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Master November 2022

Letting the groom choose his attire? (turns out I’m a hypocrite lol)

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Chrysta, on December 29, 2020 at 12:57 PM

I have noticed a lot of brides choose their groom’s attire for the wedding. Prior to planning my own wedding, I thought that sounded a bit “Bridezilla”. I mean, the groom doesn’t choose the bride‘s dress, so why does she choose what he wears?? After getting engaged and beginning to plan our wedding, my fiancé asked me what I wanted him to wear for the ceremony. He was shocked when I told him that it was entirely up to him; I wanted him to choose something he liked and felt good in, and I would be surprised at the altar. Shortly after, I discovered my fiancé thought 1970s powder blue leisure suits were ”cool” 🤦🏼‍♀️ I truly thought I would be completely OK with whatever he chose to wear (I had even prepared for jeans and an old Harley shirt LOL) But never in my wildest dreams did I prepare for a powder blue leisure suit. And apparently, that is where I draw the line 😆 I didn’t tell him no, or lay down any rules for what he could or couldn’t wear... but I did have him look through wedding inspo pictures on Instagram that “just so happened” to have some really great grooms looks in them. I pointed out a couple of my favorites and mentioned how incredible he would look in them. Thank my lucky stars, he agreed!! So now he will be wearing what I would’ve chosen for him anyway, but technically he chose it for himself LOL
I’m curious, what is everyone else doing in regards to groom’s attire? Are you choosing what he wears, or allowing him to choose? Has anyone else told the groom he could wear whatever he wanted, then changed their mind when they saw what he liked?

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Master November 2022
Chrysta · on December 29, 2020 at 2:08 PM
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I feel like grooms used to wear white all the time, but you hardly ever see it anymore! Personally, I enjoy a groom in white. Were you on board with it?
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Cassidy · on December 29, 2020 at 2:23 PM
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It’s not what I would have picked, but I didn’t argue it. He went with a white jacket with black pants. I may have put in my 2 cents if he wanted all white.
His dad wore white, so I think that’s where the idea originated.
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Marissa · on December 29, 2020 at 2:42 PM
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Choosing the attire was actually one of my husband's requests. Even before proposing he knew he wanted to wear a kilt to his wedding. So that's what he did! And from there I was able to choose my wedding colors that matched his kilt/tartan colors. He looked so handsome and I'm so glad he wore an outfit that reflected his culture. And then I of course decided on what his groomsmen would wear, haha.
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Veronica · on December 29, 2020 at 3:36 PM
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He wanted them to look separate from the groomsmen, bride's man,ring bearer and himself. I was so mad he didn't tell his own dad not to wear black especially because I kept asking what his dad was wearing, but yet he made sure to let me know he didn't want my dad in black which is what I always envisioned my dad wearing.
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Master November 2020
Kristen · on December 29, 2020 at 4:17 PM
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Al on his own.
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Master November 2022
Chrysta · on December 29, 2020 at 4:29 PM
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Aww that’s sweet he wanted to honor his dad like that. I agree, white jacket and black pants looks sharp, but maybe not all white.
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Cassie · on December 29, 2020 at 6:01 PM
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We are doing a destination beach wedding and part of that was he wanted to be comfortable. We actually ended up buying his khaki shorts and his shirt at fleet farm. I went with to help pick things out but he ultimately decided what he was most comfortable in. I did pick out his shoes though as oddly I have been obsessed with the idea of him wearing birkenstocks so I bought those.
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Michelle · on December 29, 2020 at 6:07 PM
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Eh..he dresses better than me most of the time so I trust his judgement. Plus I would never dictate anyone else's clothes. I stand by the idea that the groom doesn't pick the bride's or bridesmaids' dresses so no reason for the bride to pick his.
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Allie · on December 29, 2020 at 8:47 PM
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This is actually pretty hilarious! My best friend and I used to always walk by this really terrible suit shop in this mall we'd go to and they ALWAYS displayed powder blue suits in their windows and we always wondered how many people truly actually would wear that. Maybe it's more than we think! Anyway....my FH is picking his own outfit, but he's having me go with him to make sure it looks good and that I approve. I told him he didn't have to do this, but he said he really wanted me to come and give my approval because he wants to make sure I'm happy with what he's wearing too. My FH however chose to wear all black with touches of our wedding colors (his tie and vest), so I didn't have to worry too much about powder blue. Luckily he likes the darker colors and at first I was really unsure about the all black, but some girls on here shared their guys in all black and I've seen it on tv and in photos and it looks REALLY nice!
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Lisa · on December 29, 2020 at 9:29 PM
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Lol, that's hilarious! Definitely would have made for some unique wedding photos.
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Devoted November 2021
Maureen · on December 29, 2020 at 10:52 PM
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I wanted him in a black tux. He said, okay and he’s excited, especially since men really only have the chance to wear one once, on your wedding! Easy peasy LOL. Happy wife, happy life!
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RaylaSan · on December 30, 2020 at 7:54 AM
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I had my fiancee choose from a gallery of a bunch of different styles him and the groomsman could wear to the wedding, and I ultimately let him choose what style he wanted the most. My fiancee is as clueless to fashion as he is to women, so he needs my help.
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Leonardia · on December 30, 2020 at 10:47 AM
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Yes and no lol. He told me what he was wanting and I created a pinterest board for him. It's what he took with him when he picked out his items. He was also pretty adamant about having something that differentiated him from the groomsmen, so his tie is a different color. The suit is a "french blue" color and he picked out a brown plaid vest...he loves brown and blue together...honestly I wasn't really about it when he first mentioned it but when I created his pinterest board I realized how nice it actually did look together. I won't see the completed look until the wedding though!
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Samantha · on December 30, 2020 at 11:08 PM
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There is a facebook group called “sir this is your wedding” and some grooms out there are just...wow. Gorgeous brides with amazing dresses and grooms with dirty jeans or coveralls and just crazy outfits. It’s prob a good idea to agree on a general look LOL
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Master November 2022
Chrysta · on December 31, 2020 at 2:05 PM
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Always love a groom in a kilt!
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Master November 2022
Chrysta · on December 31, 2020 at 2:06 PM
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Ugh. I’m so sorry. That was definitely a huge misstep on his part. I would probably be disappointed as well.
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Master November 2022
Chrysta · on December 31, 2020 at 2:07 PM
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Sounds perfect for a laid-back beach wedding!
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Master November 2022
Chrysta · on December 31, 2020 at 2:09 PM
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I said the exact same thing... until the words “powder blue leisure suit” were uttered. Then all bets were off! 😆
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Master November 2022
Chrysta · on December 31, 2020 at 2:14 PM
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LOL!! I’m sorry to say, the answer to your ponderings is my fiancé... that’s who would be insane enough to wear a powder blue suit 🤦🏼‍♀️😆
After hearing that, I had zero issues with “gently persuading” his attire decision LOL I had always envisioned him in all black, and luckily that is what he ultimately ended up choosing to wear. I think a lot of people are scared of using black in weddings because it “looks too much like a funeral” (i’ve heard this about 50 times since starting our planning LOL), but I actually think it looks sharp and timeless!
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Master November 2022
Chrysta · on December 31, 2020 at 2:15 PM
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I honestly think most guys don’t even care what they wear. That’s probably why they always ask for their brides opinions lol
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