Little Sister Announces Wedding Date...One week after mine

I personally do not think that you are being petty, especially if that was the day you were suppose to have your after wedding party, seen as you are having a small wedding. I would try and talk to your sister to see if she could move the date. Good luck, I hope that it works out for you.

Wow. Did she know the date you were planning on having your party? If so, that was pretty low of her to be honest. I understand the whole "Its your day not your month or year" thing but if she knew that was the date you were planning your reception then she made a big mistake here.

I definitely don't think you're being petty. You said "my parents could attend if desired" What does that mean, exactly?

No ur not being petty at all its great ur sis got engaged and all and that u guys can share the joy in planning ur weddings together but she needs to be considerate of ur feelings as well hope it works out for ya

Wow that's super annoying. I know you already booked, but can you move your date?? You totally shouldn't have to, but if your sister is going to be like that, you might want to consider it. Sometimes your venue will use your same deposit on a different day if you stay there.

Yes, the family knew of the date of the wedding and the date of the party. I meant by "my parents could attend if desired" that the place of the wedding is about a 2 hour drive - my Mom still works and my Pop works out of state, if they couldn't make it because of work I would understand and hope that they could make it to the party a week after the wedding since the party was in our town. I didn't want my wedding to be a burden on their already chaotic schedules.

You sister is having a destination wedding, I'd say that your wedding shouldn't be considered a burden compared to that.

That was a shitty thing to do.

It sounds like you didn't really care if your family could attend your wedding in the first place. But in any case, what your sister did was messed up. You need to say something now, otherwise it won't occur to them that you actually DO care.

I would honestly continue plans for my party. If you told everyone and they already knew, it's really on them. I would simply tell my sister, "I'm sorry I have to give my regrets but I will be attending my party". I am so sorry that you have to go through this. If you need some stand in family, you just call me. I am sending huge hugs right now!!

Did she know she picked the day you were planning the party/reception?

If so, then i would have said something right away. Honestly that is rude if she knew.

It sucks that she did that, but we're people aware of your after wedding party date? If so, say something to her or to your family so you all can figure out what arrangements can be made. Maybe she'd be willing to move her date if you told her how much it bothered you.

Wow! That's a lot. I'm really sorry you're dealing with this. I hope everything works out for you.

I would definitely say something! Also, your not being petty at all, I would be so incredibly pissed if my sister did that to me! How will they know how you feel, if you don't say anything? Also, she has time to change it.... tell her nicely!

That's rude. If that were my sister I would have said "f*ck off, you are not!" And we're not even that close lol

I am really sorry too. That totally sucks. I would definitely try to talk to her ASAP and convince her to change her date especially since you already booked a place.

I cant believe you didnt say anything --- if it was my sister i woulda had a heart to heart right there asking what the hell she was thinking!!! Say something now

I think your sister is being vindictive and you should sit her down and tell her how much she hurt you. That's a harsh thing to do to your sibling especially if you knew something significant was already going on that day.

Um I totally feel your pain. My sister got engaged two weeks after me, and then was in this huge rush to try to have her wedding BEFORE mine. Thankfully it didn't work out that way, and they're now having theirs next May. But it definitely hurt our relationship, and we spent two months fighting and then a month not talking to each other because of it. She thought I was being petty, and a bitch. I thought she was rushing, and stealing my spotlight. Family members on both sides were pretty much 50/50 on it. It sucked.

I hope she changes her date.

This does suck. However, I think the best way to deal with this is to assume she's not changing her date.

Would it be possible for you to have your whole wedding (not just the ceremony) on the date you booked?