Most Ridiculous Thing You've Been Asked to do as a Bridesmaid?

My SIL (brother's wife) did not want me to be a BM in their wedding because her BM dresses did not come in my size (plus size). All of her other BM's (and her) are thin - think sizes 2 to 8. My brother insisted I will be in his wedding because I am his only sister. I believe she did this to me out of spite for my brother making her have me as a BM.

My BM dress (that the other BM's paid $99 for) had to be custom made by a seamstress for my size at a cost of $400. The fabric had to be ordered with the other BM dresses to be sure it the dye lot matched so I did not have time to shop around for a different seamstress. Conveniently the bridal shop had a seamstress that would do this, and since all the other BM's were ordering their dresses that day I had no choice but to order the fabric in a quantity stated by their seamstress. My SIL would not change the dress style, and it did not flatter my plus size figure.

FYI - I was a single parent not getting child support for 2 children at the time they got married. My income was limited and my monthly rent was $525. I almost had heart failure paying $400 for a dress that cost nearly as much as my rent.

I hated every moment wearing that dress, hate every picture I am in from the wedding, and I left the wedding reception immediately following the dance she required me to participate in with my assigned GM. She told me that I "almost ruined her entire wedding!" That hurt immensely.

Believe it or not we get along fine now (it's been 15 years), but I do NOT want to every be a BM again! I have since chalked it up to being a young Bridezilla!

I was a BM for a couple that decided to have a Jack and Jill party....everyone was asked to buy multiple items that could be raffled off, and make food for the party....I was force to by a 32" flat screen tv :/....after I already "donated" three raffle baskets.

Spray glitter on my hair

I am so grateful for the friends I've been asked to be a BM for after reading this.

I'm so surprised to hear all of you brides say "I'm so glad I've never had to be a bridesmaid". I LOVE being a bridesmaid-- no matter the cost. I'm headed into my third MOH position next year--I think being a bridesmaid is a huge honor and I'm sad for all of you who never have the opportunity to stand by your friend's side on her wedding day.

I wish I was bridesmaid

I've only been a bridesmaid once, and I don't know if it was as bad as it could have been, but here goes:

1) The MOH planned the bachelorette party and at one of our monthly meetings (always 5 minutes from her house but very far from us) she said that I had to pay towards the party, but that I was not allowed to come. They were getting a hotel room in downtown and then going to bars and I was 19 at the time. She said I could sit in the hotel room while they were at bars, but was not allowed to be there while they pre-gamed because they would be drinking. When I asked if that was normal for us to pay the same amount as those attending, the MOH told me "I know that you guys don't have REAL jobs, but you need to pay your part." Note: She was an unemployed substitute teacher at the time and I had been working in a law firm for over 3 years at that point.

2) The bride (my oldest sister) told all of her 8 bridesmaids that they had to get their hair professionally done and done a certain way, but we could not go to the same salon that she was going to that morning and we had to pay for it ourselves.

3) I was the only bridesmaid with glasses so for all of the photos I had to take my glasses off. I'm not completely blind, but when I look back at the pictures and see some pictures with my glasses off and some on, I look really weird with my glasses off.

4) I always forget this one, but she told me to get rub in tanning lotion because I wore tank tops and had tan lines from the straps. Surprisingly the tan lotion worked out well.

5) Not that I wanted to since we aren't close, but she told us (her three sisters) that we were not allowed to get ready with her at the church for the ceremony. But when I arrived, I saw all of the other bridesmaids there getting ready with her. Oh well.

@MrsMoralesToBe: I'm only in the states for three years and back home the whole bridesmaids thing is not really a thing. My friends from back home had to ask me what it really meant that I asked them to be maids of honor..

I wish I could laugh at these stories, but I can't. They actually infuriate me. Who the hell do these women think they are? The audacity is shocking. Taking a month off of work to attend to wedding nonsense, dying your hair, paying for ridiculous frills at the bride's demand, humiliating a plus sized bride by forcing her to spend four times the amount that everyone else spent (and she's a single mom not receiving child support), MOBs inviting their friends to the wedding shower and not contributing to the event, dying skin...and of course, the ever-popular "stay and clean up because I didn't pay anyone to do it". When did this entitlement get so out of hand? I've been a BM three times (years ago). If any of those women had asked me to do any of this crap, I'd be out the door.

Never been a bridesmaid (though my big sis has asked I be her MOH when she marries her fiancee)

Shocking seeing the finances that got into it (here we don't do showers, hen do's are rarely super expensive and it's on the bride traditionally to buy the BM dresses)

The entitlement of some of the brides in these experiences is shocking though...

Mrs.Morales - seriously? Did you even read any of these stories? They are horrific and disgusting. When your "friends" are bridezillas who treat you like crap, then no, it is not an "honor" to be a bridesmaid.

Ack, I am with Centerpiece on this one, and super grateful I don't have any stories from my 2 stints as a MOH.

I have never been a bridesmaid, but I was invited to a bridal shower once and was told to wear a light pink dress that was below the knee (apparently it was a pink theme party and dresses above the knee are trashy), bring a gift from a specific bridal shower registry (which would have been fine if the cheapest thing had been under $60), bring a main dish for the luncheon, and once we got there the bridesmaids asked for us to give them money for them to have a spa day with the bride the day before the wedding...

At my brother's wedding, the entire wedding party (like 12 people) was asked to accompany the couple for pictures in a park...and then they didn't take ANY pictures of us. We accompanied them only to watch them take photos. We stood around for what seemed like hours with people gawking at us. Awkward.

Reading these are killing me inside!! UGH what is wrong with these woman and HOW do they find men to marry them???

@m ....Can we go back to "dyeing my skin" for a minute? wtf...

She wants us all to get fake spray tans which she thinks look natural.

note: everyone asked me why she was so orange at our wedding.

It's not the worst I've ever seen, but to say it's natural is laughable.

@Trisha!!! Hahaha! I thought the same as some of the other ladies. I had to do a double take! I was only a BM in my mother's wedding when I was 16...and she didn't ask me to do a thing. This is pure entertainment right here as I never would think people would actually ask people to do this stuff!

ETA: I am the 2nd of my friends to get married which is why I havne't been a BM. One didn't have a bridal party but I participated in his and his hubby's and ceremony.

That's a little over the top to require it. But I get spray tans a lot and the place I go does a great job! They really do look natural. They had a great deal on a ten pack a while ago, so I bought it and told the girls IF they wanted a spray tan, I would pay for it.

I did a spray tan for my wedding day, it actually looked pretty good. But I did close to the lightest possible since I'm normally pretty pasty white lol.

I don't really have any horrible stories, I've been in 2 weddings and they didn't ask for anything too ridiculous. I feel for you ladies who had to deal with crazies!

I have the potential in being asked to be a BM. I love her to death and she's a BM of mine but...I've already heard her mention that the wedding needs to be set up, torn down, cleaned up entirely by 1am. I'm talking the tables, chairs, dishes, decorations, etc. No thanks.