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Chrysta
Master November 2022

Letting the groom choose his attire? (turns out I’m a hypocrite lol)

Chrysta, on December 29, 2020 at 12:57 PM

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I have noticed a lot of brides choose their groom’s attire for the wedding. Prior to planning my own wedding, I thought that sounded a bit “Bridezilla”. I mean, the groom doesn’t choose the bride‘s dress, so why does she choose what he wears?? After getting engaged and beginning to plan our wedding,...
I have noticed a lot of brides choose their groom’s attire for the wedding. Prior to planning my own wedding, I thought that sounded a bit “Bridezilla”. I mean, the groom doesn’t choose the bride‘s dress, so why does she choose what he wears?? After getting engaged and beginning to plan our wedding, my fiancé asked me what I wanted him to wear for the ceremony. He was shocked when I told him that it was entirely up to him; I wanted him to choose something he liked and felt good in, and I would be surprised at the altar. Shortly after, I discovered my fiancé thought 1970s powder blue leisure suits were ”cool” 🤦🏼‍♀️ I truly thought I would be completely OK with whatever he chose to wear (I had even prepared for jeans and an old Harley shirt LOL) But never in my wildest dreams did I prepare for a powder blue leisure suit. And apparently, that is where I draw the line 😆 I didn’t tell him no, or lay down any rules for what he could or couldn’t wear... but I did have him look through wedding inspo pictures on Instagram that “just so happened” to have some really great grooms looks in them. I pointed out a couple of my favorites and mentioned how incredible he would look in them. Thank my lucky stars, he agreed!! So now he will be wearing what I would’ve chosen for him anyway, but technically he chose it for himself LOL
I’m curious, what is everyone else doing in regards to groom’s attire? Are you choosing what he wears, or allowing him to choose? Has anyone else told the groom he could wear whatever he wanted, then changed their mind when they saw what he liked?

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  • Chrysta
    Master November 2022
    Chrysta ·
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    Creating a Pinterest board for him was such a great idea! I think guys have a hard time vocalizing exactly what they’re looking for. I bet the sales people really appreciated it too- talk about making their jobs easier for them!
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  • Chrysta
    Master November 2022
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    Ohmygosh 😆😆


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  • Leonardia
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    Thanks! Now I just have to wait for the big day to see it all come together!
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  • Squeezy Bean
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    I'm happy to let my man choose his own outfit. I did say at the beginning that I would never put him in a suit, because it's not him. I want him to feel happy and comfortable, and I suggested a tuxedo t-shirt as a middle ground. He really laughed when I shared this photo:

    Letting the groom choose his attire? (turns out I’m a hypocrite lol) 1

    Batman is his favourite superhero. 😁

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    Master October 2021
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    Hahaha! This is too funny! 😂. I’m glad he ran it by you rather than “surprising” you at the alter.

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  • Future Mrs.Randolph
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    My FH does pretty well with dressing himself so I'll let him have the final say since he's the one that has to wear the tux/suit, I'll just tag along to make sure he gets the right colors at least. Smiley xd Smiley xd

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  • Meghan
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    Omg that gave me a good laugh! My fiancé wants to wear something similar to his buddy that got married a few years ago. It’s navy blue and then has maroon/gray as that underpart (dont know the name of it). I may just be picky but wasn’t a fan of that part so I told him that but I guess if he chooses to wear it it’s not the worst thing you know?


    Happy to hear your FH was open to other options!
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  • Chrysta
    Master November 2022
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    Batman is my favorite too, so I love this!! Lol I’ve seen pictures of grooms who wear a suit, then wear a Batman or Superman T-shirt under it; super cute!
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  • Chrysta
    Master November 2022
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    Oh girl, he did not run it by me. It was by luck that he happened to think aloud 😆 I truly thought I would be OK with whatever he picked out, but never in my wildest dreams did I think THAT is what he’d pick! 🤦🏼‍♀️ Like, seriously?? We don’t even have any blue in our color palette. What on earth made him think that would be a good idea? LOL
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  • Chrysta
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    After my experience, I would say tagging along is a great idea! LOL
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  • Chrysta
    Master November 2022
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    Definitely not the worst thing :-) and I’m assuming it at least fits into your color scheme?
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  • Meghan
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    Yeah we’re still deciding the bridesmaids colors. I was gonna do emerald green but he ended up not liking that color. Thankfully navy is easy to match with so may do champagne or this dusty blue. Kinda gonna leave it up to the bridesmaids (my sisters & cousins). See which one the like best on. What’s your color scheme ?
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  • Chrysta
    Master November 2022
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    Oooo I looooove emerald green in weddings! Especially moody fall or winter weddings. I’m a sucker for dark, saturated colors though. Our color palette is mostly black with golds and creams. The florals will be the only pops of color (dark, saturated jewel tones).


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  • Meghan
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    Same here! Oh that’s going to be STUNNING!
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  • Chrysta
    Master November 2022
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    Thanks so much girl, I sure hope so! We have booked our venue site unseen, so I’m relying completely on what I’m envisioning mentally
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    Master October 2021
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    Oh dear lord! 🙃
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  • Meghan
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    Ahhhh omg I give you so much credit for being able to do that!!!! I’m sure you did all the necessary research and it’ll be everything you’ve envisioned.
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  • CountryBride
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    When I think of powder blue tuxes I think of dumb and dumber damn you could have gotten him a cane and top hat you missed a good opportunity lol glad he switched his mind. My fiancé and I sat down and told each other what we liked my fiancé said choose whatever you want but he told me he doesn't like the poufy ball gown dresses, I told him I wanted him in a cowboy hat and boots he wants jeans and a vest I said okay. I am in a champange ivory mermaid

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  • K
    Savvy November 2022
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    I told him that he could wear anything--even a Viking outfit if he wants (that's his dream)--but he decided to go with a traditional tux so that the photos don't look weird lol

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