MY Husbands ENTIRE family left our wedding reception EARLY!!!!

MJ, not saying that it's nice that someone has a similar situation because I wouldn't wish this on ANYONE, but it's strangely comforting to hear that we're not the only people to have gone thru something like this. I really like your view on how family is not always "blood related", I definitely can relate as we have many mutual friends who are like family to us. We also have the support of my family and they are so amazing and are really helping my husband and I through all of this. I love them so much

Amy, I could not agree more. I have kind of accepted that they dislike me and so I wasn't as hurt as my husband, but my heart breaks for my hubby. And my husband isn't one to talk about his feelings so I know this is killing him but he has a hard time talking to me about it which makes me sad

Mrs. S, I have also had the thought that the wedding was like "revenge" for his family since we didn't go to every family gathering. I actually haven't said that to anyone because it just seems like something a 2 yr old would do to seek revenge, not an entire adult family and I didn't know if my suspicions were valid. But I'm kinda glad you were thinking that too. I don't think I'm going to tell my hubby that I think that though.

Guess who my husband's parents are...lol

I am so sorry this is happening to you Mrs. Wright =( but like the other girls (and groomzillas) have said just take a step back from the family and let things simmer down a bit. Stop contact for a bit and then maybe once kids come into the picture see what happens, but no babysitting lol

I see the um lovely fmil there with her amazing um "happy" face....lol

Lol Thanks Sophie, that was pretty much her "happy face" in every picture -_-

Are you sure our IL's aren't related?!

DH's entire family (including his daughter since his mother was bringing her) missed our ceremony and left the reception without saying goodbye to either of us. DH kept yelling at his mother for taking pictures since we had hired photographers. (I should mention that she was taking pictures without saying anything to anyone. Like, at one point I was in the middle of a conversation and DH's daughter comes over to me and when I look up his mother is taking a picture.) MIL is manic depressive and OMG is she a wreck. I avoid her at all costs.

So....yeah, I feel your pain :-) I am actually annoyed that DH is now talking to his mom again because I am still so angry with her missing the ceremony and then the texts that she sent later that night.

Ugh...I hate hearing this. My MIL was a beeach at our wedding too. I spoke to her for the first time since we got married a week ago...and I'll be honest, I didn't even talk. I sat there next to DH while he talked to her.

WHOA Carrie S. are you out of your mind!? "old...over 40"

@Diane m. You know us "old people" (I'm 48)... we could break a hip while dancing so it's best to leave before those young whipper-snappers knock us to the floor with their shenanigans! (please read with a foghorn leghorn voice)

@ MySharrona....seriously! lol and your screen name proves that you're an old fart (love that song) : )

Anyway, didn't mean to hijack this post...but that comment about old, over 40 was just stupid.

Toxic people make you toxic.

I would cut them out of my life for the most part as well. Maybe not forever but certainly limit them in my life.. they are still family.

My advice is to always be the bigger person, they can be rude and insensitive all they want but being rude in return will only give them reason to continue to "dislike" you. You have each other, don't sweat the things you can't change. Too many great things to come that you and your husband may want family there for.

Wow I can imagine your anger and frustration. It doesnt matter what excuse your in-laws have- it was rude of them not 2 communicate wit u guys (send a note etc.) as to y they left early. N yes different protocol is expected for family as compared to some random guest. These are da ppl who r suppose 2 support u thru thick n thin. N really- ALL of his family HAD to go? Do u think they may feel inferior to ur family (less money,social status,education etc)? n they may be acting out these feelings on inferiority?

I'm not married yet, but i have a future MIL who mostly gives me the negativity. Rarely acknowledges me when i visit, just sits there playing Wii. She doesn't work, just stays home ALL day and still even then rarely does chores;has no physical impediments; her children pay all the bills and she requires and allowance from them. Even gave me silent treatment cuz HER kids didnt buy her mothers day gifts. I still spoke to her- greeted her & was mannerly. Some ppl u just cant change!

Mrs Wright....I am sorry you are going through this. I know you were both truly hurt. I would stand as a united team and make decisions together. The two are you are to start your own nuclear family. Don't let their rudeness get to you. Yes, I know it is hard.

I am so sorry that this happened to you all. I know that your husband is really hurt by this and he needs soo much support from you. You two should focus on each other and eliminate the drama from your life. I wish you both a long happy marriage. Congrats

And now I will address this statement from Carrie:

"Old people leave early (and by old I mean anyone over 40 generally when it comes to events)"

This 51 year old woman can still dance and chug any young whipper snapper, who thinks they are all that, under the table. The hubbie is 64 and he can dance me under the table, but I can still chug a beer faster than he can. ; ) So, take your misguided thoughts and shove them straight up your younger and I am sure perkier behind. My arse may sag, but I can guarantee it can still move as fast, if not faster than yours, because I have had that many more years of doing it.

The flag is coming.

Sorry, Mrs. Wright, but I had to do it. I am tired of the "old people" and "older generation" comments. They are rude and ignorant of fact.

Hmm, people over 40 are old? Really? Umm, many rock stars are over 40...over 50...over 60....umm over 70. Yep.

I am over 40 and trust me, age has nothing to do with it....ones mindset does. I have known (over the years) "old" people in their 20's and "young" people in their 80's. It is a mindset.

Now back to the original post. I am sorry this is happening to you and your husband.

Families can be odd and it does seem that more Grooms families have issues with the marriage than Brides families.

My ex husbands mother did not like me (as you said, I took one of her sons away...she also did not like the other daughter-in-law, although she disliked me more as I voiced my total opinion, whereas my sister-in-law was less vocal.)

Fast forward to my daughters wedding, my ex MIL actually told me what a great job I did. Time heals wounds, I guess.

Now, as far as gifts, do not worry about it. Gifts are NOT to be expected. As for them leaving early, guests do that. The hosts stay until the end, not one else has too.

I'm sorry you experienced this but if it makes you feel any better to know you're not alone dealing with crazy in laws. My MIL & her ENTIRE side of the family sat in the lounge area that we sat up outside of the reception room because they wanted their own table. They missed the first dance, the toast & everything else, I'm almost sure that the photographer didn't get them in any of the reception pictures. As bad as it is, just think of it as their loss.