Mandatory marriage counseling

We are not required to do counseling and haven't even discussed it. We will not do counseling. I'm of the mind set 'don't fix what ain't broke'.

Finally.......Totally agree Shauna!

We were required by our officiant to have 3 classes. Did we think we needed? No. Are we doing it anyway? Yes. And so far it's actually been fun reading through the book and doing the little exercises before we've even met for the first official class.

OG lol why u so upset?

And OG who exactly did I belittle?

You the one using profanity, not me! As you should continue educating yourself, duh you're an attorney. And please don't compare the need to improve my relationship to your education level. Just because I don't see it your way, do you still feel the need to convince me?

OG do you fix cars that ain't broken? Bones that ain't broken? What about glass that ain't broken, how is that ridiculous?

Well curse on lol lol. Not really concerned about the flagged post. The question is what?

is your sole purpose to keep writing back? You made your point. Don't belittle yourself to cursing because I don't agree. It's entertaining to me

Its mandatory for me personally because of mine and FH faith. If you don't feel the need for it don't do it. Its that simple. Find a officiant that doesn't require it and a venue that doesn't state ita necessary and you'll be fine.

@christy I know what she was saying

Just cause 'it ain't broke" now doesn't mean it won't 'be broke' in the future. And unless you can predict the future, insurance is a useful thing, whether it's wedding, flood, car or relationship insurance.

It's kinda like not buying insurance because nothing will ever happen to you.

Guess what? You have another flag for your collection.

Obviously, if you think this is a forum full of bullies, you've never read the posts about people with personal tragedy, people with ill pets, people in Texas...all the things they came here hoping for support and got it in every case. And people who come with genuine questions and actually consider the answers without making up their minds first.

It's far easier to post something that is not going to have 100% agreement and then start belittling the forum when you get conflicting opinions to yours.

April? No one here knows you, no one is going to your wedding, and I doubt anyone is going to know you in five years, so if you don't want to do counseling, just don't do it. No one here has any investment in that.

But many people told you it could be helpful. If you don't then find an officiant who won't *make* you do it.

Simple.

Of course there is always room to improve, but there are different ways to go about that. Some people choose counseling, others don't. Just because that's your way of doing things does not mean it needs to be everyone's way. There is no one right way to go about things as abstract and as different from couple to couple.

@christy I didn't know that, thanks for your one cent

We are not required to and have never discussed going.

There's a difference between saying an idea is (insert adjective) and saying a person is (insert adjective). I can't call you rude but I can say your idea is. Constructive criticism and differing opinions aren't always going to be sugar coated. And, do you know what a bully is?

Maybe you should step away from the computer/app and take a breather.

"Do you fix cars that ain't broken?"

No, but every 5,000 miles I get my car looked at by a professional to make sure everything's working right. If they find a small issue, I can fix it then before it blows up into a huge problem.

Which is the exact same reason people go to premarital counseling, funny enough.

No catti maybe you should step away. I've seen others post for the first time and point out the fact that people were being rude. Calling ideas stupid. I truly expected this site to be uplifting because we all have such a beautiful thing to look forward to. So many of you have went to another level. Read my initial post again. Never asked one person should I go I asked was anyone else faced with it being mandatory.

Honestly, your attitude and lack of maturity in this post convey how much you could truly benefit from counseling.

You joined the discussion and didn't answer my question......

One post and I should step away lol, when you're the one being hostile to everyone.