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Limiting the amount of people on rsvp

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NatHam, on December 1, 2016 at 12:38 AM

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I recently went to a wedding where the rsvp said "_____spots are reserved in your honor" do you believe that is harsh or wrong to put on a rsvp. I want to limit the people invited and I don't want some people to assume they can bring plus ones or plus 10s. I do want significant others to be invited in most cases, but you always have those people that just bring someone because they can. Will it be rude if I put how many seats I have per invite?

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Aerynne · on December 1, 2016 at 10:56 AM
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It isn't harsh - it is you inviting who you want to your wedding. Having a limit at your wedding (as long as SOs and those in relationships (by their standards, not yours) are invited and hosted properly) is totally fine.
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MNA · on December 1, 2016 at 11:44 AM
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Like pp said, this is not rude at all, and is a common practice.

Even so, ANYONE who has a SO, regardless of whether they've been together a month or years, should have their SO invited by name on the invitation. This person is not a plus one, but is a named guest.

Some people try to cut the list further by only inviting "serious relationships" however this is considered very rude, because it isn't up to the bride and groom to determine the level of commitment of a relationship. For example, DF and I were engaged at 2 weeks, even though we fully intended to wait at least a couple of years to actually get married. That was 6 years ago. At the same time, we know people who will casually date someone for six months or more, with zero intention of the relationship going any further. It didn't make us any less committed to one another being together such a short period, nor does it make the causal dating relationship any more committed, being together longer.
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