Lots of emotions, and just want to be excited

I posted a few days ago about how getting remarried with kids has its own unique emotions from learning to blend a family to feeling guilty about changing names.


Now I'm dealing with family who are usually supportive but can be judgy. So since it's both mine and my fiancés second marriage, we thought we'd tie the knot by summer and have something small. Just a no frills ceremony in a park, and host a dinner afterwards. No reception in the normal sense. No dj, no gifts even! Honestly we'd elope if it weren't for wanting to involve the kids in our nuptials and make them feel like they are becoming a family along with us becoming husband and wife. We picked a date and got the ok from the park....then waited for restaurant. They confirmed right after Christmas. We were thinking of sending or announcing through email as a save the date and then sending invites through mail by end of this month. Again, nothing crazy.
We also decided to keep it more than low key because my brother is getting married, and my dad stepmother and other siblings were not thrilled that we might steal their thunder. I had to explain to each of them that we weren't having a traditional wedding, nor would I be asking for gifts or a shower. I've had my huge wedding 10 years ago. I am almost 40, and my fiancé is 42. We have our children and don't want a big huge ridiculous wedding. My father was particularly anxious over the events leading up like the shower and etc. Also my other sister is having a baby in May and the events leading up to that needed to be considered. It kinda made me feel like noone in my family was super happy for me. My mom even said oh, I thought you two went to therapy last year. Are you sure you are making the best choice? I had to explain to her that we went as a way of learning how to do this better this time and to strengthen our relationship. We both agreed to learn how to get through past hurts from our respective divorces and how to put them to rest so we could grow. Also, why do i need to defend myself? My father even remarked on how over the summer we had a disagreement. I'm like ok everyone has disagreements and just because I asked advice from you doesn't mean we have major issues! I talked to my brother and his fiancé and they didn't even seem to mind I was thinking of July. He said he didn't think I'd have a big wedding anyway.
I was so excited to announce our date even after all the drama and come to find out my future sister in laws shower is on the same day. I had a gut feeling to reach out to her Moh before announcing it, who I don't even know on Facebook. Sure enough, her shower is scheduled that day, and my future sister in law has no idea. Her MOH and bridesmaids are hosting with her mother.
I can't possibly keep my wedding date now, especially after my family has already voiced their concerns about it impacting the events leading up to my brother's wedding. I literally was so upset all day over this. I emailed both the park manager and the restaurant management to see if I could get two weeks before or the week after. I pray I can....otherwise I'm not sure what to do. I thank you for reading....and hope you all know how much this forum helps.