Monday-Morning wedding: Will anybody show up?

Honestly I think that may be difficult to plan. Weddings on Saturdays are more expensive BECAUSE of the fact that is when most people are available. If a weekday wedding is your dream, then I say go for it. Whoever will be there will be there, but if your dream is to have a lot of guests in attendance, don't be upset if you get some rsvp regrets.

I'm not sure how early you're looking to have the wedding, but I'd rather get up for a Saturday wedding than a Monday wedding. Another consideration is how far people have to travel. Is everyone local? If not, they may also have to take off Tuesday to get home. However, in the end it's your wedding and you can do what makes you and FH happy.

I'm with His #1 lady. I think Monday morning are tough in general to even make it to work on time, so can you imagine people trying to get to your wedding on time? How about a Friday morning since you want to make it on a weekday.

I would make sure you send Save-the-Dates and do it either on a Monday or Friday morning, I bet you'll get more people if it's not the middle of the week. If you're concerned about it, it might be easier/better to do a Saturday morning wedding. I wouldn't want to get up early on a Saturday but I definitely would for a friend. I think it also depends on how many guests have to travel and where in their lives your guests are. I have 2 close friends who can't come to my Sunday wedding because they have work stuff--one has to be in Russia for training, and the other has to be in DC early Monday morning also for training. My friends couldnt be there no matter how much notice we gave because they can't take off from mandatory trainings. Also, the closer your guests are to you, the higher rate of attendance you will likely have.

See I feel that a wedding is not just about the bride and groom but about bringing two families together... if you make the wedding at a time that no one can make it or its hard for people to make then what's the point of having a traditional wedding? How about you invite close family and have a destination wedding? Personally, if I'm already giving a gift, getting an outfit, maybe a babysitter, plus travel expenses and the wedding is on a very difficult time to make I will be very unlikely to spend the money.

I think it depends on the kind of wedding you want. If it will be immediate family and a few close friends only, then it will work. If you were planning on more guests than that though, I'm not sure that it's a good idea. Not everyone can or is willing to take time off for someone else's wedding.

I wouldn't do Monday. If I had a Monday morning wedding to go to I'd be like ugh, I have to go to a wedding Monday morning....

Friday would be okay. Saturday would be best. A destination wedding would be the best as you could have it any day & everyone would be on vacation so it wouldn't matter!

Thanks for the responses, everyone.

I have a huge family--and we're talking close family, not extended family--so the guest list is already family and some very close friends. Additionally, I would just like a decent PERCENTAGE of the guest list to show up, if that makes sense.

Also, we're working hard to make it happen in the same town as most of our guest list, because we know it will be harder than a weekend.

We've also centered our budget around certain prospective venues, the time of day and week, and so on, so putting it on a Friday morning instead will make us go back to square one, and, as we're flying in to make arrangements, view our venue shortlist, etc., and only have a few weeks, we really can't afford to start over.

I really think that she's making it sound worse than it is. She ALWAYS does this with EVERYTHING, as, unfortunately, she's quite the pessimistic drama queen... but idk. What do you think; should I ask around, to get a general feel of what people think?

I think everybody hates mondays in general no matter the occasion, but a Friday would be a great excuse for a 3 day weekend for the working crowd. Mondays for some reason seem more difficult to take off then a Friday, but your wedding is still some time away so regardless it would give people time to plan some time off. It is a little tricky I would try that friday instead, you'd still get the weekday price which is alot cheaper then a saturday and people I think would most likely be drawn to a friday wedding.

You can do what you want but Monday mornings are not fun in my opinion. I'm sure your immediate family will still show up because they love you but there will be bitching involved whether you hear it or not. I would not expect a great turn out.

You need to ask those she's claiming don't like it, but I'm with the general consensus that I would rather get up for a Saturday morning wedding than I would to have to take time off of work (especially if my job didn't give me PTO benefits) for a Monday morning wedding.

I would much prefer a Saturday morning wedding to a Monday morning wedding. Seriously, people can get up, it isn't am inconvenience unless you are thinking before 7 am. I would hesitate about going to a Monday morning wedding bc it would make me feel like it was done on Purpose to discourage yes rsvps.

Also yes if I have to get up early on Monday I would want to get paid, lol. Not use up a vacation day.

Wow just realized my AMAZING typo... hehe

If I got an invite to a Monday morning wedding, I would probably go if it was a close friend or a family member who we see often. Other than that, I think I would not go- unless I already had off for a holiday

I would prefer Saturday morning over having to take time off work.

How early are we talking? I don't think something like 10am or 11am is a big deal. Most people are up and about by that point anyway. I am assuming you aren't inviting a bunch of college kids who sleep until like 2pm LOL.

I wouldn't like a Monday morning wedding cause then after all that fun and excitement I just have to go to work the next day. I would say a Friday Morning wedding cause then you will most likely get more people and its a great way to start off everyone's weekend.

I'm not sure I understand why you'd have to start at square one? You can still fly in to see the venue; are they not available on Friday or Saturday morning dates??

I don't think your mom is fear mongering..it's a legitimate worry that you'll have a small turn out. While yes they will come if they care enough to, they may have a "case of the mondays".

You would have to be pretty darn close to me for me to go to a Monday morning wedding.

I wouldn't want to use a personal day to go to a wedding. i don't like the idea...but to each his own.

I don't want to make it too early; in general, I'm not as much of a morning person as others. I'm totally up for suggestions on this.

We'd be starting at square one because the venues we talked to knocked down their pricing to, literally, a FIFTH of what they normally charge, just to get us in at that time. These venues also mostly don't give any discount for a Friday morning, and most of these venues are already booked up for weekend dates that we'd be looking at instead. I AM listening to you ladies, and we will ask the venues about the Friday morning rates, but I'm not too optimistic about what they will say. Also, we want a nice wedding, but we also want it in a specific (somewhat expensive) area--BECAUSE most of the guest list is from there, including my sickly gramma, so we have to be picky on the venue.

Maybe 85-90% is close family or close friends. The others are people we know won't show up, or else mom and dad's retired friends.

I hope I answered all questions.

I think the people closest to you will make the effort, and you may save a bundle on Random Strangers who won't come. I like Monday AM-- people can travel on Sunday, go to the wedding, and head home in the afternoon evening.

If I had to go to a weekday wedding then I would want it to be on a Friday. If it was on a Monday I would probably have to take Monday and Tuesday off. Just my opinion