Maid of Honor and Bachelorette Party... Frustrated

People, but I feel like I would hurt my friends feelings. She just hasn't started planning or picked a date and I have people needing to buy plane tickets... I am very anxious and confused... Advice?

You could say to your friend, look honestly all of these suggestions are feeling overwhelming, would you mind talking with my sister and you guys deciding? Im sure I will love whatever you have planned!. and then talk to your sister and explain your wants/and trust that it will be okay! your sis knows you well so having her included in the planning will benefit you bc she will veto bad ideas.

That is a good idea I just dont want her to feel as if I don't want her to plan anything. I initially set it up so my sister would plan the bridal shower and she would plan the bachelorette party. I just don't want to offend anyone.

In life, sometimes you are going to have to offend people. However, I must say I find it odd that you call yourself a "people pleaser," but you're disregarding feedback that the passion party/bus is too spendy and not appropriate for your guests.

I would just talk to MOH and say you're overwhelmed by the options, but you'd be happy with something very simple and relaxed. How about renting a hotel suite and having a slumber party? You could do manis, cocktails and mocktails, and order in some great takeout.

I'm very modest, have a sister who is a recovery alcoholic and my MOH is my 15 y/o sister. We went to Dave & Busters so that people could drink if they want to, there's great food, and lots of games. It was so much fun. You could try to suggest things like that where it's not too expensive and is fun for everyone.

FYI: Most passion party type companies don't allow underagers to attend.

Passion Parties are fun but I don't think they should be in lieu of a bachelorette party. They are sales meetings, plain and simple. You could incorporate a lingerie shower as another option to spice it up a bit without making your girls sit through a sales pitch.

Thank you for your input on the passion parties! I wasn't really aware what a passion party was, i just thought it would be something fun to do, not a sales pitch! Thanks for the heads up! I like the idea of a lingerie, I think they have great ideas like that!

And with the bus being too spendy, it would in all reality only be $25 per person and then they'd have to pay for their dinner. Ive talked to other friends who aren't bridesmaids and they said that they would be willing to spend that for the party. I dont know maybe I am being selfish.

Yeah, a passion party is just like tupperware or candlelight or pampered chef, only with sex toys and what nots.

Just give some ideas to your MOH and let her sort it out with the other maids. You shouldn't be worrying about the logistics.

A good Passion Party rep makes it seem like a party. Yes, they want sales at the end of it, but I've been to several and never felt like I was being "hard sold" on something. (Though I suppose it would be mighty awkward if no one had any intention of purchasing)

But, I can see how potentially buying toys, paying for dinner, and chipping in on a party bus, could get pricey... I've done much similar for parties, but it depends on their finances.

I don't think you're asking "too much"... but the wallets of your girls have to be considered, and the organizing ability of whoever is planning it.