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Modesty, what modesty?! Oops! Help?

Kelly, on December 8, 2016 at 2:44 PM

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I am normally not a bare flaunt figure girl...BUT I fell in LOVE with a spaghetti strap mid dip back with the girls getting a bit more attention then normal up front. Not sexy or anything, but definitely not my norm. THEN our last counseling meeting the Priest asks that I try to keep the bridesmaids...

I am normally not a bare flaunt figure girl...BUT I fell in LOVE with a spaghetti strap mid dip back with the girls getting a bit more attention then normal up front. Not sexy or anything, but definitely not my norm. THEN our last counseling meeting the Priest asks that I try to keep the bridesmaids modestly dressed. Thankfully I let my girls pick their dresses and all went for comfort so no problems there. But, me?? The dress is a lovely classic ivory and lace. SO, ANY IDEAS? I am so far as to see if I could sell back my dress, or resell it. I have had suggestions of a long veil, but that won't help the low cut factor up front. Just looking for other views. Maybe someone has a great idea I haven't thought of yet -that would be awesome LOL TIA Smiley smile

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  • Mrs. TacoCat
    VIP September 2016
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    This is already a pretty modest dress IMO. I would not change a thing.....

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  • Nonna T
    Master April 2014
    Nonna T ·
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    That dress will be perfect.

    Well said MrsSkiToBe.

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  • BlueHenBride
    Master March 2017
    BlueHenBride ·
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    I think the front of the dress looks pretty modest as is. It looks like it really isn't low cut at all.

    I can't really see the back, but I think your veil should make it less obvious that it's a super low back.

    Yay, Casablanca!

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  • KSera
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    KSera ·
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    Not sure if anyone has suggested this, but I've seen very cute jackets/overlays/toppers that you could look into for the ceremony (can be taken off after):

    http://www.tulipbridal.com/wedding-jacket-lace-bolero-wj010.html?gclid=CMTOl5625dACFcSCswodl48H8w

    http://www.davidsbridal.com/Product_lace-topper-with-buttons-ow1005_jackets-and-wraps

    http://www.davidsbridal.com/Product_open-back-lace-applique-topper-wg160_jackets-and-wraps

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  • K
    Beginner May 2017
    Kelly ·
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    We started with a different Priest. He was moved to a different Parish and our new Priest is very by the book...which I greatly enjoy. The front is actually lower on me. ...maybe the size difference between the model and I ha-ha.... Maybe the idea of two different ones or something close to that. I am hoping the veil does good covering the back though! The front I will look into a modesty panel. Smiley smile THANK YOU ALL SO MUCH Smiley smile

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  • futuremrsP
    Super April 2017
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    For the ceremony you could get some sort of jacket or topper for the church. There are many options out there. I would look at BHLDN website they have some really cute cover up options.

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  • MNA
    Master April 2018
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    Unless you have a huge bust and are spilling out everywhere (in which case you either need to order the dress bigger or choose a different dress anyway), I don't see how this is any less modest than like 90% of the dresses out there. It looks like a pretty standard strapless with a low back.

    I'm failing to see what the freak out is over. Your priest, on the other hand, needs to stay the hell out of it unless your church specifically has rules against it.

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  • Nikol
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    Nikol ·
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    Pictures or it doesn't exist.

    ETA: saw your picture and I don't think it's too sexy at all. It's beautiful!

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  • Kels
    Expert July 2017
    Kels ·
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    Can you wear like a shrug or a little jacket? Just for the ceremony? Lots of bridal shops sell those. My one friend wasn't allowed to wear strapless in her church so that's what she did and it was beautiful. They make all different kinds

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  • Sara
    Master April 2017
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    There is nothing wrong with that dress to me. The veil will cover the shoulders and back. Please dont change the gorgeous neckline of the dress!

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  • K
    Beginner May 2017
    Kelly ·
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    Our church hasn't always been the most traditional so never considered it. Our new Priest on the other hand is very traditional. Which is so great to see! Just wasn't expected

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  • Mrs. B
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    Http://www.bhldn.com/the-bride-bridal-cover-ups/?cm_sp=LEFTNAV-_-SUB_CATEGORY-_-BRIDE_LINGERIE_COVERUPS

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  • RiceAndRoses
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    The veil will cover up the back at the ceremony. You can wear your hair down to cover your shoulders and give your back a little more coverage. I think the front looks fine as long as you're not spilling out of it.

    Most churches don't care. I'm surprised he even brought it up.

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  • Caitlin
    Master July 2017
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    I would suggest going with a jacket for the ceremony and then you can take it off for the reception to show off your dress and not have to worry about finding a second dress or reselling it

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  • Mrs.D
    Master July 2016
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    I personally think that dress is fine. It's gorgeous!

    If you're worried, I agree with a double layered veil, or a lace jacket or topper or something along those lines.

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  • Mrs.K
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    What if you get some sort of bolero or cover just for the ceremony and then take it off for the reception?

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  • Blair Waldorf
    Master October 2017
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    If your chest didn't fit in the dress they should have made a note in your order to open the cup so you're appropriately covered

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