May have invited more than my venue can hold, ahhhhhh!

Did the invites go out yet? You still have time.

Never count on OOT guests not showing up. All of ours did, including the out of country ones. And yes, some people have 100% attendance.

Did you send the STDs? Because obviously it's too early for invites.

I wouldn't worry too much at this point. With 158 guests and only being over by 8, I'm sure you'll have enough declines. Yes, there is the chance that 100% will RSVP but with that size of a wedding, it's unlikely.

You can't really undo Save the Dates, those people have to get invitations.

I definitely wouldn't invite anybody else! But I wouldn't stress too badly. Most people get at least a few no's. We didn't want to bank on it, so we were militant about keeping the guest list down to the venue max. But it's rare that you get a 100% yes rate.

Remember to count you and your FH into your head count for the venue and for rentals/etc!!! I almost forgot to do that. We wouldn't have had anywhere to sit. Oopsies! lol.

You have time before you send out invites, so if you didn't send out STD's, I'd look to see if there's anyone you can go ahead and cut -- co-workers you don't really see outside of work, acquaintances you really only keep up with on FB without any real communication, anyone you haven't seen or spoken to in a year.

Most likely you'll be fine and at least 8 people will decline, but if you want less than that even, you gotta cut the list (if you can.)

I did the same thing... Ours can hold 250 and we invited 268... But I gave everyone a date.... Like my brother and there is no way he will have one haha. Also ours is a Sunday and a lot of people are older or out of state so I think we will be ok.

I just saw the edit. Did you plan on kids or plus 1s? It's true, chances with that size of a wedding having 100% acceptance are low. I was just making a general statement that it's something people shouldn't count on.

No kids except for family kids and they're accounted for already. Plus1s are accounted for too.

I did forget to add me and him lol :/

If you start getting feedback from too many people that they will make it, you can cut plus 1s, in the worst case scenario.

Yeah I did the same thing. Also I almost ordered one STD/invitation per person. HOUSEHOLD. lol. Not person.

And then I almost counted the under-21s in the liquor license count. That would have made me cry - our liquor licensing was sooooooo spendy.

I forgot to add H and me to the FINAL count for the caterer. How's that?

So when I send out the invites do I put just the Household or if its a couple do I put the fist names of both people, or just 1 person...the head of the household?

When I sent my STDs I was not on WW yet so I didn't know who to ask. It was more of a jumbled mess of names. Oops

Did your STD's go out just to the person you actually know? Like, to "John Smith" not "John Smith and Guest" so they're already expecting a plus one?

On the invites, list only those who are invited. On your RSVPs, you'll want to list the number of seats you're allowing as such: "We've reserved ___ seats in your honor." Kris went as far as writing in the names of those invited as well (which also helps when people forget to do that themselves.

Oh no Mrs S, our caterer did all of our rentals and everything - we would have been screwed!!!!

Exactly what Reenski said re: the invitations. Do your invitations have inner/outer envelopes, or just the standard mailing envelopes? I only ask b/c when people have inner/outer envelopes, they typically write "Smith family" on the mailing envelope, and then the inner envelope says,

"Mr. & Mrs. John Smith

Casey, Alice, Ben" (kids under 18 - kids OVER 18 get their own invitations)

We used pocketfolds with regular mailing envelopes, so we just listed EVERY person on the mailing envelope, and then like Reenski said we wrote in their names on the RSVP card. Not b/c we were worried about people adding extras (our families are pretty good about that), mostly just b/c otherwise people can forget to write in their names and you have no idea who's just RSVP'd.

It's all a wedding industry conspiracy. They wanted a number of GUESTS. I'm not a GUEST at my own wedding! Evil, alien conspirators.

Anywho, what Reenski said.

A lot of the couples are mutual friends of ours so to the non-married I just did first names "John & Jane" and for married I did "John & Jane Smith" and for singles without a plus 1 just their full name.

For family kids I just wrote the names of the parents. So on the RSVP do I also add the kids names?

As far as putting a "adult party only event" would I order some that doesn't say that for the ones bringing kids and the rest that says that? Or is it ok for all the invites to say that as long as the kids are accounted for? Lol

Sorry if its confusing, thanks

I personally don't like the idea of saying "adult reception" when some children are invited, because if some kids are invited than it isn't adult only. I don't even have kids and that would bother me as a guest. My personal opinion is that it is better to just clearly define who is and isn't invited on the invitations (I love inner and outer envelopes for this reason). If someone asks about their kids, just tell them "I'm sorry but due to limited space in our venue we can not allow children who aren't immediate family or in the wedding."

@MrsO- Love that! Thanks

Everyone else's advice is really good too! Thanks

I'm not sure what you're saying but it's superrr tricky and might end in feelings hurt if you invite some kids and not others. You can't really say "adult reception" when you're inviting kids.

Then I would start by cutting the singles' plus ones. How much would that cut your list down to? You could always allow them after you have enough declines, but if your single friends have other mutual friends at the wedding, they should be fine for one night.

As far as the adult only thing -- where did that come in? You're allowing kids, I thought you mentioned. So it's not adult only. It's invitee only, which you're taking care of with some of the above suggestions.