MY Husbands ENTIRE family left our wedding reception EARLY!!!!

Back on topic. All I can say (having experience from my advanced age) is that it doesn't matter why they did what they did: Revenge, To "teach you both a lesson", Etc. They were rude on what was an amazing day for you both. They are sad little people running about in their sad little lives and for that, they are to be pitied. So when they really piss you off (and it sounds like that's not really going to be avoidable), just remember to not become them. Better to walk away than to engage in bad behavior. And I have to say--KUDOS to you! You are an amazing example of grace. Your husband is lucky to have you at his side.

Jennifer D, that's so funny that you mentioned that your MIL was taking her own pics the whole time(even when we had a professional photographer) because that's exactly what my MIL was doing as well! And like you said, at random times when people were talking and not posing. My MOH even politely commented that maybe it would be better if she let people know she was taking pics so that the pics would turn out nicer but of course my MIL scoffed at her as well.

We've been married almost a month and other than the initial contact that my husband made with her to inquire about why everyone left and was so rude etc, we have not spoken with them. Not to be selfish, but I really hope it stays like that!

Blue G, I don't really think they felt inferior to my family as they don't even know them. I think they just have such a strong hatred towards and me and are so unsupportive of the marriage that they acted like complete a-holes at the wedding.

Sorry to hear of the drama with your future MIL, that sounds awful! Just remember to stay true to yourself and whether or not she likes you doesn't matter. All that's important is the relationship between you and your future hubby. Best of luck hun!

I don't think you've been around long enough to see all my SIL drama but I know how you feel! We have cut out her and his brother along with his mother. I'm still hurt by their actions and DH is still pissed so it won't get resolved anytime soon. But I will say it's such a relief to not have to deal with/be nice to such horrid ppl. You did the right thing.

ETA; Carole and Kathy....I love you old farts! :-)

Mrs. Clark, if you don't mind me asking...what happened with your in-laws?

LOL how much time do you have?? My BIL and SIL were both in the wedding party (BIG reason why I say to WAIT to pick your bridal party) and I totally regret asking. Granted we were on good terms but that was like 18 months prior. Let me go down the list of stuff, in no chronological order...

-She got knocked up (again) during the planning (that would make 2 and 3 within the planning period) and had the nerve to tell me "you need to postpone the wedding so I have time to work out and lose the baby weight before I order my dress"

-She tried to get all of the family (most were in my wedding party) to take off for the weekend and go to Disney when there came here for my wedding.

-Claimed I "never told her" any times/dates yet she responded to the group fb message so EVERYONE saw that she knew

-Tried to force me to change out bach party plans to accommodate her because she "has kids" We ALL freaking have kids and my MIL offered to babysit while we went bowling.

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Yes, it was bowling, not bar hoping. She ended up blowing that off anyways.

-She refused to allow her spineless husband to go to his tux fitting because she felt a month out from the wedding was to far away. (Since she "worked at David's before" she "knew" how it worked)

-She blew off my bridal shower. Her reason, "i'm sick" as she texted me 5 hours after it was over and my MIL had yelled at her. She wasn't sick. Then claimed they were "celebrating their anniversary at the beach...BS, it was raining all day.

-After she blew off my shower, she had the nerve to ask me to babysit until 3 am on a Sunday so they could go to Disney. I work at 6 am.

There were so many countless minor things that she did and still does but the final straw, was the wedding. She was asked to come as a guest because she kept making it seem being a BM/GM was "too much money" so I asked her if she would rather be a guest. They said yes. Then the morning of the wedding, she texted my MIL and said (cont)

"We don't feel like coming". That was it. DH went through the roof and we cut them. I will also mention she lied to DH's ENTIRE family (who lives in Louisiana) and told them that they in fact attended our wedding and it was "nice". When Chris told them the truth, they were livid at her.

My SIL is the most selfish, heartless, manipulative, vindictive, dishonest and fake person. She treats her whole family like shit. We're just the only ones who refuse to kiss her ass because she uses her kids like pawns, telling MIL if she doesn't "agree with her" then she cant see her grandkids...

It's all bs and they are wrapped around her finger so we refuse to stoop to her level...ugh I HATE HER.

Wow Mrs. Clark, that's terrible! Why did you cut your MIL out though?

We cut MIL out because she NEVER calls us or returns our call when we try or message her on FB, yet she is always on the phone with his brothers. We personally think it's because he and I don't have kids together and they do. She claims my son is "her grandson" but we don't hear from her. She didn't even bother to call DH on his birthday and she was in freaking town! She could have went to see him.

