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Maggie
Champion October 2025

Modern or Traditional: RSVPs?

Maggie, on October 16, 2018 at 11:05 AM

Posted in Etiquette and Advice 85

How are you asking your guests to RSVP to your wedding? Are you sticking with the traditional paper RSVPs? Or are you embracing the modern approach and asking your guests to RSVP online? How are you asking your guests to RSVP? Modern… Photo from The 7 Best Times of Day to Plan Your Wedding Or...

How are you asking your guests to RSVP to your wedding? Are you sticking with the traditional paper RSVPs? Or are you embracing the modern approach and asking your guests to RSVP online?

How are you asking your guests to RSVP?

Modern…

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Photo from The 7 Best Times of Day to Plan Your Wedding

Or traditional?

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Photo from Jennifer and Ryan's Wedding in Sedona, Arizona

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85 Comments

  • Abby
    VIP March 2019
    Abby ·
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    I was thinking of going the modern route to save money but then I found all-in-one invitations from Minted that I love so we'll do the traditional route!
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  • C
    Super October 2018
    Cassandra ·
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    Hi Maggie!! We got a lot of people that RSVP through our website, then texting. I think only 2 people called us.

    We we only had to reach out to about 10 people who didn’t RSVP at all, which is normal.
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  • Across The Stars
    Devoted October 2019
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    Totally traditional for us. We haven't picked the invitations out yet though
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  • Stephanie
    Devoted October 2019
    Stephanie ·
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    I will probably do both paper and online. Not everyone is computer friendly.
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  • M
    Super October 2018
    Michelle ·
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    Modern. RSVP was on our wedding website
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  • edecker
    Super December 2024
    edecker ·
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    Traditional! From a family of scrapbookers, the invitations and papers are so important! I also love how elegant and fun and snail-maily it is! Definitely excited for these!

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  • caitie-lyn
    Dedicated January 2020
    caitie-lyn ·
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    Traditional. It just seems a little more elegant. Plus, our older guests, like grandmothers, are not internet savvy enough to RSVP online.

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  • Z
    Dedicated October 2019
    Zoë ·
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    In this case, we are actually going with Traditional. I love RSVP cards and getting to fill them out and send them back to people, so I definitely wanted to do them for our wedding. And my FH does, too.

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  • Nikita
    VIP April 2019
    Nikita ·
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    RSVPs will all be online. We will be doing some online and some print invitations (print for older adults and parents for novelty sake).

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  • HayMrsO
    Master October 2018
    HayMrsO ·
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    Traditional. Although we did do all-in-one invites, which were kind of unique.

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  • Gipperkm
    Super September 2018
    Gipperkm ·
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    Traditional! Our friend (and one of my BM's) designed our save the dates and invites. We definitely wanted to do it this way because it was more meaningful having a friend design them and they helped set the tone for the concept and feel we wanted for our wedding.

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  • JustKidding
    VIP April 2018
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    Traditional. I wanted the cards back.

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  • Futuremrs.lord
    Dedicated June 2022
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    We're 50/50 on this one. We're sending out paper RSVP's with the invitations but on our wedding website which will have a password we'll have an option to do it there as well, but it's mostly a backup.

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  • Danielle K
    VIP June 2019
    Danielle K ·
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    Both. we will include the paper rsvp but also the option to rsvp on our website.

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  • Lacy
    Super December 2018
    Lacy ·
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    Modern. We are mailing invitations but guests are responding online.
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  • Mmssecrets
    Devoted March 2019
    Mmssecrets ·
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    We are sticking with the traditional form for RSVPs. Most of our families are NOT tech savvy (for that matter, nor am I)so snail mail is the way to go.
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  • MrsV1027
    Master October 2018
    MrsV1027 ·
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    Traditional! I loved getting them back in the mail

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  • Korynn
    Dedicated November 2020
    Korynn ·
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    We have both options available to our guests. We have the RSVP function set up on our wedding website, and will also be sending out physical cards since not everyone attending knows how to properly use the internet.

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  • Maggie
    Champion October 2025
    Maggie ·
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    I love that!!! Shout out to your friend/BM for bringing such a special meaning to your invites! Did you ask them or did they offer?

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  • Maggie
    Champion October 2025
    Maggie ·
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    Interesting, as a backup. I hadn't thought about it that way, FutureMrs.Lord, but I can certainly see it's value! I know I've lost an RSVP card once or twice before!

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