69 days until I get married to my bestfriend...but the man who is suppose to walk me down the isle died today....I'm shattered and broken. I look forward to none of this now...
69 days until I get married to my bestfriend...but the man who is suppose to walk me down the isle died today....I'm shattered and broken. I look forward to none of this now...
Oh my goodness. I am so incredibly sorry for your loss. My thoughts are with you and your family.
Rachel Langerhans ·
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I'm so, so sorry, LoveYouMoore :'( This is heartbreaking. I know nothing anyone says will make the sadness go away, but know that your dad's love and spirit will be with you and in your heart on your wedding day. *So many hugs to you!*
Thank you for the support everyone. It has really been precious to me. The past few days have been incredibly hard. He was an amazing man with so much love in his heart
Does anyone have any ideas on how to honor him at the wedding? I'm struggling because he didn't want a funeral. He just wanted to be cremated and his ashes put in the ocean.
Rachel Langerhans ·
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Maybe have his photo on a small table with candles? Or his photo at a seat at the table he would have been at (with your mom or whoever else)?
At the beginning of my and my husband's ceremony, we asked the officiant to start with:
Andrew and Rachel would like to take a moment to recognize a few loved ones who can’t be with us today… Rachel’s Grandpop and Grandmom Phillips, Grandpop and Grandmom Marth, and Aunt Lois; and Andrew’s Grandpa Dickson and Grandpa Langerhans. They know that their love is here with them today to celebrate Andrew and Rachel’s love for each other.
...and then the ceremony continued as usual. Just taking a small moment to honor your loved one is what's important (no need to do something extravagant, unless you want to), and then you can continue with the wedding as planned.
OP One idea that I've seen and really like is using one of his neckties instead of ribbon as the wrap for your bouquet. That way you can have something with you throughout the day. Or you could have a piece of one of his shirts sewn into your dress.