My guest is thinking it's okay to sell drugs at my wedding. i need some guidance.

Uninvite real quick and notify the venue of her so they can remove her if she shows up. She crossed the line.

I'm sorry, is this okay with the venue? Because I can't imagine they'd be okay if a guest shows and starts hand out her own liquor (you often have to have only what's provided by the venue or an approved vendor) or drugs (I'm sure they don't want the publicity of the police showing up to a reception). I'm also sure that you wouldn't want them cutting your reception short and kicking everyone out because rules weren't being followed.

Disinvite this person.

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This is an excellent point. I would imagine this is a good way to get kicked out of your own wedding.

I think if her relative doesn’t understand something like that, they are t a real friend anyway. Put your foot down hard, gracefully. If not, I would guess you have this trouble for long to come in many situations that are just as detrimental.

So many questions and red flags. If you don’t want this person on the guest list, who is forcing you to invite them? That is not anyone else’s business who is invited except the couple who is getting married. An invitation is not a summons and it is unacceptable for anyone, no matter if they are a parent or a “friend”, to figuratively hold you at gunpoint to invite someone who has no issues with illegal behavior. Their illegal behavior will put you in hot water legally that you won’t be able to get out of. There is no situation where any of this should be up for discussion or consideration. Cut ties permanently with this problematic guest and move on. Do not invite them, period. Cut ties with anyone who forces you to invite this person.

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I agree with you. Just say NO!! I wouldn't worry about the relatives - I'm sure they know all about her and would not be surprised. Tell her ASAP that her behavior and threats are unacceptable and she is no longer welcome at your wedding. And if she so much as darkens your doorstep at any time between now and the day after your wedding - CALL THE COPS!! My son is a police officer (in a state where drugs are illegal) and specializes in drug and alcohol enforcement and I will ask his opinion.

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Absolutely. Also, advise the venue that she is NOT to be admitted and if you feel threatened, CALL THE COPS!!

Do you know you can be sued if you are aware that drugs are being passed out at your wedding and people become intoxicated. Why would you want someone like that at your wedding?

View Quoted Comment I agree with this 100%. Don't put your own wedding reception at risk of being cut short (with no refund) due to this person. She is way out of line here. I strongly suggest uninviting her.

O sorry this is happening to you, just uninvited her. This is about you and your spouse. It is your wedding and your rules. I pray all goes well.

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Basically no one important.. Disinvite her.. who cares if she has her granddaughter are in the wedding and her daughter is a close friend.. what does your "close" friend thinks of her mom?

ITS your WEDDING.. and no BAD behavior should be tolerated. if your friend gets mad over that, she was never a "close" friend.. Congrats.

Sorry you are having to deal with issues like this. I have never heard of this happening in any event that I have ever been too, whether it's been a wedding, reunion, etc..... and I would have to take my chances of ruining a friendship but revoking the sent invitation and put my foot down and stand firm. And her threatening to ruin your dress, I would be ready to throw hands. If any of my family or friends ever told me they were bringing drugs to my wedding, we would have a come to Jesus meeting. Good luck with this.