Moving in

View Quoted Comment He just doesn't know how to clean up after himself really. When he lived at home his mom always cleaned for him. I just had to sit down with him and explain that we are both adults, and I'm not going to be his mother and clean up after him. We've been living on our own for almost a year, and while he still isn't perfect with cleaning I absolutely love living with him.

My fiance and I have lived together now for almost 3 years and I would say moving in with someone before getting married is best. You really get to know someone when you live with them...their habits, quirks, schedule, etc. Good luck!

My fiance and I moved in a month to the day together after we started dating. We didn't get engaged till 2 years later, and getting married next April. I honestly think it depends on the person, for me it has given me the chance to get to know him better. To find out if his and mine for that matter quirks are something we can deal with. How does the other handle stressful situations and things like that. I would say we are now in it for the long haul because we just closed on our first house last month.

FH and I were always together so after we got engaged we moved in together and it has been a blast! I have loved every minute of it. I'm not going to say it is always rainbows and unicorns but living together makes you work out your problems instead of walking out and going to you own home once a fight comes up. Also like PP says you get to see the other person's living styles before getting married.

My finacee and I have lived together for the last 2.5 years. It is a personal preference, but I would never marry someone I had not lived with. You learn A LOT about a person once you move in with them. People have habits and quirks that you wont know about until you spent everyday with them. Some you will be able to live with, and some, you may not. I would recommend living together before marriage just to solidify your decision to get married.

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This! There are so many other factors that can lead to divorce other than just simply living together. Like if a couple has a child prior to marriage or if this is their second (or third...or so on) marriage that can increase the likelihood of divorce. Also, a lot of people still face family pressure to NOT live together before marriage, so that can be a factor as well.

I spent like every night with fiance when we first started dating and would wake up go home shower dress go to work and right back to his place when he came home from work so I pretty much lived there. I officially moved in after about 6 months of dating. We purchased our house together 8/31/2018. We are bit older though, I'm 33 he's just about 34.

I personally don't see a difference in waiting till your married. You both agreed to get married and be with each other forever, so?

My fiance and I lived a year in an APT together and now we have a house together. We wont be married for another year and i highly recommend living with one another before the wedding! Living together also helps you both know more about one another which is great, in my opinion!!

It all depends what you believe in. I’ve been with my husband to be for 9 years and lived together for 7 now. But we also just bought a house together and have a 2 year old son together so we are doing things a little different than the “regular” sense of ways lol
whatever you choose to do I’m sure it’ll go well. Good Luck!

I'm 24 and my fiance is 23. I had spent almost a full year with my now fiance staying at his parents house every night. My fiance and I got engaged in february then we decided to get an apartment together. We've been living together in our own place since March. It's nice to have our own space and privacy from his parents now. I couldn't imagine it any other way. We're getting married in 2 years and hopefully within a few years after that we'll have our own house together.

FH and I moved in together a year after we started dating. We had an opportunity to do so, which made the jump easy. I will say, I’m glad I’ve had the last few years to get used to living with him

We practically lived together from right when we started dating (he was at my house all the time). he lived with his parents. but, then he got a new job and would have to move closer to work, which I did. It made sense financially, for both of us to live together. We had only been dating, officially, for 5 months. It was hard for me because I had never lived with a boyfriend. I think that since it was early in our relationship it was easier 🤷‍♀️ We didn’t experience too much awkwardness, were both pretty open. If he hadn’t have moved in we probably would have never seen each other and our relationship may not have made it. Me working 2 jobs paired with his early bed time wouldn’t have been a good combo living apart.
I think which ever way you choose to do it is fine. You have to do what works for you, your FH, and your lives.

When’s the wedding?

View Quoted Comment November 6 2020. We don’t plan on moving in together til March or April

Living together for a year before even considering engagement was a stipulation in our relationship. We wanted to be sure we were financially compatible. We moved in 6 months after we started dating, we both had really crappy roommates and it made sense. We lived together for 3 years before marriage and, as much as it made my parents crazy, it worked out in the end haha.

Almost all my friends didn’t live together before marriage. I have a few who did but majority didn’t. I did live with my FH before and I don’t regret it. But I can see both sides of the argument here.

I have lived with my FH for 6 years and we’ll be getting married December 2020. I think In my opinion I would rather live with the person first before actually getting married.

We've been together 10 years (since we were 15/16) and have lived together since 2013. We had roommates for the first 2 years and I think that helped. BUT I would 10000% not get married unless I lived with him first. The first year after the roommates moved out was hard. We are both messy in different ways (I left clothes everywhere, drives him nuts. He left plates in his (our) room, drives me nuts. We don't really do these things anymore.)

The hardest thing to figure out was who was going to do what responsibilities around the house where each of felt like it was fair, and we weren't doing something we hate doing. I DO NOT wash dishes (sue me haha) but I love to cook. So he does all the dishes and I do all the cooking. We do our laundry separately because one day he got annoyed that he didn't have any clean work clothes left, and I was like honey I'm not a mind reader, you have to tellll me when you're out of clothes?? So we just do our own now. I do all the household laundry (sheets, towels, etc. because he probably never would.) I do 100% of the grocery shopping by myself because he HATES to even walk in a grocery store.

Also sorry this is long, but here's a funny story about the first fight we had when we moved in together was about french fries. We were in the store and I wanted extra crunchy crinkle fries and he wanted steak fries. He likes soft textured food, I like crispy/crunchy food. I legit cried in this grocery store in the french fry aisle bc I was so hangry and all I had been thinking about all day was crunchy fries hahaha. So it's a big adjustment of random things you don't even think about, like what brand or type of groceries or scent of hand soap you're going to buy.

I would move in together before the wedding, and make sure you talk to each other about everything. Like what you want, ask what he wants, if something is bugging you be straight up with it, pretty much don't let things bottle up.

My fiance and I moved in together 2 years ago. We have been together for almost 4 years. I wouldn't listen to anyone but yourself. If you feel that it is a good decision for you guys then I would listen to your gut. We had some problems in our relationship which made us move in together at first. I have to say tho.. it was the best decision we have ever made. I feel like you have to live with someone to see if you are compatible that way before you do something like marriage. Just my opinion! Whatever you decide will be what is best for you!