Maid of Honor and Regrets

Sooo....you have three bridesmaids and you know which one you want to be your maid of honor but you don't want to pick one?

I have 6 bridesmaids and 1 MOH. My MOH is my sister and I regret it. She is the world's worst MOH. I knew that when I picked her though. I did tell her if she didn't order her dress on time she is out though. So my problem may be solved. If I didn't ask her I would of had 2 MOHs because I would not be able to decide between my 2 bffs.

I've never heard of someone having bridesmaids but not having a MOH. I think it's pretty customary for you to pick someone to be your MOH. I did not regret my choice at all. I knew way before I got engaged who my MOH was going to be and none of my other bridesmaids were offended if that's what you're worrying about.

I only have 2 girls standing with me and i told them they are ladies of honor. cus who really cares about the title except them?

Having my sister, niece and bf as bridesmaids...decision was kind of hard after my sister asked me to be her MOH, but then explained to her that after having her baby (she's getting married right after she gives birth) and planning her own wedding I didn't want to add to the stress and she was understanding. Was going to have my niece but then she enlisted into the Navy and goes for basic 3 months before the wedding and will only have a week off to be in the wedding (making it really hard for me to make sure she gets the dress and fittings right) so I asked my BF one day by surprising her at work with a bouquet of flowers, candy, a bottle of wine and a card.

Definitely have an MOH that understands your vision but will also be honest with you about what works and doesn't work and someone who you know will be the calm in your storm when it gets tough.

But you should just ask one of them so they can be your right hand person to help you with what you need.

Its just a title, nothing more. There are no rules with how you structure your bridal party, you don't have to choose a MOH if you don't want to but it sounds like you do and you also know who you have in mind so what's holding you back, what are you thinking could happen?

I have my MOH/SIL, and then three girls for my bridesmaids. You don't have to, but I think, from my experience, if a MOH is appointed they are sort of a point person. They may take lead in planning things/getting the balling rolling on stuff to do with your bridal party. If you don't have one then they should just all work together.

Bridesmaids need a leader. I've read plenty of stories of BMs not following through on things because there was no MOH to corral them and each assumed someone else was taking care of biznass.

I picked my MOH because she was the closest to me, both physically and mentally. She could actually come to things and had a fairly malleable schedule even as a single parent but she also thinks like me. I knew that if I had overlooked something or wasn't sure about something, she most likely had the same idea I did. I knew that if something was going wrong the day of or a vendor was late, she'd be able to speak up for me. I could trust what she was going to tell people, and she would shield me so I didn't get stressed.

I have 2 actually SIL and my sister. They are amazing! My BM's already knew who the MOH's would be and they all get along pretty good.

My sister is my MOH and I couldn't ask for a better MOH. She has done a great job corralling my BMs (arranging a shower and the bachelorette party) and I knew that she would get my back if needed. You can have a MOH is you want or not but for me, I knew I needed a strong MOH.

I just didn't pick a bridesmaid to be MOH...I have super best friends in the bridesmaid pool and it felt odd to choose between them. I think at this point I would have chosen my one friend mostly cause she has done lots of organizing for the wedding but doesn't have the MOH title...but they all know I love them soo much and appreciate having them in my life.

I picked one of my best friends, she hasn't known me the longest but we did live together for a while and she definitely knows how to deal with high stress Andrea the most effectively. She will know when to let me freak out for a minute or when to slap me across the face for being insane.

And really that is what I am going to need the closer it gets to the big day. My BMs are my oldest friend from elementary school and my newest friend who I went to Vegas with because there is just a special bond that forms between women who see Thunder From Downunder together lol

Are either of your BMs related to you (i.e a sister perhaps)? That might make it easier to decide and be a little less bias about it. Otherwise, go with your gut. Who do you feel you can count on to help you most with the planning process?

I love having my sister as MOH because not only is she a point person, but I can have her send out messages behalf of me because she's literally the sweetest person ever. Also MOH is usually in charge of starting discussion about shower/bachelorette- so if these things are important to you you may want to?

I only had BMs, no MOH at my first wedding. It was fine. There was no need to have a ringleader.

As of right now, I have not designated one of my two BMs as a MOH. However, I'm starting to feel like I'm going to change on this because of some things that have went on. I just don't think it's that big of a deal because they have no responsibilities other than buying their dress/shoes and showing up with a smile on.

Truthfully I don't know if I will have an MoH either. I have three girlfriends, two of which I have been MoH for and the third who has insisted that I will be her MoH when she gets married (I have known her the longest... since we were 6 yrs old) and I'm pretty sure, even if they wouldn't say it, all three want to be my MoH.... I don't know how I could pick without offending one of them. It sort of just feels easier to me to not bother with the title at all... BUT I know that can have its downsides as well. Sorry I'm not much help, lol, I'm about as unsure as you are.

I had three bridesmaids and my MOH. my moh was one of the best wedding decisions i made. she was amaaaazing. i can't say enough good things about her and how much she helped me out. i say go for the MOH!

I have two BMs. I told them to decide amongst themselves which of of them is more responsible. All they have to do is hold FHs ring and sign the paperwork. I didn't want to choose because they are both equal to me.