She is always kissing that B***h's a$$ and after the wedding, she put the weight on us saying we needed to "mend the fences". Umm...hell no. We deserve a huge apology but that's not gonna happen.

I'm throwing a baby shower for my other SIL (who also agrees that we are owed an apology) and to be nice, I invited the wench. She had the nerve to have her HUSBAND email me saying that she will not be attending because it's at my house/I'm hosting it. They said they will "drop her gift off at her mother's door on a later date". WTF?? They can't even invite my SIL over to get them and act like we are all the problem...I hate her lol

Girl, i feel like i was reading my own post...my wedding hasnt happened yet so i realized there was no fastforward type of moment for me. i don't think you're over reacting. and should you expect a gift from everyone, probably not people are inherently stupid, evil, and disgusting--seriously we're animals...no , really. that being said, such a large percentage of people not giving a gift is not just coincidence, if it is, im sorry they're one dim set of lights. as for cutting them off...you most certainly should at least for a time, because if they bring negativity into your life then you shouldnt have to be around them.

I’m so sorry you have to deal with this but know you’re not alone. While my IL’s didn’t go to the extent of yours they still have done some things that were pretty hurtful. I do not get along with their daughter AT ALL, it all stemmed from the wedding and not asking her to be a BM, they think she does no wrong and that her family walks on water. They put her family above their 2 sons and I know it hurts my DH’s feelings. We’re constantly on the back burner and personally I’ve had enough. We just celebrated our one year anniversary this past weekend with a bbq and they were an hour and half late because they had something to do with his sister’s family. That was the final straw for DH. We’re in the process of looking for jobs in my hometown (about 2 hours from where we live now) and he said that once we move he’s done with them. It pisses me off to no end that they have hurt him. That’s where I draw the line, I’m very protective of him so it’s not a good idea to hurt his feelings. I think that’s what sucks the most, I can get over them not liking me (wouldn’t be the first person) but don’t hurt my husband’s feelings .. that’s when the claws come out ; ) But I think distancing yourself from them for a while is a good idea …. Let your DH make the decisions if/when he wants to talk to them and just be there for support. Good luck!

Mrs. Clark, all I can say is WOW! I definitely don't blame you for not associating with them anymore! Some people just shock the hell out of me. Good thing your hubby sounds like such a great guy and is NOTHING like his family!

Fiona, yeah I definitely feel like they didn't give gifts/cards simply because they dislike me and did not want to be generous or even decent. In retrospect, I wish we didn't even invite them lol

Brandie, I feel you on being protective of your hubby! I am the EXACT same way. NOBODY messes with my husband and gets away with it! lol! It has taken every ounce of strength and self restraint for me not to call his mom and give her a piece of my mind. Or better yet, arrive at one of his family events and just start kicking ass. LOL! I don't know how I'm keeping it together other than just trying to be the bigger person. My mom raised me better than to stoop to their level lol

I am really feeling the urge to email my MIL right now and tell her how I really feel about her and her family. I'm trying to hard to hold back.

I wrote a fake email to her thinking it might help me get it out and I would feel better but now all I want to do is send it to her for real lol

Help me out guys....I'm breaking!!!

Still obsessing over this situation. I just don't know what to do

My MIL just sent me a blank text...ok?

View Quoted Comment My family did same thing to my daughter we only have small family. Both grandparents from my self and my husband have pasted so my daughter had 14 family members at the wedding then before she got to the reception all 14 left saying her pictures took to long (which was an hour 10 minutes) then they are mad at us because they feel they shouldn t wait I was so hurt as was my daughter 2 weeks went by no explanation message phone call nothing then a family member said we don t think we did anything wrong haven t spoken to them in over a year not even an apology

View Quoted Comment This exact thing happened to me 1 week ago at my wedding and I can't overcome it. It was awful. They stood up and stormed our before dinner was served. They state varying reasons for doing so but we all know that they've never liked me. It ruined the first course of dinner and of course our hearts were broken seeing thus. I know this thread is super old but I'm so glad I found it. Can I ask how it's been now so many years since? I can't find light at the end of the tunnel. His family was yelling awful things at him before they stormed out and it was so embarrassing, classless, and heartbreaking.

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OP is no longer active ten plus years later, so I don't think it's too likely you'll hear back. If you post your own new thread I think you'll get more feedback and advice. I'm very sorry that happened to you.