Maid of Honor wants a plus one.

Yes, give her the plus one. There are no duties she is required to perform except showing up to your wedding in the correct attire. If she has agreed to help with certain things then trust that she will do that but still give her a plus one. Especially since they are coming from out of town.

I personally think anyone in a relationship should be invited as a unit regardless of relationship length, and that it's common courtesy to give single guests plus ones.

If I were single or in a new relationship and attending or participating in a wedding out of town, I would especially want to bring my SO.

My sister is my MOH and I gave her a plus one since she was single when the invites went out -- but is now officially in a relationship. However, her boyfriend won't be attending due to travel/work logistics. Granted, I did give her a heads up that she probably wouldn't see him much before the ceremony - but only because she'd be in the getting-ready area with us for a while, taking pictures, etc. She has no other "duties."

I see where you're coming from. Does her PO know anyone else? Because you're right, she will be busy for a huge portion of the wedding day. What with getting ready, pictures, the ceremony etc. However, since they are coming out of town and she's your MOH, I would let her have one. But, maybe ask if you can meet him or have a get together with him and a couple of non-bridal party friends that will be at the wedding. This way he can get to know others so he wouldn't be as bored. With Covid it will be harder but, maybe an outing at a park or patio restaurant.

My MOH doesn't have a plus one yet. But, her personality is one where she will be so hyperfocused the whole day that if she's not dating anyone at the time she'll almost ignore her guest. Of course, she will also know the majority of the young adults there. (since many of us went to the same college and ran in the same circles). So she doesn't really want a PO but, if she got a SO, I'd extend an invite. But, it's always complicated when someone from the bridal party has a PO who doesn't know anyone. At one of my bridesmaid's wedding, my FH didn't know anyone but, he just went with the flow and talked to people around him. If her boyfriend is that type of personality, then he'll be fine. Otherwise, he'll need to meet someone who won't be spending the majority of the wedding being busy.

Let her bring them! She’ll be busy before the ceremony, but afterward she’s free to enjoy the party, which can be hard to do alone.
And traveling alone isn’t always fun.

Since she is in a relationship, her boyfriend and her should be invited as a social unit. Plus ones are only for those that are single.

Unless you have already stated no plus ones for everyone else, you need to allow it. It isn't your place to determine how serious her relationship is and she's an adult, so you can't treat her like a child whose attention you have to focus 😉

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So my bachelorette party is Friday evening into Saturday morning and flows right into my rehearsal dinner and the wedding party is all staying together the night before the wedding and then getting ready together. She will have some things to do because I dont have a wedding planner so I will need help. She will be with me for the entirety of her stay so its not like she would be alone. He doesn't know anyone at the wedding besides her and I won't get the chance to meet him before the wedding.

Our rule of thumb for inviting was if someone has been together for a year or longer, we invited them. We did this because we are on a tight budget and are unemployed due to covid so we can expand the money we have put into it already.

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Their relationship started after invitations were sent out. Even still?

I would just cause that’s maid of honor.

View Quoted Comment She must know the amount of time you are demanding of her if she is asking for him to come with her. Seems strange you are expecting her to spend the entire two days with you but she isn’t aware of this...

*she must NOT know....

They’re in a relationship, he’s not a plus one. They’re a social unit and he should absolutely be invited with her, by name. Even if she wasn’t in a relationship, who wants to travel out of town, spend hundreds of dollars and tons of time, on someone else’s wedding and not even be allowed to bring a date?

I’m allowing everyone in my bridal party to bring a plus two so their plus one isn’t lonely. Idk if it’s in your budget but that’ll give her the opportunity to complete her duties and her date won’t be alone

View Quoted Comment Yes, they are in a relationship so both of them should be invited.

View Quoted Comment So when does this start?! Cuz i feel like highschoolers shouldnt be included in this... only 21+ . younger people “date” so loosely they have a new date every week in school/youth group it seems around my area and i dint want random people at MY wedding

If they say they're in a relationship, the mature thing to do is respect that and don't judge the period they've been together. A significant other is not a plus one, it's an automatic invite.


Is the MoH aware of your plans? Most show up, wear whatever you chose and sign the marriage certificate as a legal witness. They have no duties beyond that except enjoy themselves.

So they will have been dating 6 months or more then. Most would consider it terribly rude not to , unless there were an issue with numbers for covid. Meanwhile, what great number of MOH things are there to do , outside of rehearsal, getting herself ready, and helping you with your veil, and wedding party pics, and the ceremony itself. All of that is a few hours. RD, and dinner, he would be there. That leaves a huge amount of time. I have been to a number of destination, or Inn or boutique hotel for a weekend, or resort weddings. The whole wedding party does not necessarily spend any more time together than if they live in nearby towns. They get together for big events, sometimes a little more, but there are no MOH duties.

View Quoted Comment Usual invitation time is 8 weeks. The general rule is that if they consider themselves a committed couple, not random dates, by the time invitations are being prepared 10-12 weeks out, you automatically invite them. You must have sent invitations for a Dec wedding long before usual.
Also, lots of people are serious about someone well before 21. You can marry at 18. In general every friend, or coworker may have one person with them you hardly know. And many people hardly know their new spouse's family, so they are barely acquaited at wedding time. It is quite common for a bride or groom not to know 1/3 to 1/2 of the people at their wedding. You want your family to welcome your FI, and for his family to welcome you. You cannot just decide to exclude other people's SO.

I would definitely invite him especially if she’s traveling from out of town for the wedding

View Quoted Comment . You cannot just decide to exclude other people's SO.

Hahahaha!!!! Watch me!!! My siblings and family that are 14-20 that have not been dating for more than 1 year are NOT getting a plus one!!!