mob watching moh and Bride Fight

I am not sure why people are surprised that a bride, who her childhood friend is the MOH would still say this person has to show up to a wedding after a break up... moh or not why would you miss your bff wedding, but that is just me... in regards to the party, I believe a moh should organize a bachelorette not saying pay for everything but put effort in, not even as a moh but as a bff I would want to make sure my bff had the most amazing time. I do believe a bridal shower is a family duty. I do understand she wanted to make a playlist since there is no dj, break up or not if you offer something for your friend you should do it or if you can no longer do this task atleast let people know so plan b, c and d can come into play

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The bride announced before they were even broken up that in the case that the relationship failed both people would still "have" to show up for the wedding. That was a ridiculous and inappropriate thing to say.

I think you're way too involved in the relationship between your daughter and her friend.

View Quoted Comment But what best friend since childhood would even want to miss the wedding just because of a break up

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Doesn't matter. The bride is wrong for expressing the thought, period.

View Quoted Comment Everyone has their own thoughts.... I would never miss my bff anything over a break up and if she missed something of mine because of one I would be extremely hurt but I’m not going to argue with someone I do not know lol I have my thought you have yours please do not go back and fourth with me on mine thank you

The bride sounds faultless in this story, but you're her mother so I dont buy it. She obviously said something rude to the MOH that has MOH mad.
I'd literally do anything for my MOH. She's my ride or die. If that means asking a friend/cousin/whoever to not roll up to my wedding because they were in a relationship that didn't work out, I do it.
It is strange that she's making a playlist, its even stranger that y'all chose $300 dresses and didn't pay to hire a dj or musician.Being a bride is a tiny, small part of life. Getting married and needing some support from some bridesmaids is a 2 way street. Just because I'm getting married doesn't give me a pass to stop being supportive of my friendships.Your view is completely self-centered. And if your daughter has a similar view, well, her friend not responding to her makes a lot of sense. And your daughter probably owes the girl an apology. You're over 2 weeks out. The playlist has plenty of time to get done. If you guys dont think it will, start it yourself. Should have been your daughter and her fiances job anyway.If MOH didn't throw a shower, then it's someone else's responsibility. I told my bridesmaids to not worry about a shower as that was a family responsibility. My great aunt and second cousin are throwing my shower, and my fiance's aunts are throwing a shower.My bachlorette party is a collaborative effort by all my bridesmaids. And the one heading it up isn't my MOH. She's contributing, but two of my bridesmaids are stronger when it comes to organizing adults.So throwing the MOH under the bus because no one else was willing to step up is also rude.

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Extremely high expectations? That's a bit much. MOH is an adult. If she was uncomfortable with taking that task on, she should have been an adult and said so at the time so other arrangements could be made. Making a soundtrack is not too much to ask. It's now more work to find a solution to this task at the last minute, when MOH could have easily said, this is too much for me. Which, BTW it's really not much to ask.

First of all, no one should ever assign a BM or MOH to plan a party. Any close friend, or female relative, may volunteer to do a bachelorette or shower. Because closest friends are often in WP, they often volunteer. But if they do not volunteer, alone or with a group, it is considered extremely rude for bride, or family, to tell them to do one. It is like a gift of time spent planning, and money. Asking for more than someone wants to give is not nice. The parties are optional, not all bride's get them. Only if people volunteer. Many times friends and family not in WP are the first to volunteer, because they are not already paying for dresses, or travel, lodgings, or grooming . I hope you folks apologize for being presumptuous, assuming she will do what you tell her to. Bride and groom are responsible for planning things, getting to get her music, anything. And only those who wish to do extra things, do. And between the party and soundtrack, you have been over the line.

View Quoted Comment I agree. It's like announcing , this is the Me, Me, Me show, and however upsetting any future event may be for you, make sure to put ME the bride first. Who does that? How incredibly self-involved.

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