Mistake of announcing my pregnancy days after SIL announces engagement

Quite honestly that is pretty selfish of her to feel that way, people can be happy for many reasons and both of them are good reasons.

Your SIL seems to be a selfish and spoiled brat! Why would she be mad because you announced your pregnacy?? Makes no sense to me!!

I think your timing is fine. You stated your parents already knew, so why would it matter. I agree with Lori just one more exciting life event for everyone in your family to be happy about.

It was really nice of you not to announce it the same day. Other than that, people really do not have a time monopoly on good news. How long should people not share their news? How long is the engagement limelight supposed to last?

She's being silly. Being that way, I don't think there was a perfect time for you to share your news.

But congrats on the baby!!!

She sounds selfish. It's not like you announced it on the same day, even if you did it shouldn't matter. Bth are happy events and people are capable of being happy for multiple people at the same time.

She announced over email that she was engaged, is she not around much? People have a hard time being happy for others, yet they expect others to be happy for them, it was nice of you to wait to tell people, I don't think I could have waited once I got to the point of telling people lol, congrats on baby

I don't think you made a mistake, but if you feel badly, just apologize. Tell her you didn't mean to steal her thunder, you were just (rightfully) excited about your own news and you wanted to share. You tried to give it a few days to not completely overshadow her. She's probably just feeling a little put out... if she doesn't get over it soon then I wouldn't worry about it. You did the best you could and the fact that you feel bad about it at all says you didn't have mean intentions. Don't be so hard on yourself. And congratulations!!

Congrats on your great news!! Like Mrs. S said, there is no rule that says you have to wait a certain amount of time between announcements of good news...she should be happy for you and happy at the fact that you were kind enough not to announce your news on the same day as her!

It's two different events so you aren't going to overshadow her. She may feel that the baby news will take away from the excitement of her news and wanted to bask in it for at least a week before everyone is tired of hearing about it anyway. Has there ever been a competitive aspect of your relationship with her where she thinks you did it on purpose (not that you could really plan gettin pregnant at the exact time she got engaged but some people have far fetched ideas lol) ? I can see her being disappointed that she wasn't the center of attention for more than 3 days it's an exciting time for both of you..hopefully u can get passed it. Congrats on the baby, how far along are you?

What is wrong with people?! You shouldn't feel bad at all. How is an abundance of good events a bad thing?! She needs to grow up.

I hope you have a wonderful, uneventful pregnancy.

CONGRATULATIONS!

I think you're an incredibly sweet person to even give a crap. And it must have been sooooooo hard to bite your tongue that first day when she sent her email! I'd quit beating yourself up about "only" waiting 2-3 days and start patting yourself on the back for thinking to wait at all. That was very generous of you.

What did she want you to do, wait until you were in labor to tell anyone so she could get all the attention for another 8 months? Pfft.

You don't have to do anything. Just be genuinely excited for her and show lots of interest in the wedding. If she's a decent human being she'll reciprocate and all will be right in the woods.

And also if a S&P shaker shows up complaining about her SIL getting pregnant to steal her thunder and asking "Am I wrong?" I will be happy to tell her "yes."

Congratulations on your need addition to your family. Please keep us posted about your progress.

Now on to your SIL. If her engagment was so important to her, why did she make the announcement to everyone by email?! Okay, so now that she is engaged, no one can make any life changing announcements (having a baby, starting a business, getting married, etc) How selfish is she?

I see a Bridzilla in your future.

I am sorry , I didnt even Congrats you, I wasnt happy when I read that thread. I would much rather be happy at the announcement of a new baby than a wedding. Thats just how I feel.

Congratulations on your pregnancy! So happy for you and your H! Now, it's been said before, but your SIL is being silly. First of all, it is two different events, then it is not as if you had planned to get pregnant about the same time she gets engaged, and on top of tha what happened to people not being able to be happy for other people? I would have been ecstatic if someone had announced their pregnancy around the same time I got engaged because I was so happy and ready to hug every freaking person in the universe. That being said, I think you are so incredibly sweet and thoughtful, and if she can't see the beauty in it, screw her. Let her join WW and we will put her in her place lol

Wow, great news! Congratulations!! Your SIL is being extremely immature and selfish. What is she? Two? Just as there is enough love to go around, there is also enough happiness to go around. Your happiness does not take away from her happiness. I don't think you need to do anything, as you did nothing wrong. I hope she grows up and sees that.

Congratulations on your pregnancy!

If you really think about it, you were pregnant before she was engaged... so she's stealing your thunder, right? I think the whole thing is silly and I applaud you for considering her feelings, but honestly... I wouldn't worry about it. You both have big news and your family is big enough for all sorts of happiness!

If it makes you feel any better, my BFF's cousins got in a fight because one of them is getting married in October and the other is having a baby in October. The cousin getting married thinks that the other cousin should have planned her pregnancy around her wedding. Umm.... seriously???

First of congrats!

I understand why she might be feeling that way, but I don't think you did anything really wrong. Good news is meant to be shared and it's wonderful your family has so many things to celebrate just now!

I think you should just talk with her and explain that you wanted to share your news and didn't want to have to wait a few weeks for your parents to be back, especially since you have known you were pregnant for some time. Perhaps she has no idea what your parents were doing.

I think she's being a bit silly since good news is good news! Right now it's just compounded! Also, I think it was generous of you not to share on the day you intended because you wanted her to be able to bask in the glory of being engaged for a few days.

I don't think you are in the wrong at all!!! She is being super selfish!! I would just ignore it, she will get over it... she is being very immature!!

And congratulations!!!!

Congrats on your baby to be!

You did not do anything wrong. Seriously. There is no rule stating that only one person at a time can have good news or get married or have a baby. It is ridiculous for her to think that the world stops for everyone else because she got engaged. It's petty and immature. Since FH and I have gotten engaged, 2 of my cousins have announced their engagements and never once did I feel like they were stealing my thunder- I am totally over the moon excited for them and already looking forward to attending their weddings. You have every right to be happy about your pregnancy and share it with the world, so don't feel bad for one second.

Congratulations and I agree with everyone else. She's being really selfish and it's not like you can control when you got pregnant. I'd be honest, tell her that you knew that day and were going to tell everyone but that SHE stole YOUR thunder.

Lol.

People need to get over the fact that others have lives and that only one person can't have exciting news at a time.