mob Dress Color...i need help! What color did you choose?

View Quoted Comment I feel you but I definitely care, I'm a matching girl, I need order lol. I think your moms color will look good with your color combo.

View Quoted Comment Yessss agreed! Our moms have been asking what color and I was thinking well I don't have many to choose from lol. I know it's important because I do want everyone to look as a whole for the pictures. Us and black and green and them in pink and orange would look ridiculous.

I love your color scheme, colors work well together! Thanks so much!

View Quoted Comment Yeah that's what I thought too lol...it looks better!

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Considerate moms are better than ones that show up wearing god knows what

View Quoted Comment Yes they'll pick something comfortable and something they love, that's obvious........

They'll still also get to pick they're own attire...I'm literally just talking about colors and fabrics.

View Quoted Comment You shouldn't be dictating what colors or fabrics they can wear is my whole point.

I agree with everyone, let them chose and for my bridal party I told them to wear orchard purple, with gold accents the green is in the bouquets. Because my colors are gold, purple and green apple. The matron of honor is wearing gold with purple accents. The groomsman will have black tuxedo with the gold purple and green accent in there coursages. Everyone is choosing what they feel comfortable and what they can afford but run it by me first. So it's up to you my dear try not to over think it.

Do moms have to be in the same fabric as the brides dress? (My dress is Satin) No, I can't even remember what fabric their dresses were.
•Do our moms need to match styles? Again, no. I just told them whatever dress they felt comfortable in.
•Does both our moms wear the same color? No, that would be a little too matchy for me. My mom was in dark blue and my MIL was in burgandy.
•What are your color schemes for your bridal party? Bridesmaids were in sky blue, groomsmen were in black suits.

View Quoted Comment 🙆🏾‍♀️ but it's my wedding lol To dictate is like giving orders lol what orders did I give? 😂😂 You know I try to give as many facts upfront to prevent situations such as this from happening on my posts but I reallyyyyyy didn't think I needed to say, OUR MOMS ARE ASKING US WHAT COLOR SHOULD THEY WEAR!!! I literally just asked about colors, fabrics and matching styles. Our moms are moreeeee than happy to wear whatever color we say because they know we're not going to be down their throats like "PURPLE, you can't wear purple or WTHeck that color is awful, you NEED TO GO FIND A BLACK DRESS" No...we dont roll like that! You are that person that comments on posts with nothing but your OPINION instead of sticking to the post, I can totally see that. Again I asked for help about the color gold or another color that we could possibly put them in. Not about me dictating their attire, you dug too deep and I think you missed the whole point of the post.

View Quoted Comment 😂😂😂 couldn't have said it better!

View Quoted Comment They will be choosing their own attire. The pictures of the dresses were for color purposes only, like different shades of gold (probably should've stated that) but I'd be doing the samething as you, giving them a color or colors and letting them pick whatever they want! Thanks!

View Quoted Comment Ok cool...I do like the idea of having the moms in two separate colors although I'm a matchy girl. Your color combo still went nicely together. Thanks.

Only because they are asking you (if they didn't ask I would leave them alone to wear whatever they want)!

I think any rich, saturated shade of purple or blue or deep burgundy (really any jewel tones) would coordinate beautifully with the black and emerald, or something in gold/beige tones.

View Quoted Comment Oh our moms are totally asking lol they are ready to shop! Ok so serious question...why does it matter if they asked or not? I honestly couldn't imagine parents not asking lol...like not asking for permission but more on the side of, "hey what color should we wear?" Or them being interested and excited so they can get to dress shopping. I'm really confused sometimes on these topics. I do love the deep burgundy color or jewel tone idea 😍😍 We'll definitely look into that!

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It matters just because they're adults who can dress themselves and not part of the wedding party (yes they're walking and will be in pics, but so will lots of other uncolor-coordinated people!) Totally nothing wrong with giving them suggestions if they ask though, i just wouldn't ever try to dictate it unless they wanted it.

Our moms never asked about colors, but did ask us about styles (long, short, formal, etc) - we gave a them a general idea of the level of formality and color of the BM dresses and GM suits and they just picked dresses they liked from those cues!

View Quoted Comment Ok I see the route you took but whattttt moms are totally apart of the wedding party lol. The wedding party consists of those that are actually participating in the wedding. Moms rank above anyone else in my book and will be in the most important pictures (to me) while all the rest of the uncolor-coordinated people are at cocktail hour. The bridesmaids/groomsmen are also adults who can dress themselves yet brides tell/suggest/enforce/dictate to them daily on what they can and can't wear. I don't see the difference and I don't get why people keep throwing "they're adults" phrase out there. Everyone's an adult lol!

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Totally true that everyone is adults and could dress themselves. I think partly that's why there's been such a shift toward mistmatched bridesmaids, or just pick any dress certain color type of deal. In my mind, the bridal party is only your BM/GM - that's who you take the majority of the pics with, that's who sits at the head table (if you're having one), etc. So I get why people might want them to match. For what it's worth, I also think it's rude to dictate what the bridal party wears unless you're paying for it (i know that's not traditional, it's just a weird wedding hang-up of mine). I picked out all my girls dresses and paid for them.

I personally wouldn't consider parents part of the bridal party - VIP guests, absolutely - but that's why I wouldn't ever dictate a color - I wouldn't dictate what any of my guests wear!

I think you're handling your mom/fmil totally the right way - there are just lots of brides who go insane trying to dictate what their family or other guests are wearing. That's not cool and I think why so many people are saying "they're adults, leave them alone!"

View Quoted Comment Totally not cool and totally not the dynamic of my family and friends ( I am not that crazy bride lol) I know they loved you paying for them, easy breezy for them. I'm not paying for my girls but I'm definitely keeping in mind of their budgets.

I did read something about a bridal party vs. the wedding party and the difference but I'm like just keep it simple lol. Great points and good discussion, thanks.

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Same, good luck with everything!

Now that you mention it I would like my mom to match my wedding colors too. She's already picked out a navy blue dress but she hasn't bought it yet. I'm going to have to ask her if she'll consider wearing a blush pink