My fiance is taking all the fun out of wedding planning...

I would ask him what he is most interested in in terms of the planning and just assign those to him or involve him just on those particular tasks

I agree with PP. Does he seem stressed? Maybe he can’t be excited because he might be too stressed about it?

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He is stressed generally in his life but he says he isn't stressed about the wedding. He acts excited when I tell him about the things I am doing for example, I planned to ask my friends to be bridesmaids at the weekend and have made a gift box for them which he has seen and helped me make up, it was all ready to go and last minute he got annoyed at me for something silly, we argued and he said he didn't want me to ask my bridesmaids because he said he had not been involved at all and I needed to stop doing things without him...?

View Quoted Comment That’s bizarre. Maybe he thinks something like maybe you picked too many bridesmaids or something and he thinks he hast to have an even number on his side? I definitely suggest sitting him down and talking about all of it.

I agree with Melle, ask him if wants something to be in charge of (like finding the DJ, picking out the cake, etc.). Maybe he just wants to take the lead on something!

I suggest asking him what he would like to do when it comes to planning the wedding. Maybe there are certain things he would like to contribute to doing

Ask what part he is interested in. Picking out the menu? Researching the dj?

Give him a list of things to do like pick the entertainment or the apps

As others said, ask him what he takes an interest in having a say in. In one of your posts, you said he stopped you or at least argued with you about asking your bridesmaids...if he's anything like my fiance, he might have wanted to discuss it beforehand to make sure the numbers are even or whatever and he's not communicating that in the best way. I think it's more than just asking him what he's interested in, although you should do that. I think you need to have a longer talk with him about why this is happening, why he feels like he's not getting a say, and how you could go about making him feel like he has a part in it without annoying him with things he may not be interested in. Get a real feel for where you both stand on the planning and take it from there.

My fiance gets this way mostly because it so far away and he is very much an introvert and isn't really looking forward to the wedding other than the ceremony. I am able to get him to have moments of interest and give me opinions. He is currently freaking out about costs but I am paying for everything (he is saving for the house) I dont let him think too much about the costs.