Mother of the Groom in Black

Why not? As long as she's not wearing a black veil, it's probably just a LBD, which is completely club-appropriate.

Black is classic. Don't sweat it, let her wear what she's comfortable in.

Black doesn't hold the stigma it once did. Now it's just considered a formal color, and the type of black dress you wear to a funeral is very different than the kind you wear to a wedding. If she says it's because she's in mourning I'd throw a fit, but otherwise don't think anything of it.

Yeah it is appropriate!

Yea it is apprioprate. But at my cousin purple theme wedding, my aunt wore black because she said she was in mourning for her son to marry a woman she didn't like :-/

I should have mentioned that she's not been happy with any of our decisions to date and there has been lots of fighting/tension.... (she's not financially contributing to the wedding)

Um Kris, then she shouldn't wear black. I mean I felt bad for my cousin wife when my aunt wore black which everyone knew that she was in mourning at the wedding...but many people left before the couple had their first dance. Let just say not many people liked my cousin wife...I am very sorry about the situation and I wish parents can be grownups geez. She will come around.

Can your FH discuss with her to get along? It is good to get tenison out of the way before the wedding.

Because of the tension, I feel like this is her way of protesting. Thanks for your kind words - I hope she comes around too. :-)

Trying to dictate her outfit will undoubtedly add to the tension between the two of you. You should talk to her about her feelings toward you and the fact that you ARE going to marry her son, this issue aside.

Ugh I swear, some parents are immature :-( Well I am having black and white with pink wedding, that my mom or my FMIl will be wearing black. If your wedding was black-white or black tie, it would be okay. But I am old fashioned that I don't like it when mom wear black at the wedding if the colors are not black-white. That is just me. Keep being kind and trust me kindness drive people insane that they would feel bad and want to be nice. You seem like a sweet gal and if she will wear black and protesting, then she is embarassing herself. So be the grown up and she will be a child in the sitaution lol.

I agree with analy

I wouldn't dream of dictating her outfit - in fact I told her to wear whatever she was comfortable in (as long as it wasn't the same color as the bridesmaids). She says she's really happy that we're getting married - she just doesn't approve of our decisions for the actual wedding (we're not allowing kids).

Then I really don't see the issue?

I think black is fine and I'm glad to see everyone else agrees since that's what I've reccomended to our mothers! Its just easier than trying to co-ordinate.

Again it is your day, not HERS. I think there is no issue then. If you are okay with her wearing black, then it is fine.

Wow, I thought my future in laws would pull something like that. They really don't want my FH to get married. However, if you think you have problems now, it may not get much better after the wedding. Kids may change her mind, but until then mommy won't be happy. Good Luck, hope everything works out. Talk to her and see if you can make peace.

That what I am saying, it is better to try to solve issues before wedding. My FMIL wasn't happy that we got engaged after few months of dating and it was one month after her mom passed away. But now she is warming up to me, finally lol.

Consider the source and learn to ignore her.

Keep in the back of your minds that your FMILs are the women who raised your FHs. They can't be all bad ;-)

And if you give them grandchildren, you can't be all bad either!

I miss my in-laws -- they were great!