make up and hair, and nails who pays

You are not responsible for paying for all of your bridesmaids to have this done. When they agree to be part of the bridal party they are agreeing to pay for all of their own attire, hair, makeup nails etc.

Now if you want, I am paying for my girls hair as their gift from me.

I agree with Piggy. It is understood that when you accept a bridesmaid position that it comes with the expenses of dresses and often hair, nails, makeup, shoes, accessories, etc.. And since you are not insisting that they get them done professionally it's even less your responsibility to pay for it. But just as Piggy said, if you choose to make this (or even part of it) your gift to them that's great but definitely not mandatory.

Ditto what the other two gals said. A lot of brides I work with will pay for a "spa day" or "hair, nails, and makeup" for the BM but that is usually in lieu of any other BM gift and is solely at the Bride's discretion.

I also agree with above posters. From what I have read it is not required for the bride to pay for the hair and nails ect. I am not paying for my brides maids make up and what not but i did give them the option to do it themselves or have it done. I gave them the rules, ie: not black eye shadow (one of my brides maids always wears black eye shadow) and told them I would like their hair up but to do what ever makes them comfortable. Now I am paying for my flower girls hair because I want her hair done the same as mine!

When your brides maids agree to be in the wedding they should know that they have some financial responsibility that goes along with it!

Good Luck!!

I agree with what everyone else has said.

I am having 6 bridesmaids as well. They are all responsible for their own makeup/nails and we are all meeting at the salon the morning of the wedding where we will all have our hair done together - but they are paying for that too.

Keep in mind, you don't necessarily need your attendants to have their hair done at a spa (where it can be expensive)...they can go to your local salon to have updos done for $20-$25...(at least that's what it costs in my town).

Also, if you want (and I think someone mentioned this before), you can pay for their hair as their gift from you...

I hope everything works out! Good luck!

As long as you're giving them the option, no you are not expected to pay, but you also can't be too picky about the outcome. It sounds like your requests are reasonable, especially when one of the bridesmaids can do their hair for them. (Just a warning: I've done this for weddings I was in before, and 5 people's hair to do plus her own is a LOT)

How about buying the french manicure kit for them to do their own nails with the night before? And maybe look into a hairstylist that is less expensive to do just the girls (on their dime of course - but make it optional)

Just a tip, have the girl that is doing the hair do one girls a few days before so that she knows how long it will take. My bridesmaid is going to do everyones hair and make up and she said to allow for one hour for each girl.

I am sure everyone is capable of doing their own makeup, I mean most of wear it on a daily basis. If you all get ready at the same place (which I recommend) then you can share the same color eyeshadow, ect.

I have 8 bridesmaid and all of them are paying for their own nails and hair. I am going with professionals for our hair and tried to work around finances and went with someone middle of the road for this area ($65 per person) that still does an amazing job. As for nails I am not requiring that they have them done but the day before the wedding we are doing a spa day type thing so they all got excited about that and want too... As for make up I am having a friend and her mom who have done it professionally do it for us for free... (which was really nice)... so it really worked out.

I agree with the other posters when they say that when you agree to be in a wedding you have to realize that a financial obligation is also expected. In NO WAY are you expected to pay for these things...

This is a tricky situation.

I told my girls I wanted all of them with their hair done in updos, so I am paying for that as my gift...

I also expect all of them to look nice and have makeup on, but it was their choice as to whether they wanted the MUA to do it or not.

And as far as nails go, I am telling the girls to have bare nails or french manicures, and toes can be a pale pink or french.

Ok, I know your situation all to well. Let me first talk about weddings I have been in and then tell you what I am doing for my wedding. Hopefully it will help! Last summer, I was in three weddings (the MOH for all 3) and each wedding hair/makeup was done differently. For the first wedding, the bride payed for us all to have our hair and makeup done as her gift to use by the professionals that came to her house the morning off the wedding. In the second wedding, everyone was on their own for hair and makeup. And in the last wedding, the bride offered to us if we wanted to have our have and makeup done at the salon with her, but we would have to pay. She gave us the prices and a deadline to let her know what we wanted done. For my wedding, I am having professional hair and makeup people come to my house and they are doing my hair and makeup. I told all my bridesmaids that I wanted them to have updos and then told them what I was doing.

I gave them the prices for the services and they got back to me with what they wanted done. Not all of my bm are getting thier hair and makeup done with me, some are going to salons I suggested and others are getting just their hair and not their makeup done. I don't really care about nails and I know that nonw of my bm would have a crazy color on them. I hope this helps. You can really do whatever you want, but you should not feel pressured into paying for your bm. You can always create a list of places they could go that morning to get their hair done at a cheaper price, if the people doing yours are out of their price range.

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I agree from experience it is the bridesmaid's ultimate responsibility unless you have the budget to treat them. Let them know how much the cost would be and it's their option. Please feel free to contact me with any additional questions pertaining to hair and makeup.

I agree wqith piggy and the second poster (didnt read all of them lol). they should pay for there own stuff, unless it is part of a gift to them. idk if you got them gifts or not. i think i am payin for there hair (my moh sister is doing our hair bc she went to school for that and ya id gladly pay her). for the nails idk if i am just going to pay for them or what. i can care less bout my one bm i dont care how she gets her nails done or if she gets them done. other than that if they can afford it then yea they should pay, but if they are having trouble financially for whatever reason then yea id pay for the nails hair and stuff. but only for that reason. or maybe go halfs with them.

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I want to pay for my girls hair, but do I still need to get them a gift

I wish I would have seen this poll before do what I did. I didn't know what the protocol. Now, I am sick because of the absurd amount of money I've spent from my wedding budget before it occurred to me to check it out.


I've now ended up paying for my BM's/JBM hair/makeup, manicures, and gifts. I have 8 bridesmaids and 1 junior bridesmaid. 1 bridesmaid owns her own salon, so she offered to do everyone's hair and makeup at a discounted rate, with mine being free. Another bridesmaids is the wife of one of our officiants (close friends) who are flying in from Austin. In lieu of paying a fee for the pastor's services and flight to Kansas, I paid for their accomodations (local B &B) for the entire time they will be in town (1 week).
All in all? About $1550.
If I would have made a wiser decision, I could have saved almost $800.
😔😔😔😔
Lesson learned, I guess.