Mismatched shoes - Bride and Bridesmaids - ok? Does the bride have to buy shoes before the maids?

Seriously? You're worried about this? Making everyone wear the same shoe is the most cruel thing I can think of to do to a woman in bridal party. They all fit differently....give them a color shoe to wear and be done with it.

They don't have to match at all. If you do want them to match thats probably something you should offer to pay for. I wanted red shoes and got mine before my BMs. I told them I wanted them all to have the same color. Either black, red or grey/silver. They all chose red and aren't getting the same shoe. It will probably all be different. The dresses are long but even if they weren't I'm not really concerned with their shoes. Plus they are all different heights and I doubt the really tall girls want to wear 3 inch heels like me.

My bridesmaids can wear whatever shoes they want... I really do not care. I told them they can be barefoot if they wanted

No you don't need to have your shoes coordinate with theirs. My bridesmaids wore grey wedges, I had ivory lace heels. I bought mine first just because I found ones I loved from Kate Spade on sale. Most people won't see your shoes. And their shoes will only show if they have short dresses.

No one's shoes need to coordinate. At all. I told my BP to wear whatever they're comfy in (especially since our dresses are long), but they insisted THEY need to wear the same color, haha. But anyway. If you dictate what shoes they wear, you should be buying them.

Your shoes don't have to match. My bridesmaids will all wear silver shoes but styles, comfort level, whether new or already owned, etc is up to them. I want them to be comfortable.

I agree with others - i told my BMs a color (gold) and that's it.

The Bride's shoes are the most important. My shoes are going to be amazing! That is all I know! I love shoes and I want some really great shoes for my wedding day. I hope my BP wears shoes that is all I ask. LOL! OFF TOPIC: I saw a really cute idea on Pinterest and that is to have flip flops in your wedding colors in all differest sizes at the reception with a cute little sign that says dancing shoes or something. I will be doing this for the BP and guests who want to take thier uncomfortable shoes off at the end of the night and dance dance dance!

Shoes dont match. my bridesmaids all wore different "neutral" shoes (not a bright green) and i wore gold- i honestly have no clue. Only reason i could see this being something to worry about is if you as a bride are in a short dress

Sometimes. Maybe.

I've seen some where the shoes were a statement - if you were going that route, then yes. For example, bright yellow pumps with cocktail length navy dresses? Yes, they should all be the same. And yes, as a BM I would find that annoying, but so is buying a dress I would never wear again. That may be where this idea is coming from.

Neutral shoes? Just give a guideline. Long dresses? Same thing.

My opinion is that they should wear something comfortable to stand in all day. Give them a guideline for color or palette and let them be.

I have been in two weddings and both brides just asked the BM to get silver shoes. Any style as long as they were silver.

WARNING!!!! My BM dresses are in "once upon a time". Its a beautiful blue but ABSOLUTELY IMPOSSIBLE to match with any other blue. I am not exaggerating. We could not find ties, vests, etc. for the GM that matched anywhere. We looked at major retailers, small tux shops, online, everywhere.

As for the shoes...they don't need to coordinate at all. Your shoes should match your dress, and their shoes should match theirs. However, all the BM shoes should be the same color.

I let my BM's pick their shoes, they picked a red shoe and we sent photos to the BM's who don't live here and if everyone agreed then they bought that shoe. I bought the shoes for my Jr. BM since the other girls are older and wanted a shoe that was a bit more expensive. We purchase a bunch of flip flops of all different fun styles and colours and they will be in a basket at the front of the dance floor for everyone who wants to get out of heels and wear flip flops. I do not have my shoes yet, I do not think you have to match your bridal party. My BM's shoes are Red, mine will most likely be Ivory or something w/ bling and something fun!

I'm going to have to disagree with many of these statements. The only reason I picked black cocktail dresses was to have everyone in matching bright red shoes. I love that look! I also have bm's with different widths. It's very possible to accommodate everyone though with ordering online. I found cute little sling backs that come in narrow-extra wide! And for a great price! I don't think it's 'cruel' so long as you're considerate of all the girls needs. And, for the record, the bm's picked their dress. We shopped together. I told them they could all do different dresses, so long as they're same lengthish. They all fell in love with the same dress and ordered it! They all will wear it again. It's not that big of a waste for them!

I've never been in a wedding that required us to wear the same shoes. Give them a color and let them decide. If the color you choose for them ends up matching your shoes, great. If not, also great. They don't need to match.

Yeah I told my girls the color I wanted them to have and the overall style since their dresses are short. They were all cool with it.

My BM dresses are short, so I requested they get gold metallic shoes. I wanted to match, so I bought some too. I recently found some Kate Spades online that I like better, oopsies!! They'll still go together pretty well though.

I gave my BM's the carte blanche when it came to shoes. (and dresses for that matter, though I did give them the color) We will be in the sand and then of course there is the dancing later on, so I told them to go with something that they felt was comfortable. Both of them are going with some type of strappy heel, but they do not match each other. I think it's nice to have your BM's individual style and personality be reflected in some way, since no two girls are alike anyway. But that's just my opinion. It's your day so you can do what you want. I've seen it both ways and either are great.

I would be very unhappy if I was in a wedding that the bride made me wear a particular shoe. My feet are narrow and my heels are kind of pointy, so the back of some shoes really hurts and gives me bad blisters. I understand picking a color and maybe even a style (pump versus strappy sandal) but I don't think the shoes have to or should match exactly.