Hi all... don't know if I am looking for advise on how to manage, for someone to tell me I am being too sensitive, or just to vent...
I got engaged to my long-term (near 4 years) boyfriend 12-21 and have been so excited! My mom however continues to rain on my parade... I was married and have been divorced once before so this will be my 2nd wedding and every time I mention anything wedding related she has something (not really nice) to say....
examples:
Dress shopping chat:
her: What are you going to wear?
me: A dress... (excited) my BFF and I are going "window shopping" this Saturday..
her: I suppose that's ok... you could wear ivory or maybe blush, or a light pastel... I just wore a suit for my 2nd marriage.
Because apparently if I am divorced I will be struck down at the alter for wearing white
BM chat:
me: I don't know if I wan my sister to be MOH, (long story) maybe a BM, I want my BFF to be the MOH
her: YOU'RE GOING TO HAVE BRIDESMAIDS? REALLY? (truly astonished sounding) You know this is your 2nd wedding right?
Guests chat:
me: we are thinking small and intimate, maybe 50 people
her: You think you know 50 people to invite? don't 2nd weddings just go to the courthouse and afterwards maybe meet a few people for dinner?
These are just a few of the remarks she's made, and not even the harshest (IMO) and it's getting to the point that I don't even want to talk about the wedding with her. I have tried telling her several times that this day and age people get divorced and there are a lot of 2nd marriages.. and that just because I failed the first time doesn't mean that this time doesn't count... It's also FH's first wedding and I don't feel like he or his family should be denied the wedding experience because I was married before...
Am I nuts to be having an actual wedding, with dare I say, bridesmaids and flowers and a cake? She's making me feel like I am being ridiculous... and I really don't think I am... I think I need some reassurance here...
Thanks for listening.