Mother/son Dance for a Monster-in-law

View Quoted Comment It doesn’t sound rude. But I don’t want to skip my dad. He’s one of my best friends and I’m his only girl. My F is wanting to do it to keep the peace. We know it’s our choice. Each wedding is unique and different. I’m glad y’all are doing yours you way!

View Quoted Comment If YOU don’t want to, then absolutely don’t. I think it boils down to that we do want to, in some regard, we just don’t want it to be super meaningful. We’re having our first dance and in many ways my FH and FMIL are having their last. Mwahahaha. Jk. But seriously.

View Quoted Comment This is an interesting idea! I think we’re going to still do our the traditional way; it’s hard for me to express how much my dad means to me, but this is a great option for some of our other family members

Wow! I didn’t realize how common this issue is. I wish peace and happiness for you and your husband!

View Quoted Comment Same! Especially my FH's mom, her side of the family and my dad's side. Gossiping is the main subject 😀. We know for a fact they will slam us behind our backs over things like my dad is not giving me away, my grey dress, skipping the veil, why he's not wearing a boutonniere , we are skipping the dances with our parents etc... but when an event is over... it's over lol. We don't care what they think, as long as they don't gossip in front of us.
But j in case they have some nerves telling us something, we prepared a response, something along the lines of:
" 3verything turned out the way we hoped.Oh! we also checked with all governements and the supreme court : our marriage can't be nullified over these" LOL.
We are not people pleasers, especially about things that are no one else's business, we only want to please each other when something is about us.

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Haha, I love it! If this woman is what the writer says she is, she'd probably be completely oblivious and think it was hilarious!

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You can have a father-daughter dance and skip the mother-son's. There are no rules/laws stating that you have to perform both or none of them.

I'm sorry that your soon-to-be MIL is so difficult. If you're going to keep the dances, then I would go for something as generic with as few attachments as possible. Someone else mentioned "My Wish" by Rascal Flatts. I would add "I Hope You Dance" by Lee Ann Womack or "Forever Young" by Rod Stewart. The latter might be kind of fitting because from what you've told us, she's never grown up! If you're going for something a little more upbeat with fewer attachments, maybe something like "Here Comes the Sun" by the Beatles would work. Whatever you decide, good luck!

View Quoted Comment I understand all of that. We are choosing to do this. Thank you.

View Quoted Comment Thank you for the suggestions!!