I need some advice on how to handle a situation with my MOH, as I'm not sure exactly what to do.
When I asked my sister to be my MOH she was so excited and immediately started asking what I wanted my bachelorette party to look like, and pretty much the only thing I said was that I don't want alcohol involved (unless it's someone having a cocktail with a meal or something) because I don't drink and don't enjoy the atmosphere of being around drunk people. For months she told me all of the fun ideas she and my other bridesmaids were coming up with, but then all of a sudden decided she didn't want to throw a bridal shower or bachelorette party because it would mean her having to attend them either on regularly scheduled days off or use vacation time.
Now she feels guilty not doing anything and said that on a weeknight the week of the wedding she wants to make a big pitcher of some cocktail recipe she just found and have the other bridesmaids over to my house to drink (she is staying with FH and I the week before the wedding). I'm trying to be appreciative that she wants to do something for me, but I would honestly rather not do anything than what she has planned. She also doesn't seem to realize that she is the only one who won't have to work early the next morning, and chances are that only one of my other bridesmaids would be able to join us and only for an hour at most.
Is it rude to say something to her about this? If not, how would you go about it? I don't want to seem selfish or unappreciative, but I am just not at all interested in this at all.
