Military Bride

I’ve noticed most people ship presents in advance and don’t bring them to the wedding.
Shipping won’t be too expensive if he can use his fpo box - it will be standard continental us shipping - or at least it was when I was there as a military family.

Never assume anything as every social circle is different. Some people will bring them to the wedding. Others will ship to the couple's home. It's a go with the flow type thing.


Asking for cash in any form is rude..even gift cards. Guests will decide on their own what to give.

Will most guests know that they are moving to Hawaii? Pass it along through word of mouth that the couple won't be able to transport a bunch of gifts home after the wedding, so either shipping items directly to their home or cash gifts is preferred. As long as you only give this instruction when people ask about their gift preference (which people will often do if there's no registry), it's perfectly polite.

I would say something like
“Given their state of residence and its distance from the wedding, the bride and groom requests that any gifts purchased be shipped to __________.” That way, you’re not specifically asking for money or gift cards but you are letting them know they’ll need to ship any gifts. Now, I can’t promise that everyone will read or pay attention to that request, but it is worth a try. 😊

I say spread the information by word of mouth and maybe put some information on their website

"The bride and groom will be flying in from another state for the wedding and will have limited luggage space on the plane home. Your presence is the present. No physical gifts, please"

Communicate that to guests and loved ones in proper ettiquite.

It used to be customary to sent or delivery gifts to B family home, or be told otherwise. And families and shower holders and good friends would deliberately pass it on in conversation. Did you know that before the wedding, the couple is moving to Hawaii? I have the address, if you are sending anything, and I am sure they put that on their registry. And registries I used allowed specifying, hold to ship until ( date). Shipping address _____. 🙃 In a way it is funny. This question of moving right after marrying comes up a lot. Once, very few people stayed in the same place before and after marriage. Now, so many live together first, and move at random times, not the wedding date, that people wonder what to do to ship to a post wedding address. But the post office, and registries, were set up for post wedding moves for generations, and it is easy. When I was in the service this was old routine to them. Putting it in an invitation is presumptuous. It says I expect a gift and this is where you send it. That is out. But it is quite polite if all your close friends and relations pass it on out of great concern that the newlyweds receive cards and letters and holiday things,
and gifts.