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MOH is a zilla!

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Amy "Been here too long" W., on June 13, 2010 at 1:56 AM

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Today my sister, who is my MOH by default, finally asked me about wedding plans. I have been engaged for 1.5 years and set the date in Jan. So needless to say she is not that excited about my wedding. When i told her that the BM are going to pick their own dresses but in the color I wanted she freaked out. She actually said "If everyones dress is different how will people know I am the MOH? I have to do all that crap for you and don't even get recognized for it? Is she serious!?! I thought the MOH did "all that crap" because she wanted to support the bride, not for recognition? When I said that to her she tried to laugh it off, but I know she was serious. She also criticized some of my guest choices and tried to guilt trip me into inviting her friends. I can not demote her to a bridesmaid because she is my sister and it would be holy war in my family. Any ideas on how to deal with her? I am not a pushover or afraid of confrontation so tell me what you really think I should do.

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Master December 2009
JJ · on June 13, 2010 at 11:36 PM
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Amy, I was merely suggesting ways to emphasize that the day is about you and your FS, not about your sister as the MOH.
Those are just suggestions to make it more about the bride and groom than showcasing other people, who are trying to grab some more attention.
Binx is absolutely correct in what I meant.
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Mrs.Monster2be · on June 13, 2010 at 11:38 PM
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Slap her
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Amy "Been here too long" W. · on June 14, 2010 at 9:23 AM
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JJ-I get it now. I don't think she is trying to steal my thunder, just steal the BP thunder. She wants people to know SHE is my top choice and SHE is my best friend(not). My sis is really jealous when it comes to me and my friends. She gets offended if I don't want to spend all my time with her. She has a hubby and 3 kids, so it's not like she is alone. I only see her about 1 time a month since we are both so busy, but she will get mad if I tell her I am going to a friends house or even to see our bro. She wants me to have no one but her.
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Amy "Been here too long" W. · on June 14, 2010 at 9:27 AM
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After writing my last post I realized how sad my relationship is with my sister. Wow, it is bad! I hate that I have to coddle and lie to her so I don't upset her. She is a grown ass woman!
I am so glad I found this site and reallllllly appreciate everyone hints and support. just let me know if my drama becomes too much to stomach. I don't want to be a whiney bride.
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~FabulousBride~ · on June 14, 2010 at 10:59 AM
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I agree with Mrs. Monster... Slap the sh*t outta her!
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FMS, the barefoot wife! · on June 14, 2010 at 11:08 AM
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YIKES! My sister was the same way, figured she 'had' to be in the bridal party because she was my sister..NONE THE LESS, just tell her to pick her own dress as long as it's the same color as the others and not to worry, people will know she is the MOH because she is standing right next to you..yada yada, as for the guests, just tell her that you and your FS are inviting the people you are closest too and that you cannot accomodate her friends.
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