Meeting a potential officiant

What is happening right now?? You absolutely have a right to know what kind of services your officiant provides. Considering I have gay/trans relatives and identify as queer myself, I would never ever want someone that was uncomfortable providing services for a same-sex couple when it's legal in our state. @Mya - You DO sound ignorant. And complaining about a $99 officiant that "even atheists found absurd"?? What?? People of all beliefs get married. It is legal to get ordained online. Even if you're Wiccan. Geez.

@Nicole- I love your Mean Girls line.

Naaaah

Whether they perform same-sex marriages is relevant to the service they're performing. I wouldn't ask an officiant how they felt about abortion, but I might ask an Ob/Gyn whether they provide them. And if I was making a plan for end-of-life care, I would definitely ask my doctor whether they could perform whatever needed to be done.

@OP, I looked for a sense of humor and feeling that the officiant would be on board with the type of ceremony we wanted to have (not overtly religious, egalitarian, slightly humorous).

This thread is pointless.

How did this get so out of hand? OP was only asking what kind of questions she should ask an officiant. Mya needs to take a chill pill!

Add me to the list of people who will ask about our officiant's beliefs, if he or she performs same sex weddings, etc. It 100% matters to me. I would like for everyone at our celebration of love and family to support and promote equal rights for OUR family, which includes people who happen to be gay, lesbian, and bisexual. Even if everyone in attendance was straight (ha, unlikely) we would hold this same belief as allies.

I just checked to see if we had chemistry with ours. FH and I want a non-denominational ceremony with a bit of Jewish tradition included. I also want to write our own vows and we're pretty quirky, so I wanted someone who was willing to be creative and fun. We haven't met ours in person yet, but over FaceTime we definitely seemed to click. The best part is that we went with a company that has a bunch of officiants, so if we meet him and it doesn't seem to work, we don't need to break our contract with the company, we just need to find a new person.

Hahaha poor Sue. I think this needs a thread redo.

Mya is a creep.

Wow, I'm super late to the party on this one, and Mya has likely long-since skulked away, but...

Bravo to the other commenters standing up to that BS. I just wanted to chime in that I am Wiccan, and it's incredibly hypocritical and offensive for someone wailing about respecting religious beliefs to then publicly insult an entire religion.