Monetary gifts only?

FH and I are planning to spread via word of mouth we would appreciated money or contributions to our honeymoon being as we already live together and have most things you would typically register for. We are however going to register for some things for those who would rather buy a gift since this is more traditional and his family is southern.

What we did is register at places that way if people MUST get a gift they can, but we have told people that becasue we dont know where we will be after the wedding due to jobs and such we can use the cash on things we may need later berses getting tons of dishes we have no need for nor the place for, or it be totally not the style of where we move after the wedding whatever. i think as long as you give them the option to buy or give $ it is fine. also what i keep telling myself is...if i dont like it or cant use it we can aleays take it back.

I thank everyone for their views and opinions. I guess at the end of the day people will give what they want if they want. I will do both register and the wishing well idea. We will probably end of spreading the word ahead of time anyway. I guess it's interesting the comments because the people I know have so much love for us that they're willing to give in whatever form or fashion that I have asked (not in a way that takes advantage but in such a way that people are willing to do because of the kind of person you are). So I guess it is about knowing the people around you and I thank God for his many blessings in my life especially the people.

@ Nancy T. hope you still see this. Can you really register at Lowe's or Home Depot? DS wanted to but I told him he was nuts! There was no way you could register there.

That was a good ideal i was thinking the same thing me and my fh have been together for 12 years we have two kids brought our house about four years ago and i was wondering the same thing i think my of our friends will give us money see that why i love ww u ladies are so helpful

I've heard you can register at those 2 places.

I kind of want to since we have projects to do for our house!

I do not think it is tacky to want cash for your wedding, but it isn't quite polite to tell people that's what you want. If it was completely outrageous, there wouldn't be Cash Registries. Check out Depositagift.com. You can create a cash registry to purchase whatever you want. There are also honeymoon registries if you need funds for a trip together.

Beautiful August.: Lowe's doesn't have a registry. Home Depot does, but it is very badly managed. You have to go in to the store to register--no online registry. You select items by writing down their codes, since they don't have those point and scan guns. Even after you create a registry, guests can access it in only the physical store, and only if they have your registry number. (It cannot be accessed with just your names.) If they go to a different Home Depot, they will have to have the store number of the one you originally went to. And even with all that, many of the Home Depot employees seem to be unaware of the existence of the whole registry system.

Your best bet is probably to create an Amazon registry. You can put anything available online (not just things available online) onto an Amazon registry. So you can create and edit it online, and just add to it things that are available from Home Depot online.

We used depositagift.com and loved our experience. one really nice thing is that they offer helpful wording suggestions so that you aren't "asking"...you're creating a registry and are able to share with your guests in a really personal way why it is important to you. in the end, a bunch of guests told us that they liked it better, especially the initially "doubter" parental friends b/c it helped them get to know us more -- it's really THAT customizable. and this way, you don't have to figure out any "asking" language for your invitation insert, you just put the depositagift registry link on your wedding website like any other registry, and put the wedding website url out there as you normally would.

I will never understand why it is ok to register for outrageous priced China dishes or a toaster, but asking for people to contribute the same amount of money for a vacation or other unique registries is considered a heinous crime.  It is just ridiculous.  You register, you are asking for people to give you money.   Period.  

To answer your question, we are using something similar, but it is more versatile, as it is a "wish" type registry.  Mainly we are hoping people will gift us with things for our money pit of a house- paint, dry wall, floors, etc- it is set up so that people can "gift" us X amount, we cash out at the end.  You can do it as a hoenymoon type as well, it all works similar in the end.  www.uponourstar.com is who we are going to use.

I don't need fancy china, what I need is a floor to put my kitchen table on.  I personally find that more palatable then asking someone to buy me a 100.00 place setting.  

We wrote this in our invites...

"You have been invited to our wedding because we want you to be there, not because we are expecting a present in return! The most important thing to us is that you are there to share in our day.

However, since people do often want to give gifts, and we would like to avoid receiving things that we won’t use or that we already own, we have been asked to offer some guidance to those that wish to do so.

Although not traditional, we would appreciate contributions to our honeymoon. The memories and photos of a trip together will mean a lot to us, and last a lifetime. Our aim is to travel sometime next year to Peru to visit Machu Picchu.

If you would prefer to give a physical gift, we have also set up a traditional gift list with John Lewis. " then followed by our gift list details - we didn't have much on it, but knew that some family and friends would want to buy a gift, and would want it to be something physical

We are also established and don't need anything. I have nixed the ideas of a bridal shower and registering. Most everyone knows we are established and word is getting around that we aren't registered.

I was writing about couples massage for my blog and I came up with a whole new concept for an alternative wedding registry - in which you give a choice that people could provide services for you as an alternative or an addition to buying things.

You might include practical items like shoveling snow, helping paint your new house, or even doing some ironing however, you could also invite your guests to come up with their own suggestions - you might discover some hidden talents amongst them. It seems like a thoughtful way to ensure that celebrating your wedding doesn't cause your guests financial stress and for second marriages, especially, there comes a point at which looking for the ultimate gadget verges on what I like to call kitchen-porn.

Mirabai

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