My fiance is invited to a wedding as well a girl who flirted with my fiance

I find it really odd that he was invited but his fiancée was not.

This is a bigger issue then one night at a wedding by himself. It sounds like you have trust issues (whether justified or not, I do not know). I would seek couples counseling imo or seriously work on this with your fh

Ultimately it shouldn't matter whether she makes a move or not. You should know without a shadow of a doubt, that it doesn't matter, because your fh would turn her down

Kinda of rude for him to be invited to a wedding, with out you being invited either, considering you have been together for 9yrs, and this other couple knows that. Maybe sit down with FH and express your feelings to him, that you dont feel comfortable that he is going alone.

He shouldn't be invited without you but I agree there are bigger issues here.

Hi Lacy, thank you for the reply. I'm a bit disturbed too. He knows how I feel about this. I don't want to forbid him from going but it's eating me up. What should I do?

Christ on a stick. It was rude af for them to invite only him and not you both as a couple. If that happened to my husband, he would not go.. And why are you marrying someone who texts other women (who have crushes on him) at 2AM?!?!

For starters I wouldn't be marrying a guy I caught Secretly texting another woman at 2am.

Second, my FH would never go to a wedding if I wasn't also invited. Ya know, cause we're a package deal. It's rude AF for whoever to invite him without you.

Third, the girl he sneaks around in the middle of the night to text is going but you're not invited? Hard no for me.

But I wouldn't be marrying him with these issues lingering.

Is he wanting to go?? Tell him you have made plans for the two of you for that day.

The texting issue had been addressed and has not bothered us for years but i cant shake the feeling. I know it's a trust issue and I am trying my best to not think worry, but it's a thought that keeps coming back.

THANK YOU ALL FOR THE MESSAGES! MUCH APPRECIATED

I'd sit him down and tell him how you feel or would suggest doing some pre marital counseling to talk about this issue.

Texting each other at 2am and then him hiding it fom you is concerning. You should be able to trust your fiancé to go to some things alone and not be tempted by anyone. Being 'too nice' is not an excuse. Does he know your concerns?

You should make your feelings plain to him. However you need to remember that if there are trust issues, not going to this one wedding isn't going to solve this problem. You need to find out if this stems from his untrustworthy behavior or your own insecurities. Ultimately, while i agree you should have been invited, he's going to go places without you. You shouldn't have to be worried when he does.

You are a couple, you need to attend social functions with him. This is ridiculous. If there are any suspicions about the nature of his relationship ( 2 AM texts) with his Ex, you need to clear it up ASAP. He needs to make it abundantly clear to the other girl that you are his intended and their relationship is OVER. If you feel uncomfortable, I would hold off on any wedding plans. This is not how to start off married life

There's no good reason for him to be texting her at 2am. I'd say you have bigger problems than him being in the same room with her.

Honestly, it sounds like you have much bigger issues than him going to this wedding.

When did he last see her? You said they haven't worked together in two years? Does that mean they haven't seen each other in two years?

I think it is understandable for you to be upset, the fact that he was messaging this girl at 2am and lying about it is unacceptable. Talk to him, I hope that he decides not to go to this weddingout of respect to you.

It's understandable why you feel uncomfortable. I would recommend premarital counseling to sort these issues out before you walk down the aisle. FH and I are doing premarital counseling now and it's been helpful so far. In terms of his attending the wedding, it's in poor etiquette for him to be invited without his fiancé. I think he should request that you are also invited or decline.

NATALIE, he hasn't seen her since.

How long ago did the texting occur?