MIL issues

Mines not coming to our wedding because we wouldn't invite 1 guest..

I pretty much gave up on mine. For a variety of reasons. She will be at the wedding but we don't have much of a relationship

I don't think mine will come either but I also do not care because I feel like if a person doesn't speak to me, they do not need to be at my wedding.

Mine isnt coming because we didn't invite her cousins and now she has spread horrible lies about us and convinced all of her family members not to attend our wedding.

@Melissa how does FH feel about her possibility of not coming, ours is next week and its hitting FH like a ton of bricks that she's not coming.

Prior to getting engaged, my MIL and I had a great relationship but wedding planning has definitely ruined it for us. She has become very controlling and constantly forgets that that isn't her wedding...especially since she isn't contributing financially for the event. I choose to not speak to her unless necessary!

@Becoming a Mrs, he talks to her about it but she is very stubborn. When he proposed, she told him "its your life do what you want". Our son graduated the other day from pre-k, she came but never said a word to me. I know its hard on him but I have tried in more ways than one to fix this but she never wants to talk nor hear what I have to say. Maybe as it gets closer, he will feel it more. Oh but the best part is, she sent him a guestlist with 26 people yet doesnt speak to me nor is planning on paying.

My MIL is great but my own mother.... we went 4+ years only seeing each other 2 or 3 days a year.

Just because you're family doesn't mean that you need to love or even like each other. This may sound terrible but it's true. It took a lot of grief and tears before I realized it.

@Melissa Mine wanted 30 to our 100 person wedding and wasn't paying I told her to try to keep it closer to 20, I told her 1 guest on her list wasn't invited because she is disrespectful to me (she knew all of these issues) then decided to cut us out of her life because of it, not without saying awful things first though! FH was okay with her not being around and cutting her out of his life but it's starting to get to him really bad and is really hurt. She had all of his family decline our invite as well her her 20+ guests we still invited anyway after not speaking to us for 5 months.

I'm sorry that is happening to you. It's a shame that make life so difficult when this shouldn't be.

My FMIL is not causing an issue with the wedding person she seems supportive and interested but not intrusive. She gives input when asked and that's it. My issue with her right now is that she is bullying my FH. He drives her into work every day and the entire time she is saying how horrible of a son he is. Saying he is getting fat (he's not) saying that his sister is a much better person then he is. I'm not sure what to do. He comes home so beaten up and stressed. I feel horible for him

FH and I have been together 4 1/2 years and I haven't even met mine... He doesn't speak to her at all

I didn't think I was going to have MIL issues, but lo and behold...Due to a "discussion" that occurred between FMIL and I soon after I got engaged to FH, I feel apprehensive about being left alone with her now. Two months passed before she could bring herself to utter words of apology to me (at FH's urging mind you). Despite the forced apology she gave me for "the misunderstanding" (her perception of how it went down) I cannot bring myself to drop my guard around her anymore. Worse - I inherited the ability to have a lasting grudge when my person and beliefs are challenged for no good reason. I can forgive, but I cannot forget. Hopefully it mends with time, but if anyone knows of ways to get over a grudge quicker I'm all ears.

Well... The first time I met My FMIL almost 8 years ago, she pulled up FB and showed me FH's ex-gf and told me he never will get over her (oh, hi nice to meet you too) on numerous occasions has told me that my FH doesnt love me, that I have ruined their relationship (in reality, I am the only reason they even communicate but ok...) and has called me a "gold digger" (interesting, as I basically supported both of us PLUS her while FH finished his masters) oh and she also said I was possessed and tried to purify me with holy water. So yea, we have issues. I assume she will come to the wedding and cause a scene as she typically does. I have not included her in any planning so far. Happy to read these posts though, glad I'm not alone!!

Yeah I gave up on mine a long time ago too. So has FH. And a lot of the family. She literally sucks the life out of everyone around her. Her invite is on the fence, 100% up to FH but it's too early to say which way he's gonna go.

Mine has threatened FH with not coming because we are giving his dad a plus-one for his longtime serious girlfriend (and no one from his dad's side of the family is coming) and his mom got so mad that she said she wasn't coming because she isn't getting a plus one even though she is single and a whole table full of her family is invited... She yelled at FH in public at lunch in a restaurant where he invited to treat her. She proceeded to yell and then cried, then after lunch sent him a series of texts telling him off and swearing at him. She is also insisting we invite certain people we don't want at the wedding and that we cut people from our list that she doesn't want there, even though she is not contributing financially or otherwise to the wedding at all. I'm seriously worried she will cause a drunken scene at the wedding...

My FMIL is a nightmare. I haven't spoke to her in 3 months. FH has a really rocky relationship with his parents, and they basically blame me for taking away their son. God forbid he's happy. She's the most toxic person I've ever met.

My DH and his mother do not talk to each other, thus no invite was extended to her. I have met her and most likely never will.

Haha! Oh boy.. I definitely have MIL issues. FH doesn't really talk to his mom a whole lot due to some of the things she has pulled with us. We keep in contact with her, but its minimal. We love her but she has done things that have been very offensive and at times she makes me out to be the evil person who stole her son away.

She complained about things regarding the wedding before, during (the wedding day), and after the wedding day. Mainly it involved the location and little details here and there. DH pretty much told her that if anyone else had a complaint about the wedding to talk to him about it vs always complaining to me. (I have a way where people can make me feel guilty rather quickly and she knows that. She will complain about decisions, DH and I make, and she tries to make it seem like it's all my fault for the reason she is unhappy (despite the fact that DH and I made decisions together. I expressed my frustration and feelings with DH and he took care of things)). Oh? Once he told her that if people had an issue with things to talk to him, everything was dropped. I haven't heard one complaint form her.

DH and I started dating over 11 years ago -- and honestly her behavior has just gotten worse through the years. She was fine until about 6 years ago, when DH (boyfriend at the time) decided he wanted to move with me to do my master's program about 6 hours away from our hometown -- then everything just started to go downhill. I've learned not to let what she says effect me as much - but I have to admit it has been a huge learning process for me.

It's so sad to hear about all these horrible MILs are doing. I'm wishing all of you ladies the best with your F/MIL