MOH is a zilla!

My girls are also picking out their own dresses in the color I picked. My sister is my MOH and totally fine with that. I'd appease her by making her bouquet extra special or getting her nicer jewlry. In regards to inviting her friends instead of the guests you've picked, you have got to be kidding me. It's your wedding, and not hers. She needs to be made aware of that.

Don't mind what I'm going to say, I'm very tired & depressed so I'm not trying to be b*tchy, I'm just blunt sometimes... sit her down & tell her it's not her wedding. Who you invite is none of her business. She needs to stop complaining because you have more important things to worry about. If she's really worried about the 'recognition' then ask your BMs what they're thinking of wearing & then pass it along to your sister so she can be more easily recognized as the MOH. Guests usually figure the sibling is the MOH/Best man anyway. Tell her if she's not there to support you then you'll have to make a decision you don't want to... demote her (& for your own sake). Maybe then she'll shut the f*** up. GL. Sorry if this came out poorly :-(

Completely forgot about the friends issue, i would allow a " 1" type of thing. not a whole group of friends, completely uncalled for.

Funny thing is the two guests she fussed over are actually her friends too! She just wanted me to invite her other friends also. I set her straight today about all of her craziness, but don't know if I can stand 510 days of her drama.

Binx-Sorry to hear that you're depressed. Thanks for the bluntness. I rather that than sugar coated. She is always about the drama so I usually tiptoe around her cause I don't want to deal with it. She likes it always to be about her and this time it's not. I will be even more forceful with her next time. Thanks for the advice.

Wow! She sounds like tons of fun! Geez...

The MOH isn't always recognized with having a different dress, there are other ways to show that she's the "MOH".

For one, she will be standing closest to you, sometimes they also have a larger bouquet than the regular bridesmaids. You could also have her wear a sash or something 'extra' to make her stand out.

But from the sounds of it, maybe you should just tattoo b!tchMaid of Horror on her forehead! That would get her the recognition she deserves...

Aww Mariel love I hope everythings ok!!

@Amy--shut the front door! I can't believe the audacity of some people. Mainly she should be appreciative and honored that she is even in your wp to begin with..esp as moh. Rude and insensitive lady you got there. I agree with "binx" ;-) sit her down..inform her sternly that this is not her wedding, it is not her money, it is not her place to open that mouth of hers and bark out any "recommendations" whatsoever. Your friends come to YOUR wedding..hers to hers. Good luck! I'm grateful my sister in law is honored to be my moh..thats the way it should be.

NP Amy, sometimes ya just need to hear the 'truth'. Mrs. Welch is right on the different dress, bouquet & sash thing. My MOH is wearing the exact same dress as my BMs (who happen to be my younger sisters) but in a slightly light color, that will be the only difference. & does she not know that people know who the MOH is based on the fact she stands next to you, Oh & is the one to walk down the aisle right before you. crazy people, lol.

Yes, you def need to stand up for yourself & be more forceful!! :-D

The only difference with my bridesmaids is I'm going to see if my sister in law (moh) can have a bigger bouquet maybe with a white accent. Other than that she is in the exact same dress..

Mrs Welch the tattoo is a good idea. My bm actually suggested i have her wear a little jacket to make her stand out since my sis is COVERED with tats.

Nicci-I think that's the problem. She doesn't see it as an honor, but a right since she is my sis. Plus she is super competative with me although I don't compete with her.

Binx-that is what I told her...standing next to me at ceremony, holding my bouquet, name in program. wait til she finds out we are doing a sweetheart table so she won't be sitting up front either1 ARGH! I decided I am not going to do anything to make her stand out besides the normal moh things. Her "all about me attitude" has ruled our relationship and for once it really has to be all about Amy.

Hahahaha, she'll prob have a fit about the sweetheart table, lol. I can't wait to hear what she says about this!!! Yes, it is all about Amy (&FS) but ya know what I mean. Oh, are you going to ask her to make a toast? Because that's another thing that makes the MOH stand out from the other girls.

FS & I made a 180 decision about our WP (we didn't want anyone standing next to us). Then my mom told me my youngest sister was really hurt & having a fit, mom asked us to reconsider. So we reconsidered, all because of a sister... they're soooooo annoying sometimes. lol.

@amy .. my sister assumed she was my MOH , and with that being said she never wanted to do anything !, so when i told her she was actually a bridesmaid and my bestfriend was my MOH she just took herself out of the wedding and said she isnt coming all together..Dont worry about the "holy war" in your family it's your wedding and you do whats best for you, the MOH doesnt have to "stand out" from the rest of the wedding party , like BINX said she could make a toast or do something special too you to make it known that shes the MOH!.. sisters are idiots sometimes , and they always want to take over. Be strong its your day and you deserve the best

Binx-She already mentioned doing a toast. No doubt a classless one. She acted like she didn't know what the MOH duties were, then when I failed to mention all of them (cause I don't want her doing them) she started rattling off stuff she was doing. Wish i only had brothers. My bro is so laid back and his gf is a hair stlist who offered to do mine and entire BP hair for free and my bro is paying for my makeup. As my date get's closer I'll prob post a weekly Stef said forum with all her wackiness for that week. At least everyone can feel better about their MOH knowing how crazy mine is.

Mrs B-I mentioned having my bf be MOH to my mom and she was not for it. She said my sis would be so crazy about it and would whine to her all the time. She asked me to make it my sis to save her the trouble. Needless to say my mom and sis are selfish peas in a pod. Thanks for the well wishes.

I LOVE when people assume their positions & other crap. ;-)

note the sarcasm, lol.

Good for you! I was just going to suggest a sweetheart table! Also, tell your photographer that you want a shortened photo session with the bridal pics... and maybe you just want special photographs of just you and parents or with Mom, and of course lots more emphasis and longer photo session with just you and FS.

Don't forget the first dance and your thank you speech.

JJ-I'm a little confused about your posts. Sorry but I don't get it?

Amy, I think she means instead of having say 20 shoots with the wedding party have,I don't know... 5. Also, like JJ said, do more photos with your parents & his. Take a TON of time out with your FS for photos as well (just to piss her off) lol. Okay okay, that was just mean, sorry. ;-) But I think that's what she means.

As for the dance & thank you speech... I think she means to flare it up.

My sis is not my MOH but she doesn't know that, I just asked her to be in the bridal party, my friend from FL is going to be my MOH because she is able to do more with me even though the distance is greater, she has less stress in her life and it will be easier for her, I am already inundating her with emails every day, I am blessed she cares about me. Both women will wear the same dress with the same sash, I don't want people to think they are different, they are both special to me and since it is a small wedding, I will have the distinctions printed in the program, one is my Matron of Honor and the other my Maid of Honor, there, they both share the same title in a different way. . . ?????