Missing Man/ Fallen Soldier table

@ Stephanie - thank you to your FH as well

@ Shauna - please do not bring a political debate to this thread. There are plenty of people on this forum who are marrying into a military family or who are active/retired military members. If an "outspoken liberal" wants to say their piece, they are more than welcome to, this is a public forum. But purposefully stirring the pot is not necessary.

@Shauna Stop being a downer. Maybe we have suggestions she didn't know about it, maybe one of us has done this before. Also being a liberal doesn't mean we don't give a shit about the military. Take your political crap out of the forums.

Shauna, hate to break your stereotype but this outspoken liberal loves the people that protects her freedom with all her heart. I don't need to love the people that put them in dangerous positions, though.

Way to turn this thread into something ugly though.

It's funny how people bring political crap into every other forum when it's suites them. I was just responding to the rude remark towards me. Not trying to bring politics into, just asking OP to please do your research from verified military sources not a wedding forum.

Suits** thread***

OP, I respect what you and your FS are trying to do at your wedding too much so I'll let Shauna continue to put her foot in her mouth without argument.

Thanks again to your serviceman!

I care because I served, my father served 28 years, both my grandfathers served, my cousins served, my stepsister serves. The Missing Man Table isn't something should be taken lightly and by just asking on a wedding forum for advise is not going to get it done right. That's why I care.

Obviously it was a good move on her part to come here though because she was directed to the proper resources.

As someone who has served, it is very disappointing that you think you have only received support from conservatives/Republicans. But you would do well to stop being so closed minded and look at the diverse people that do "give a shit" regardless of their political affiliation.

@Shauna No one said she was taking this lightly. She asked because she wants to do it right.

My problem is not with OP's question. I made my suggestion to researched from a verified military source. My problem comes from the rude response to my comment. I'm glad some people were able to direct OP to some good sources to use.

And yes my response back was also rude. I do not think that the only support for military come from conservatives or Republicans. So I apologize.

OP even said she has been doing internet research on this very topic, because she wants to do it correctly and respectfully.

Clearly you know everything there is to know about this subject, so maybe you could try being helpful?

Just a thought.

OP, in the Wikipedia it states the missing man/comrade table has evolved over time and is not governed by DOD nor service specific guidance. That is probably why you have seen it done multiple ways, such as a single seat it a six seat for all branches and civilians. I believe the USAF uses the yellow ribbon instead of red for some reason.

I'm not even going to address the liberal crap FFS

We have different definitions on what "rude" means then. I apologize that my "no fucking duh" to a response that I thought was just common sense, came off as rude to you.

You should understand more than most people that 2 wrongs don't make a right though. Maybe next time you'll stop to consider that rude people aren't always liberals and liberals aren't always the enemy.

Can your FH ask one of his higher ups? Someone who sets these tables up at events and balls?

His CO should know who he can contact.

I'm not even sure how to respond to that. I never said "all rude people are liberals" or "liberals are the enemy". Yes I see a lot of opposition to the military from liberals and that is where my comment stemmed from, on these forums it is common to see very liberal views and conservative bashing as if everyone on here is liberal. So I wouldn't personally bring anything having to do with service on here.

So I will apologize one more time and if you would like to keep going that's fine but I'm done with this conversation. I'm sorry for my comment about liberals it was uncalled for and rude. I shouldn't have responded that way.

Shauna, that is how your comment made you come across. That is the impression you send people with those comments. We all need to be intentional with what we say because it can come across completely different than what we had anticipated, just like I didn't expect my comment to start this back and forth.

Peace and love, Shauna. Peace and love.

That is fair LillyBean. I should have thought before I posted it, I just reacted though. Sometimes I have a thicker skin with the comments on here and today I just let it get to me.

Well that escalated quickly!

Thank you everyone for your suggestions and thank you to those who provided some great resources. This is very important to FH and myself to get it right.

As someone who served in the Israeli army and who's future husband is a marine, and has a father who was Navy and a grandfather who was a marine, the dead don't give two shits about politics. The OPs discussion was about honoring them and their service. Period. End of story.

Let's refocus

This is such a beautiful gesture and a big thank you to your fiance for his years of service!!!

Despite the fact that @Shauna is trying to ruin this with her utter nonsensical BS, I think this is such a beautiful thing to do. I do not have suggestions as I have never seen this done, but I am so intrigued and would love to see how it all plays out.

A big thank you to your FH for his service!!! XOXO