Living together before wedding

Me and my FH have lived together for over 2 years. I would highly recommend it, because you learn A LOT about someone when you live them. Like certain habits they have and what not.

I absolutely recommend living together before you get married. You learn a lot about the other person. The advice I have FH's sister when she and her boyfriend moved in together? Most days, I probably want to punch him for some reason, but at the end of the day, I still want to fall asleep next to his snoring face.

Most couples live together before getting married these days. Personally if i had waited to live with FH until we were married, i feel like I would have been super frustrated in the newlywed stage at learning to live with him and his living habits. Better to get used to it beforehand IMO.

I dated FH five years prior to moving in together. Through college he crashed at my dorm alot. That was not the same. Even when you think you know them it's a whole other side you get to see. It was a rough adjustment period for both of us as he enjoys chaos and I have ocd. Do it!!!

I am so excited to move in together officially! I personally didn't want to move in before we get married because I was fine on my own and look forward to the excitement of tying the knot and then moving in together for the first time. For me, it makes marriage more to look forward to and it will be the beginning of a strong partnership. FH and I have been together for 6 years and are graduating college soon. I know him so well and have gotten to know how he lives, I spend tons of nights at his place. I have shampoo, razors, a toothbrush, tea, and emergency clothes at his place for when I stay the night. He will do messy/broke college student things and I'll always tease him "omg your life is going to be flipped upside down when I move in with you! No more using a fitted sheet as a pillowcase!" Haha long rant has a moral to the story: if you decide not to shack up before getting married, take time to get to know each other to see how you live at home and what each other's home routines and practices are.

My FH and I have lived together for 7 years we know EVERYTHING good and bad about each other so their will be no post marital suprises here! I think everyone should live together first in my opinion and yes I know people who didn't live together first and they are still finding out stuff they do not like about each other! YIKES!

It's pretty important to make sure you are compatible for living together. It sure would suck to get married: move in, and find out you can't stand how he lives

I would highly recommend it. FH and I have lived together for almost 3 years and I'm so glad we've smoothed out all the little bumps and stuff before getting married. I feel like we're definitely more prepared and it's still exciting! I love wedding planning with him and still get excited to see him every day. We've loved it.

Like PPs have said, I highly recommend it. My FH and I have lived together the majority of our relationship and I think it worked out a lot better for us that way. We got to know each other extremely well and are going into marriage knowing exactly what we're in for.

Highly recommend. You get to deal with the awkward moments (does he leave toothpaste in the sink, or always block the door with his shoes) and learn each other. Plus, I couldn't imagine FH not being here for constant backup in wedding plans.

I definitely recommend it!

Exactly what @future H said.

I would never marry someone without living together for like 6 months at least.

Don't buy a car without test driving it.

I'm from a circle where living together before marriage is very much frowned upon, mostly for religious reasons. Plus, lots of people get married young and still haven't established a household (either on their own, or with someone else) yet. All 3 of my siblings are married, and none of them lived with their future spouse before they got married.

That being said, it was super important to me that FH and I move in together before we got married, for a couple of reasons:

1) We've been long distance nearly our entire relationship. He was working overseas for most of it, and we literally only saw each other maybe 2-4 times a year for roughly a week each time. The minute he got a job within driving distance of my job, there really wasn't any question.

2) I moved out of my parents house to go to college when I was 16, and I've been mostly living alone ever since (I'm 30). It has been a long time since I lived with anyone, and so I wanted to live together without the pressure of the wedding hanging over us.

We actually moved in together shortly before we got engaged in December. It's been mostly great to establish our new habits together as a couple, and to learn each others' little quirks (he drinks milk straight out of the carton; I always forget to turn the lights off; our 15-pound lhasa apso actually runs the house). Plus, it's a nice trial run of how you handle crisis...for example, when I spilled an entire glass of red wine on our very lovely white living room wall and was in tears, and he told me it was nice to have a Jackson Pollock knockoff in the living room.

This is really a personal decision. My husband and I chose to live together a year before marriage....and I never regretted it. I would make the same choice again. So many marriages end in divorce today....I just think it is the best way to learn if you and your sweetheart have the kind of relationship that will develop into a strong marriage. Learning to live with someone can be a delicate and complex experience....better to learn whether or not you can live together before you make that commitment. My husband and I both happened to believe strongly in marriage as a serious commitment - something we would not 'enter into lightly'. When we did marry, we knew we could live happily together - we had become close friends, as well as lovers - and neither had a moment's doubt or fear on our wedding day! And living together took Nothing away from the joy and romance of our wedding and honeymoon - trust me!! In fact - our honeymoon has yet to end - and we've been married 27 years!! Unless you have some serious moral issue with living together pre-matrimony, I would certainly encourage anyone I cared about to live together first.

I think living together before getting married is the best idea. FH and I have lived together 2 years prior to the engagemt. Personally, I strongly suggest doing so because you see another side of them. Instead of spending the night here and there or seeing them for a couple hours is a whole different ball game than actually living together and seeing each other every day. You defiantly grow more as a couple and learn to deal with things.

I think its a personal decision. But I have lived with FH for almost 4 years and it has been amazing. We both moved straight from our parents home, (dated for 18months) then bought a house together. It wasn't super hard or stressful or anything, but we did have to spend some time working out how to live together. How much food to buy each week, what nights we each cook on, who does certain jobs in the house (I'm laundry, he always ruins things!, he's anything handyman related - we work to our strengths), what does the other person do that annoys you and can you live with it ect ect.

That said, I love every minute of it. Its so nice to come home to the person you love everyday. We know everything about each other now and it only made us stronger. But I'm glad we got the teething problems out of the way 4 years ago and don't have to deal with it straight after the wedding when you just want to be focused on being a loved up couple!

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To echo almost everybody else, I couldn't imagine marrying someone without having lived with them first. I think with FH and I, it was kind of unspoken, but once we realized we were in this for the long haul was when we decided we really wanted to live together and see if we really, truly were compatible.

Living together before the wedding lets you see how compatible you are in those close quarters. Dating and living together are completely different experiences. You learn more about the other person when you are that close all the time. FH and I have been living together 2.5 years and I feel better prepared for marriage and a life together because we live together now.

We moved in together last summer after dating for 3.5 years, after graduating college and getting engaged.

I am so glad we live together. Living together lets you see any potential problems with how your partner budgets, shares household duties, handles bad days, etc. If there were red flags, I'd rather find out now than after the wedding.

Staying over on the weekends is not even a halfway decent substitute for living together. You don't have to budget together, clean/cook/do laundry together, you don't get sick of being around each other all the time... These are the things that kill relationships, you don't get that unless you live together full time. Staying 1/2 nights a week is all rainbows and sunshine and fuzzy feelings, or at least it was for us. Living together is not always like that.

I would say from my experience that it is a good thing to live together before the wedding. Me and my FH have lived together for the past five years, been together for 7 years and I agree that you do learn alot about the other person from it.