My fiance is invited to a wedding as well a girl who flirted with my fiance

Is he really going to the wedding? If FH was invited to a wedding without me, it would be an automatic no.

This is something you really should discuss with him, I agree with what everybody else has said. This could turn into a lot more if it isn't taken care of properly and a counselor can help you do this.

Also, how rude of them to not invite you with him. I'd always at the very least provide opportunities for a plus one...

So there are a few things that are concerning about this post and as pp have stated, he shouldn't have been invited without you. But I would like to ask what a secondary sponsor means for a wedding. I've never heard that phrase before regarding a wedding and didn't know what it meant.

@Katie, I was trying to figure out how one sponsors a wedding and how do you become a secondary sponsor. Hopefully OP will be able to give us an answer.

@TheWrightGirl I know in Greek Orthodox weddings the biggest role beyond the bride, groom and priest is the koumbaros/koumbara, who stands up with the couple and often foots a lot of the bill. Maybe it's something along these lines? If OP's fiance were a full-on sponsor in this ceremony, OP shouldn't have just known about this since this couple first got engaged, it would be hella rude not to invite her.

@Wright she's probably referring to a padrino role, which is common in Hispanic weddings...at least I hope so.

OP y'all need counseling asap.

He shouldn't be going without you. Now that in itself is an issue for me, but the fact that you KNOW about the texting at 2A and chose not to say anything then is s a bigger issue for me.

I watched an episode of The Braxton's that summed up cheating. Mother Braxton told Toni, (paraphrasing) "Don't ever ask your man about a woman unless you're going to do something about it. If you're not going to do anything about it, then let him cheat."

1. My fiancé is commonly referred to as too nice, but that doesn't mean that when I'm not with him parts of him end up in parts of other women.

2. There was a girl he liked before we started dating. He told me about her and once we were exclusive there was no more contact. He and I were invited to a wedding that she was also invited to and there was a chance I wouldn't have been able to go because of work. He said he wouldn't go if I couldn't, period. Not because I didn't trust him around her if i wasn't there, or because he didn't trust himself around her, but because he didn't want to go to an awesome event without me.

You two need counseling, STAT.

Rude of the couple to invite just him and not you - if that happen to my fiancé he would not attend without me.

When it comes to this other girl, she shouldn't be the center of concern. Idk why most people keep the other party at fault rather then their partner. He should be the one cutting off contact with any woman who is trying to make a move on him. You need to be concentrated on your lack of trust in him and not this other woman. I advise you to seek individual counseling and couples counseling as well before marriage.

I'm sorry this is happening OP. I know that feeling and it sucks. Hope you guys are able to work something out where you can address this as a team (like both staying home or both going and enjoying the wedding). Good luck!

It's so rude for him to have been invited and not you! What bugs me the most is that he did not decline the invitation once he knew you weren't allowed to come. You definitely need to address your concerns in a serious way so he understands how heavily this is weighing on you. If he dismisses your feelings, then you have much bigger problems in the picture.

Just wondering, but what were they texting about at 2am?

Definitely agree with PPs that he shouldn't be going without you. I'm curious though...what's a secondary sponsor?

He should? know how you feel with him going to this wedding and her being there.

No, No and Nope he would not be going. I had a similar situation with mine we refer to her as California so absolutely not.

I agree very rude that you weren't invited. Did he mention anything abiut you not being invited? Does he want to go even without you ? I guess this is a situation where you see his decisions. My FH wouldn't go if I wasn't invited and neither would I .

I hate those so called "nice guys who can't say no" and call bullshit - they know when a girl is being flirtatious and while they might not think they're cheating, it's definitely an ego thing for them, and overall a selfish thing to do

Why weren't you invited?!?!

@Elphaba: I can't imagine anyone excluding you from family plans. You seem to be a pretty level headed kind of woman.

The third party (ex-girlfriend, woman who flirts with him, etc.) is never the issue. If he is minded to be unfaithful, there are several billion people on this planet he could be unfaithful with. Conversely, if he's not, then she's no threat. So focus on your relationship with him, not what she is doing.

So many red flags... Sorry but from what seems to be going on here, you deserve better.