Mother in laws inappropriate dress

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This is not worth crying over. No one can take anything from you unless you allow them to.

Spill oil on it by mistake. Lol. Kidding, maybe.

For starters, she will not take the day away from you no matter how hard she tries. Actually, everyone else is going to be looking at her with the ridiculous 3 foot train. Most will probably immediately recognize her attempt to upstage you. Unfortunately, you can't control what anyone wears to your wedding. Try to not let it bug you too much.

What does her age and the size have to do with anything?

I think i'ts a little leggie but it' s a lovely gown- and quite frankly no one is going to upstage you certainly not your mother in law in an evening gown.

Hahaha omg this is awful. Can your fiance talk to her? Not sure what he should say, or how their relationship is, but I'd just be "omg mom no. Not okay" lol

Everyone will be raising eyebrows at her, but she will not outshine you.

Don't worry you are going to be the most beautiful girl in the room on your wedding no matter what. Don't allow that to bother you

Oh boy. Not sure what her size and age have to do with it, but. I promise no one will forget who the bride is, and she will be the one looking ridiculous. There's nothing you can do about it so try to forget about it. Maybe she'll change her mind on her own, as it sounds like you guys have already made your thoughts clear to her.

Alos what others said. If she does wear it, everyone will just laugh at her. She won't upstage the bride

I can see why it wouldn't be your preferred MOG dress, but you won't be outshined. It's tough but remember everyone wants to feel beautiful and there aren't a lot of opportunities in life for a girl to go all out and wear a stunning gown. I'm sure it's not her intention to take anything away from you. Best of luck! You will be the star of your wedding no matter what. I can guarantee of all the weddings I've been too, I've never once paid attention to what the mothers were wearing, but I do remember all of the bridal gowns.

Move along, nothing to see. She won't upstage you.

Thank you all for you kind and reassuring words. Reasoning for age and size was cause when I mentioned it to other people that was the first questions they asked usually to ask if she was a " young sexy mother" not ready to give her baby away.

My mother in law did the same thing and I was happy she did, she was excited for this day just as much as us and as mother of the groom this was the only wedding she would be having for her kids. She looked amazing and Im so glad she felt amazing on our amazing day as well as us. No one will ever upstage the bride on her day, I promise.

@jenna I seriously don't understand how that would upset you or think you were upstaged so what if she was? You should be happy that she feels beautiful and wants to looks nice for your big day.

The only thing people are going to think about it is "What the hell was she thinking?"

Wedding make people emotional, I understand. but she will NOT upstage you. If anything, as previous posters have mentioned, people will side eye her.

I get your point. My MIL wanted to do the same thing. The ONLY person with a train that day should be you. Yes they should look nice and feel comfortable. But it's not their day. They already had their day. My MIL told me she was supposed to look better than me because "since im the bride no one would tell me they didn't like my dress even if they didn't like it". Like what? So I know how you feel. Just know that in the end YOU will be the star. 90% of pictures (which is how people will remember the day) will be of you! I know it's annoying and frustrating and I would ask your FH (or FH's dad if possible or a trusted family member) to talk to her.

@nowaseptmrs fh talked to her and she doesn't see anything wrong lol. Its just crazy it just makes me,feel better to know I'm not insane and people are agreeing with me. Its sad cause this dress definitely changed our relationship. But say la vi

One thing logistically that would help a lot with it is have her be seated already before everyone makes an entrance. If she wants to wear the dress she can be seated on the first row and not be escorted down by her son. Or just have her escorted first if you have a soft spot for her. I know that's out of order but it drives the point home and gives people plenty of time to forget her outfit before you come down