Losing friends through the wedding process

Sprezz and Emily hit the nail on the head.

I think this is even worse than hiding the thread entirely. @Courtney S, you're very lucky you posted this on the weekend. If the Mon-Fri 9-5 regulars were here, I promise they would not have been so tolerant of you and this post.

Unfortunately, because the entire post was edited to provide NO information, we can't help you.

Maybe time for some self- reflection.

I was reading the post and none of it was making sense. Then I realized instead of hiding the post, you deleted your responses. Very immature. If you're going to post on this website and ask for advise, put on your big girl panties and take it like a real woman. Obviously you didn't get the responses you wanted which is not going to help resolve your issue. My suggestion, step back and look at the whole picture. Maybe you're good at losing friends because you don't know HOW to be one.

Why do people put stuff on the internet if they don't want honest opinions? It's like you've never been on the internet before

When I read what the OP put, I thought she was talking about death! WTF? This is ridiculous. Just hide the damn thread.

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This is easily the most obnoxious thing I've seen here all week. And this has been an obnoxious week.

Where is the original post?

@Adoretamm she edited it to take it out because she didn't like people's opinions

Piecing it together from the responses, it looks like the OP initially wrote that she is very good at losing friends, can't be friends with other couples during wedding planning, is laid back and casual about a lot, and she's expecting her FSIL (the MOH) to do more than show up in the dress.

What the Yes post and No posts refer to is a mystery (or more likely, passive-aggressive behavior).

This is one of those stories that immediately leaves me wishing that we could hear from the bridal party. I have a feeling that they'd put an entirely different spin on this story. I need no further proof than the OP's reaction to the responses given to her. Someone who's laid back and casual does not gather up all of their words and go running for the hills just because she can't get sympathy here (the same sympathy she can't seem to drum up in real life either).

Best guest -- you're the problem, OP.

Been busy all day with the future in-laws so haven't been able to update you all. Here's the run down of her posts. I've had some wine, so I'll do my best:

OP and Comment #1, a.k.a. "" -

FH's best friend was the BM, but they have fallen out with him and his SO. No details given. A friend, who was the co-MOH, wasn't helping the other co-MOH (who is her SIL) as much as she was supposed to, and the OP has fallen out with her too. There may have been a third falling out mentioned, but I honestly don't remember.

Redaction #1 -

So the first edit was on Comment #1 and maybe on the OP. The part where she said something along the lines of "I'm really good at losing friends" was flat out deleted after Sqwiggy called her out on it. I was 5 minutes late to this party, so didn't see that happen.

Comment #2, a.k.a. "Yes":

She wasn't getting the responses she expected, so she wrote a clarification, but didn't really give any more detail than in the OP, stating that she won't bore us with the details or something. She started out the comment with "LMFAO. Some of these comments... [blah blah the typical defensive backtracking]." She kept insisting how laid back she was. She provided an example of her laid-backness that was irrelevant (she didn't throw a fit about a BM too late ordering her dress to get the right one, so she's laid back).

Reply #2, a.k.a. "No":

Within seconds (and without prompting), she stated she changed her mind and actually did want to give the backstory to the best man issue. The BM just got married or is about to get married (can't remember). FH was in the BP, and the BM's FW asked OP (OMG, are you still with me?) to be in the BP too, even though they barely know each other. Ok... So OP agreed, I assume. BM then asks FH to "host and pay for" their couples shower. FH is busy with work, so that means the onus of planning the shower would fall on OP, who isn't even friends with these people...? But she's in their BP? Whatever. So they say no to hosting, and the guys never speak again.

Um... dubious. What guy gets mad at his best dude for not agreeing to throw his wedding shower and never speaks to him again? Something was obviously missing from this story, but that's beside the point. No one mentioned how weird that was. People did mention, however, how laid back she didn't seem, so she deleted everything.

Phew.

Thanks for the info, sprezz! Sounds like we...didn't miss much. Good lord.

@sprezz perfect recitation

Thanks sprezz for the run down!

Did anyone else read Sprezz's rundown like Tim Curry in the move Clue? You know at the end where he's explaining how everyone mudered the victims.

Blaming your BP for being assholes never goes over real well.

This is why I've gone with the following:

1. Small bridal party

2. Having only 1 MOH instead of 2. I know one of my bridesmaids kind of expected to be a MOH, but I knew it would cause drama (I love her, but I've heard her drama after being MOH in two other weddings) no, she's a BM.

3. Letting them choose their own dresses and shoes

4. Not making anyone do anything for me

5. Letting my mother plan a shower....but no one HAS to throw a bridal shower at all.

6. Not making myself the priority of anyone's life. One of my bridesmaids who has been the most help actually hardly returns my texts or requests for a meet up (not bridal related, just to hang out). She has a baby and her husband were in two major accidents in the last year. She's not ignoring me, she's busy and my wedding is not a priority and I 100% get that. You can't take that stuff personally.

Your wedding is one day. It's nice when people cooperate, but it's really not a priority for anyone but the bride and you should know that going in.