Materialistic Maybe?

If you don't like it you shouldn't be afraid to say so. But you should be understanding to the reason that's what he bought. If that's all he could afford you can always upgrade it later. You have forever to be married to this man.

I doesn't sound like you are being materialistic; you aren't asking him for a 3ct diamond monstrosity. It sounds like the e-ring/wedding band isn't quite your style. Are you getting a new wedding band when you exchange vows/rings during your marriage ceremony? It would look weird to have two bands.

I would let him know that the silver band isn't your style, and that you would like to find a modest engagement ring, esp since you can't wear the one you have now b/c it is missing a stone.

Good luck.

I hear Tiffany, but this is not the engagement ring I envisioned.

Michele, I have been telling him for months. He says I will get a new one. I really wanted him to give me the engagement ring during the ring excchange, but it does not look like that will happen.

It doesn't sound materialistic, you simply don't like the ring. I am very particular about jewelry, so I totally understand. That's why my H proposed only with the diamond, and then we designed the ring together.

Anyway, do you think it's maybe a money issue? Or is he not sure he could pick out something you like? Maybe it's a surprise?

I get it...every girl dreams of an actual engagement ring no so much an engagement band. I think you need to talk. But if money is tight then wait and design one you both like ...

Its not a money issue, just a priority issue. Between the both of us we make pretty good money. He just likes to spend his money on other things. It doesn't help that he himself is not a jewelry person. He probably thought I would be happy with anything, and I am. However, I just wish he was a little more thoughtful.

Amy, whenever I mention going he says okay. Needless to say, we never end up going. So again its a priority issue.

Can you set a specific time? Hey mister, are you available on Saturday between 10 and 6 to go look for a ring for me? Yes, we're going to spend 8 hours on and but I may buy you dinner. I totally get it's a priority issue, but sometimes deadlines help.

Because what I'm wondering is if the ring will make it on time, even if you buy it now?

Mrs. S

I did not want to put that much pressure on him as I do not want him to think our relationship is based on the ring; which is why I drop hints and so forth. But ultimately I want him to do it willingly and on his own. Its not like I don't deserve it

I did not think about whether it would be ready in time!

I dunno this is a touchy subject. I see no problem with a band it's the meaning behind it. And perhaps he doesn't have the money or wants to surprise you for Christmas. Or maybe he's afraid to spend more because the wedding or he's afraid this won't be up to your standards either.

He put thought into that ring whether you realize

It or not. Maybe it bothers him that you're saying its not good enough. Also figure that the man is supposed to pick your ring, I think it's unfair

To demand a do over. But me and him picked

Mine together

He asked me what I wanted. I showed him and he got what he wanted instead. His brother brought his wife the same wedding band except her is gold. She likes her ring. Maybe he thought I would be fine with it as well.

Maybe he is planning a surprise for you. Maybe his plan is to present you with your new band at the ring exchange during the ceremony like you mentioned. I say wait it out till the wedding. If you don't get a new band by then....than go get a new one together.

Amy, if it is he's not expressing that. I even offered to by myself a new ring and he got highly offended and upset. After that I left the issue alone. I really think he does not see it as a priority, and it may not.

FH should be the one you can talk to about anything. If you're unhappy with the ring, let him know. Perhaps he wants to surprise you, but you don't want the surprise to be on your if you don't get what you hope for. That would show up in all your pictures. Is he the type to surprise?

I sent pictures of the type of rings I'd like when marriage came up between FH and I. I knew I didn't want a diamond solitaire so I send him pictures and hints of where to get my ring. When he proposed, it selected my favorite of those I sent and it was the perfect size because we had sized my fingers as well. It wasn't an expensive ring, but it was what I'd want to wear for years to come and you should feel that way too when you look down at your fingers.

Combay, I showed him the ring and we've talked about it. He knows I want another

Guys don't get hints. Be direct but nice. I agree with Mrs. S.. I know we aren't doing anything on Sunday, let's go find my ring Promise him dinner and control over the TV for the night

I posted my comment before reading all the others and I'm sensing that this ring is more important to you than you think. Let your FH know how important it is to you and clarify that it's not necessarily about the cost of the ring but that this is the one piece of jewelry you will wear for the rest of your life and you want it to be something you really like. Maybe also mention that you would like to get the current ring fixed and use it as your wedding band because it is special because he gave it to you. Tell him that you feel bad because you don't want him to think you are being materialistic, but that you are being honest and open and would like a different ring because it's not what you envisioned and you want your ring to be a representation of you and your relationship and you feel like the one you have now isn't doing that.

LOL Victoria, the control over remote. That's priceless, I have to add it to my list of incentives :-)

Chauncia, I understand you don't want to be pushy. Whatever happens, you will always keep this ring for it sentimental value. But at least to me, my rings have a sentimental significance. So if that's the case with you, you should probably do something. If you think it won't matter, then you can wait until after the wedding and then deal with it.

Good suggestion Victoria