Monday-Morning wedding: Will anybody show up?

Can you do a Monday on some 3 day weekend that more people than usual will have off - something like Columbus Day or Veterans Day? That might get more people there.

No, I'm sorry. Unless you were my daughter or grandchild, I'd send my regrets. Monday mornings and weddings are kind of like having Thanksgiving on a Sunday. I don't think your mother is fear-mongering -- I think she's trying to help you. Sorry, no offense intended.

If you really want an unconventional wedding (which would include Monday morning), then you'll have to be ready for an unconventional turn-out.

If you were close family, I would go. If you weren't, I wouldn't take a PTO day to go. It would just depend on how close we were.

I know if our wedding was on a weekday (even at night), we would have a lot of people who wouldn't show up.

I'd go if you were my daughter, my sister or my best friend. Cousin, decent friend, nope. And considering if I were close enough to you to be one of the first three, I'd do everything in my power to convince you that it's a bad idea. I don't like waking up early for work but at least theyre paying me. Now to wake up early for your wedding to not get paid, spend money for a gift and my attire and go eat breakfast/brunch which is my least favorite meal of the day, I'd be bitter. I don't care how beautiful of a venue and wedding you'd have, the whole thought still sucks. That's the brutal truth. Sorry

@Zoe--See, that is EXACTLY what I thought, but I also know that this is not the normal way of thinking, so I thought it best to get others' opinions. I also know that I would really prefer going to a Monday morning wedding, but, again, not the norm.

I guess we will be making our final decision once we've seen all the venues, gotten quotes for a Friday morning, and spoken to those who are not as certain.

Anyway, I really have no idea how early/late we want to do it, though this is somewhat another thread. I know we don't want it too early, due to traffic, me being a night-owl, etc., but we also want the reception to be around lunchtime, so people don't get grumpy, waiting for food.

Oh, and we aren't looking at venues way outside of our budget. We simply created our budget around what we were quoted, based on what we initially wanted, which IS the Monday morning wedding.

Anyway, thank you to everyone! I'm going to bed; it's super-late over here.

We had a Monday wedding.....only 1 friend showed up for dinner. Some people may not be able to get out of working or they may not be able to afford taking a whole day off, or they may just not want to use a vacation day to go to a wedding because you never know if something like an emergency comes up in the future whether you'll need it. I'm not saying don't do it, but if you do just go in with the attitude of "it's okay if they can't make it".

My neice had a friday at 3 pm wedding. I don't think there was more than 30 people at the reception. 10 of the people were still at work during wedding time.

I would pick a saturday wedding. People are not going to lose a day of pay if they can help it.

I'm having a tues wedding. I'd say go for it if you don't care if people show up. I do think that fri morning would be better unless you're planning for Memorial Day

I agree if people want to be there they will, and I think that means whether it is a Monday morning or Saturday morning. That's what I just keep telling myself.

I actually think its fantastic, I would kind of love to start the week with a wedding!

Unless everyone in your family is a chef, a dj, in the theatre or hotel industry, or recently graduated college, don't do it. No matter how much they love you, they may have to say no unless it's a Monday holiday, which often isn't much less expensive than a Sunday.

Monday morning doesn't have an ambience.

It sounds like an awful idea to me. I'm having a Friday evening wedding and am worried about it, but Monday morning? I'd guess a lot of people would miss it. Not because they don't want to be there, but for practical reasons. They won't be able to even take a half day, it's a full day off. Just do a Saturday morning. I think the right venue would give you a good deal.

I don't know, for me, I wouldn't go because I'd have to take off work and I don't get paid when I take work out and vacation time is always valuable. Even if it was someone close to me.

Monday morning is not party time. If you're eloping with 10 guests and then going out to lunch, yes. It can work. We do this three times a week. But anything larger and more inclusive than that is probably not going to fly.

I'd rather attend on a Saturday, but I'd be willing to attend a Monday wedding for a close friend.

I didn't read through all the comments, so sorry if someone else already said this...

I'd ask your mom one more time to give you specific details of how many people are complaining, who they are, etc. I'd tell her that if she can't provide those details, then you can't appropriately assess the situation.

If *you* are concerned about having low attendance, then I'd say polling your guest list might be a good idea. However, if you aren't concerned and/or don't find this as important as the date/time you are choosing, then I'd say go ahead with your original plans.

Honestly, if it were me I might grumble a little bit because mornings in general are not my thing, but I would definitely rather support my friend/family member than not show up just because the time was a little inconvenient.

Exactly what Celia said ... If you want a JOP wedding or elopement with only a handful of people there, great. If you are looking for a full traditional wedding with a reception ... sorry, but no way I'd be there. I can't even make it to my friend's bachelorette parties midweek because while they are in the same metropolitan area, it takes me 90 minutes to get there due to traffic. If you are in an "expensive" area I assume that means it is a city or close to a highly populated area. Monday morning = unpredictable traffic among other less tangible reasons.

You're probably nt going to want to hear this, but you're mother is right. If you want a high percentage of invitees to be there, stick with Saturday morning and be flexible with your date if your dream venues are taken.

Also want to add that I'd rather driver farther for a Saturday morning wedding than have a Monday morning wedding the next town over.

I would never go to a morning wedding. i would never go to a weekday wedding. sorry - but logistically and lifestyle-wise that is just a total clusterf*&^.

i've had a very close personal friend get married on a thursday night, and i was like "are you KIDDING me!?!?"

just not practical at all in the real world.

if you want people to share in your special day, you need to consider their lives. sorry.

Monday's are tough. I would be more prone to attend a Friday or Saturday morning wedding. But if Monday is what it must be then I would do no earlier than 10ish a.m.

I want to know where everyone works that can just up and take a Monday off for a wedding. Or any weekday for that matter.

Sorry, but the whole "those who want to be there will" is BS. Some people can't just up and take a day off whenever they feel. I know my fiancé can't, his vacations are picked in April for the entire year. As far as using a sick/personal day, thats kind of tough too. Some people have bills to pay and just can't afford to take the day off.

I'm having a Saturday night wedding and I have people that just can't take the night off for a wedding.

If you don't expect a high turn out, then go for it. But I would not attend unless you were immediate family, and even then I'd fight you on the idea.