to let people know, you might not have gotten the reactions you were looking for! Honestly, I felt like it was kind of awkward in a way to call people (like braggy? Calling people just to say something good that happened to you?), plus to try to figure out who would be offended if they heard in a group email vs. getting a call vs. heard from someone else... so maybe your mom saved you some trouble! I'm sure they are all still excited for you and maybe calling you with congratulations? So enjoy that? It's a bummer, but it is what it is and there are no takebacks. I'm sure you can find a few people, at least on FH's side, that you can call to tell for the first time!

Also, like you said, it's been six years coming. I'm sure if he proposed people won't be shocked.

So what if they know more than needed right now? When the ring comes you can announce that it's official official and now the party can begin!

If you feel you're not officially engaged , then why are you planning the Wedding ?

Have you just had the "we should get married" talk or did your BF actually propose to you (just with no ring ). If the 1st, please wait to plan anything ...if 2nd you're engaged and perfectly fine to without a ring. Sorry your mom has a big mouth