My 40th Birthday and I didn't get a gift from my fiance

Happy Birthday Cheryl! And can I just add that based on your picture, I would never have guessed you just turned 40. You go girl!

I am sorry you feel let down, but maybe since you've just started dating in October and he didn't gift you for Christmas or Valentines Day if you seemed fine with not receiving a gift, perhaps he didn't know he let you down in this way. Personally my DH is never one for receiving gifts, he's just happy and content if we stay home together or go out for dinner on an occasion. I on the other hand love receiving gifts, but gifts from DH are always more personal and less material. He gives me cards with some of the most romantic things in them, or concert tickets so that's something we can do together. If he is giving me a material gift it's usually something I have asked for in some way or another and he has a great memory. Bottom line is men need to be led in the right direction in these situations.

I hope you feel better about it soon.

Happy Birthday!!! That just plain sucks and I would be tickd. However, with our current financial situation I told him NOT to get me gift because we cant afford it. I still expect a card even if it is hand made. I hope your talk goes well.

Thanks for the compliment! At least the card was pretty.

My feelings would be hurt too if I didn't receive a gift either. Because to me a gift shows that he is thinking about me. Not that I totally deserve a gift because its my birthday. I'm not like that. In fact for mothers day, he bought a T-shirt set , right in front of me that the kids can put their hand prints on. That hurt my feelings. Because it wasn't a surprise. ( he has a hard time with gift giving and keeping it a secret) in his family they ask what all of the kids want and they get it. Last year he knew he got a kindle for months. ( I just don't understand that kind of gift giving) anyhow. When we were driving one day, we talked about gifts and what we expect and stuff like that. I mentioned to him that there were two things I had always wanted that no one had ever gotten me. And they would be gifts that would be really special because the person picked them because it would be something I wanted. A pair of stud earrings ( nothing expensive) but, I don't buy things like......

That for myself . I always put everyone in front of me. So I don't have "extras" like that. And a mothers ring. I always wanted one, expressed it to my ex several times and never got it. So on the night before mothers day ( fh had to work MD) he took me into the room and gave me a box, it was a pair of stud earrings. I love them. I have had them in ever since. And he kept it a secrecy, he bought them while I was with him and I never noticed. That meant the world to me.

I would just express to him how it made you feel. He may not realize.

I must be really lucky that my FH actually speaks all five of those languages of love...both of us do actually. I dont think I agree with just 1 or 2 of those being the norm.

As for the gift thing this reminds me of my first birthday with FH. His birthday is a month before mine and I planned this surprise Bday party for him,baked a cake all that stuff. My BD came around and he woke up and said...so what do you want to do today? No present, no cake, maybe a card...I dont recall lol. Anyways we ended up using that as a great learning experience for the both of us! I am a planner. Love to plan everything. FH is much more....go with the flow. Since this was your first Bday together I would take this opportunity to talk and set up expectations now so no one gets their feelings hurt! Though cupcakes and a card is very sweet and thats about what FH and I do for each other on most birthdays. Would love to do more but we know money is tight so we just make sure to celebrate each other