Mother of the bride dress

You cannot fully control what she is wearing but she sounds like she is being difficult to me. Can you two find a happy medium with what you both like?

View Quoted Comment I told her it can be whatever color she wants and I could careless what it looks like, just long!!

I would let your mom wear what she is comfortable in unless the dress is inappropriately short. I had wanted both of our moms in floor length black tie style dresses, but my mother-in-law didn't want a dress that was floor legth because she was worried it would be too long and she would trip. She doesn't like dressing up so I was happy she would wear a dress at all. Parents normally aren't in photos with the bridal party so the different dress lengths shouldn't be an issue. Does she have a reason she doesn't like floor length?.

View Quoted Comment My mom loves dressing up so I’m not seeing her issue. Her excuse she gave me was that she didn’t like her arms in long dresses, makes no sense to me!!

View Quoted Comment That makes no sense to me either. Her arms shouldn't have anything to do with long dresses. Plenty of long dresses have short sleeves or are short sleeves. I could understand if her concern was having to wear long sleeves, but just because the dress is long doesn't mean the sleeves are too. If she hasn't bought a dress maybe you could offer to go shopping with her.

View Quoted Comment I offered to, she said she isn’t going to start looking for dresses until closer to the date. I’m just nervous she’ll buy something without me knowing. Thank you for all of your input!! I really appreciate it. Idk why I’m so torn up over this

View Quoted Comment You're welcome! Hopefully when she does decide to look she will go with you. If not, I would just let it go.

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I would just sit down with her nicely and try to explain to her that you are not trying to be a bridezilla and you do not want to be challenging but that you would like to stick with a theme and are asking her do please buy the dress for one day. Maybe if you buy the dress for her then she can't say no?

Could you offer to buy your mother's dress? I mean, as long as you're paying for it, you get to dictate the length.

View Quoted Comment She has the $ to buy her own dress so I feel like she’d never go for that😔

View Quoted Comment Yeah I tried that originally!! I would offer to but there’s no way she’ll go for that. She has the $ for a dress, she’s just being stubborn. Thank you for all your advice!!

I think you should let your mom wear whatever she wants. I think the MOB's dress is beyond the scope of the bride.
I also don't think it will look wrong if her dress is knee length and the bridal party has long dresses; there aren't many (if any) photos taken of the MOB and bridal party anyway.
I would say let this go.

It sounds like she’s just being a bit difficult but maybe the two of you could go dress shopping and come up with a compromise. If she doesn’t like her arms she can get long sleeves or a nice wrap. You can’t really force her to wear what you want but I understand your frustration. Just remember that she will only be in a few pictures so don’t let it get to you too much.

This isn’t a hill I would want to die on. I would let it go. When I look back at my wedding pictures I don’t notice what anyone is wearing.

Morgan,


I agree completely 💯 a wedding is a ELEGANT event where a long evening 👗 is proper attire for all females! Just my opinion, but I support your position, I'm getting married Feb. 2021 , I already bought my bridesmaids dresses, my mother, and mother in law dresses, so I didn't have to worry about that, I have my wedding dress also, so all dresses are done!! Good luck!!

You should let her wear what she wants, and then she will regret being the odd one out in the photos.

View Quoted Comment I just wanted our moms and the bridesmaids to have the same theme with the long. I see what you’re saying though!!

View Quoted Comment Thank you!! She’s not very good at compromising but I’m hoping within the next 11 months we’ll figure something out!!

View Quoted Comment True, I just want all of us to look nice and not have her look like a guest

View Quoted Comment So true!! I just want her looking nice. I don’t want my future mother in law to upstage her