Maid of Honor wants a plus one.

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I was responding to this, below, pasted,
essentially saying you can do what you want, and not give any extras to relationships under a year. But of course, if people think that is harsh and not mannerly of you, guests get their revenge in petty ways. Like no gifts. Like Rsvp but don't come. The reason for etiquette, is a common agreement, you observe these rules ( inviting SO) and we will be polite in return. If you want to disregard usual SO rules, expect some won't respond well.Yesterday at 10:00 PMView Quoted Comment. You cannot just decide to exclude other people's SO.

Hahahaha!!!! Watch me!!! My siblings and family that are 14-20 that have not been dating for more than 1 year are NOT getting a plus one

View Quoted Comment It is not a destination wedding. Most people coming are from the area. I respectfully disagree about spending time together before the wedding. My fiance and I will be apart all wekend with the exception of the rehersal dinner. We cant do any "romantic" things you talk about because we are waiting until after marriage. And the point is to not see the bride until she walks down the isle.


And no we cannot do the bach another time because its the only time all of my girls will be in town. Im not going to reschedule everything for one person.

View Quoted Comment Gotcha... well in my situation those kids are living with my parents and subject to my parents coming as a whole family. They are invited as a FAMILY under 1 invite so i am not worried about backlash. MY SIBLINGS that are dating age have been dating over 2 years and i am inviting those people. But they tell me of kids in their church youth group and public school that have a new bf/gf every other week. So in that instance the childish dating scene would not get a plus one to my wedding... they arent that important if u get a new one every week or month

View Quoted Comment Like i just think these rules are crazy. That and i am SUPER selective of who i want at my wedding. I have had 5 siblings get married before me and my wedding will be bigger that the last 4 to have a wedding... the brother who got married first felt obligated to invite people and then on back end wished he hadnt invited ... i learn from my siblings mistakes , and i am not doing that... aunts/uncles will get invited cuz i talk to them in regular basis, but not some of their adult (not living at home) kids (cousins i dont have relationships with) so to save money i am not inviting them.. several of my other siblings didnt invite extended family at all... thats just how my family is. No invite: no gift, thats fine! Its not about gifts or money for me. I am not doing a registry to begin with ... Its about having the people i want to celebrate with there. My future husband and i am paying so its our say... he doesnt want this one guy invited that his mother would want to be there... and that may cause issues, but thats on his side.. my side doesnt really care(or hasnt in past) if they are invited or not

View Quoted Comment Well, I do not agree on SO, but otherwise we think along the same lines. Both my mom's and dad's families are large, and understand that everyone cannot be invited in ever expanding generations, til the family seats are half people you only take the time to visit personally every 5 years, though a half our drive away. Most of my sibs married folks in smaller families. But my husband's family is huge, and uncles who have 8-10 kids, those kids have 8-9 kids, it has to stop. And cutting was painful. If got easier, actually, limiting to people we regularly see for a formal wedding, and seeing the rest at summer cookouts. And allowing SO of those people we like enough to go out of our way to see. Figuring, we will see them in the future, we like that relative so much. And to find seats, cut actual family we do not see, along with the SO they would have brought. Both or neither? Neither. It os hard.

View Quoted Comment In high school, or under 18 is different. A fair number of them were that hair over 17 or 18, out of high school. we looked at the proposed # of SO, took those teens off parents invite, since functionslly adult. And did not invite them or SO. Their parents squawked. But the teens did not care. They were looking at it like a school dance, better with a date. But as happy to visit Uncle Tony some weekend, no real interest on the wedding. Teens are a special category, and teen dating.

So I have a different view on this. My FH and I moved our wedding out 1 year due to COVID. We've agreed that if someone on our guest list hasn't met one of us over the course of A YEAR, then they really don't need to attend our wedding.

Perhaps this MOH can introduce you to her SO ahead of the wedding, in which case I think it would be reasonable to invite this guest along. Even a video meeting if she's far away? If the SO has no interest in meeting you before celebrating your best day ever, then this guest doesn't need to participate in the wedding.

Significant others should always be included. They aren’t plus ones. Couples are a unit and should be treated as such, regardless of time.
Even if she wasn’t in a relationship, etiquette says that wedding party members always get to bring a guest. Therefore, this shouldn’t even be an issue. She’s the MOH, so she gets to bring whoever’s she wants. She’s in a relationship, so that person should be invited by name. I wouldn’t attend a wedding if my significant other was not allowed to attend, and I don’t know many people who would.

Just remember that after all the pressure you’ll be putting on her for all the scheduled activities you have planned, that she’s the one signing your marriage license right under your name. If she respects you enough to put up will all the tasks you’re giving her, you should respect her (and her relationship) and invite both of them as a unit.


Personally I think it is tacky and in bad taste to not invite him. Even if it’s only been 3 months. Even if she won’t get to see him much.
Also once that license is signed, it’s not her job to make sure you’re okay and happy all night. That’s your husbands job at that point, right? That’s why you’re getting married.

My MOH is single and probably still will be single when the wedding happens. My MOH has a plus one (I've even made suggestions about who to bring). However, my MOH doesn't want anyone to come as a PO and feel abandoned.

It is one thing if you don't want some guests to have POs, but your bridal party should be allowed a PO.

My fiancé and I only gave plus ones to our guests/bridal party that were in serious relationships. So only people who were married, engaged, or been together over 6 months. This meant my fiancé’s sister did not get a plus one because she is in an on again off again relationship. If you haven’t met him and they’ve only been together a few months, I’d say no.

Everyone in the wedding party should get a plus one

Typically everyone in your bridal party gets a plus one, or excepts to get a plus one. I would definitely not exclude anyone's significant other, especially if they are in the bridal party.

Ultimately it's up to you, but I wouldn't be too worried about her not doing MOH duties. Just make it clear with her what you need from her during the wedding weekend.

Usually it is expected that even if nobody else’s gets plus ones, the wedding party does. I think you should let her bring him.

View Quoted Comment You can do whatever you want, but it may be perceived as rude.