Maid of Honor problems?

You can always have your BM do it. If they are able to do it, ask a relative (cousin, your mother/MIL)

Honestly, you need to talk to your MOH and express how you feel. Maybe find out what is going on to see if she is having some problems of her own. After a good chat, if she still is flaking out, consider moving her to a less important role and find others who can help. Half of my bp lives out of town so its hard for them to pitch in.

Seriously though, just talk to her, she may not realize how much it is bothering you.

Your wedding isn't till June.

Chill out.

My MOH didn't plan my bachelorette till 2mths before the wedding and it happened 1 mth before.

My other MOH and mom started planning the shower 3mths before the wedding.

Let people get through Christmas and new years then ask. If you want to help with your shower thats fine but plannign it yourself is rude. I recommend making a list of females invited to teh wedding gathering their phone numbers and adresses and giving it to your best friend and sayingI'd really like only these people invited I would really like it if you can invite them. Also I can't send invites but I can help you make them and help with food etc if you don't have the time or cash, or maybe my mom can help.

Better yet send an email to the entire wedding party including your mom, with a list of females you are inviting to the wedding and tell them to let you would like them to let you know when the shower is so you can make sure you don't make any plans.

I agree with WasSoon2BMrsSmith. Your shower doesn't need to be planned for a while. And it's a busy time of year for everyone.

If she's your best friend you should be able to talk to her about it. I wouldn't use the word confront. If you still don't want to ask your mom, aunt, sister, or someone else to plan it. You should not be planning your own shower unless you want something so particular no one else can plan it.

Alissa,

I currently have a bride who has been experiencing the same problem so I will share the same advice with you that I gave to her. You are excited, as you should be, about your approaching wedding. In fact, it is probably the primary focus of your life right now. But for those around you, including your bridal party, it is a wonderful event that is still 7 months away and even though they all love you and share in your joy, your wedding is simply not the primary focus of their individual lives this early in the planning process. I suggest that sometime in January, you ask your bridal party to join you for a casual lunch to discuss the upcoming events surrounding the wedding to make sure everyone is on the same page with the timeline, responsibilities, etc. Allow your MOH the chance to do her job before you begin micromanaging the process and doing it for her, which will surely cause hurt feelings that may carry over into the wedding day itself and long thereafter. Good Luck

Your Maid of Honor may not know what is expected of her. The same is true of the groomsmen, who too often stand around in their tuxedos chatting with your wedding guests as they arrive, not realizing they should be seating them! Familiarize yourself with wedding protocols and the responsibilities of each person you have selected for your wedding party. Work with your groom to a personal (group) letter about how special each and every one of them are to you and what you are counting on them to do. Let them know if they are uncomfortable with any responsibility, to let you know now, because other members of the wedding party can assist to make the day go smoothly. If your Maid of Honor is not a good party planner (for your bachelorette party)--someone else in your wedding party will gladly step up. If the Best Man is terrified about making the toast, he can defer to a member of the family and simply give a one-liner, leading all to lift their glasses. Good luck!

Don't expect a wedding experience the likes of a romantic wedding movie. Real bridal parties have lives outside the wedding. How elaborate a shower are you expecting that it would need to be planned 7 months in advance? Believe it or not you don't have to have a bridal shower or batchelorette. They're optional things other people can choose to throw for you. Your MOH is not responsible for doing your DIYs with you or going to meet with vendors. Those are yours and your fiance's responsibilities. It's your wedding that you chose to have. You do the planning. Accepting being in a wedding party is not the same as choosing to have the wedding.

Welcome to the club! The best thing is just to accept who she is and what she will do for the wedding... not nice, but realistic..

I agree with Julilette Weddings! I know that I've had trouble picking mine out and when I did I barely knew her at the time because we worked together, but after doing some talking with my fiance' and his family I choice who my maid of honor is, it's his sister. Though we don't do much together, but I know if I need her for anything she'd go a long ways to be there and help me. So, I wouldn't worry too much, just wait it out and see what happens after the holidays because you just may be overreacting.

You wedding party actually has no duties beyond showing up that day. Sorry. Picking them is not like staffing a corporation; they do not have 'jobs'. It would be wonderful if anyone in the bridal party actually did anything, but the reality is that many times, they don't. If you steel yourself for that possibility, anything else will feel like a bonus.

Stop planning your own shower; it's just not done. It's seven months away; it's way too early for ANYONE to be planning it.

Get through the holidays in one piece, enjoy the next couple of months.

What is it, exactly, that you thought she would do?

Thank you Juliette Weddings. Your message meant a lot to me.